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Am I in the right? - September 27th 2011, 10:05 AM

I have an iPod touch and my mum is constantly nagging me to let her use it. When she does use it she doesn't know what she's doing, she "loses" pages all the time (I don't know what she's on about), asks me how to go on google, asks me to search for things that don't exist etc.

ALL she uses it for is Safari and to watch the occasional video and she can't do that well.

She wants one for Christmas. She asked me to buy her one, a 8GB one is 193 -____- if I spend 200 on her then I will have to spend 200 on my sister and my dad. Plus, she doesn't even know how to use it. She would be asking me every 5 seconds to turn it on or to find a page.

Now she's calling me selfish for not letting her have mine or not buying her one At least I can use the damn thing.


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Re: Am I in the right? - September 27th 2011, 12:12 PM

Hey, Kayledee.

Try explaining to her that she doesn't know how to use it well, and that she'd be asking for help, and it'd be best for her to not have one. I don't think you're being selfish at all, because you're trying to be careful with your money. She doesn't seem to be willing to learn how to use the piece of technology.
   
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Re: Am I in the right? - September 27th 2011, 01:09 PM

Maybe it's a present that you can all pitch in on. Tell her that you're not going to help her learn how to work it, becayse there are manual, and apple people who know everything there is to know about an ipod touch. I don't think you're selfish at all though. If you don't want to let her have it, then don't. I would never in a million years let mom have my I pod. So she go her own. Good luck.


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Re: Am I in the right? - September 27th 2011, 06:44 PM

I understand this all too well....

Being of your mum's generation, we don't have the same experience and ability as you guys do with all these techno electric gadgets, yet we find them irresistible and fascinating. And totally confusing. Thankfully, we have more adroit children who we can bother with truly infantile questions which show how inept we are and the extent of the techno generation gap! I recall growing up and having to reset the VCR (remember them?) after every power glitch as my folks couldn't get the '12:00' to stop blinking mindlessly!

OK, I agree that what's yours is yours, a little sharing is Ok, but there are limits to that. I think it's Ok for her to want her own. I think it's OK for her to ask for a Christmas/birthday gift. But, maybe not have you be the sole purchaser of such an expensive toy. Limits, limits, limits. You just have to be kind about them!

Make it a family gift, and make mum's instruction a family project so you're all sharing in the responsibility (burden?) of helping poor old mum out.


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Re: Am I in the right? - September 27th 2011, 09:30 PM

It seems to me like her words were sparked by a pang of jealousy, due to the fact that not only do you have an iPod, but that you know how to use it.

I think it was a very unfair comment, as 200 is a lot of money to spend on someone, even if it's your mum and you shouldn't be guilt-tripped into buying Christmas presents.

I agree with the others who suggested that it be a joint present from you and the rest of your family.


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Re: Am I in the right? - September 28th 2011, 02:16 AM

I definitely think you're in the right. That's a lot of money to spend for a present that you're not sure she'll know how to use. Another poster said that it might be something you could all pitch in on. I think that's a much better idea! Talk to your dad and sister about it. At the same time, try to be patient with her when she's using your iPod. Don't yell at her, but talk to her calmly about what you're thinking and why you're reluctant to let her use it.


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