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Angry A friend... - August 12th 2011, 08:23 PM

Hey everyone I need advice on how to deal with a friend, let's say Lisa. I've really tried my best with Lisa however it's never enough she wants more and I don't no how to give her more I've asked her she dosnt no also when she is sad and distant I ask her wats wrong she never tells me and when we fight she tells me u don't no me and u never ask if i'm ok. She tells me she Wants to commite suicide and I try to help I try talking her out of it but it seems like it's all joke she laughs about it she thinks it's funny I honestly don't think suicide is funny she has a family who cares for her there soo loving I don't understand what her problem is I've tried so hard but it never makes a difference, I'm scared that if I'm not her friend that she will do something but friends fight all the time am I a bad friend? Did I do somethig wrong?Im tired of trying I don't no wat to say to her or do for her any advice????



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Re: A friend... - August 13th 2011, 12:30 AM

Aww I am sorry hun=( For the record though, you are NOT a bad friend. Did NOTHING wrong. You have to understand, none of this is you. Its all her okay? You are trying and thats the important thing. I have a friend sort of like the friend you described. I know how it feels to feel like nothing you do is enough. Some people are just like that. Nothing will ever be enough for them. I think your friend has some other problems as well that you yourself can't help her with. I think she needs to see a professional. If you don't think asking her about it would be best, I would tell her mom. Suicide is def. not a joke and needs to be taken seriously. Tell SOMEONE please. If she is joking, you still tried to help. If she isn't, you would save 1 more person from committing suicide.


   
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Re: A friend... - August 14th 2011, 12:44 AM

I agree that the next step is to tell your friend's mom what's going on, or to at least tell a trusted adult who can intervene (ex. a school counselor). Your friend could genuinely be confused about how she's feeling, hence the reason why she's lashing out at you despite your best efforts. She could also be suffering from something like borderline personality disorder, or she could simply be an "attention hog". Whatever the case may be, suicide is NOT something that should be taken lightly, and I encourage you to get an adult involved, regardless of whether or not your friend actually intends to kill herself. If she's serious, then this is your chance to get help for her. If she's joking, then being reprimanded by an adult may be the wake-up call she needs.





   
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Re: A friend... - August 14th 2011, 08:40 AM

Thnx guys to tell u the truth I did tell her aunt which told her mom they sat down with her and had a family meeting but nothings changed, hhhh... I really wanna help but I don't no if I can it's just to much for me to Handle I have problems of my own that I need to deal with but Its always about her I don't think she's ever gonna change=/



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Re: A friend... - August 14th 2011, 03:07 PM

It sounds like me at a younger age. I had a good family who cared but I was suicidal, mostly to get attention. I think she is just desperately grasping for attention here and isn't really going to commit suicide. Perhaps she needs counseling, and you should suggest to her family to get her some. I know that might anger her, but at least she'll get the help she needs that way.
   
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Re: A friend... - August 14th 2011, 06:32 PM

Thnx u guys helped a lot I will try to talk to her parents and see what hapens from there



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