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Awkward... - October 18th 2011, 11:20 PM

Alright, last year, I had a friend, who we'll refer to as B. B and I had been best friends since our freshman year at high school, however, a long series of events lead us to have a falling out. We made up, but I just couldn't feel fondly towards her again. I called off our friendship, but I let her know that I didn't want things to be awkward, and since we have a lot of mutual friends, I made friendly conversation when she spoke to me first, but that was really it. We haven't hung out, or talked via text, IM, etc. since.

A couple weeks ago, my school went on a 4-day trip, and she joined at the last second. She announced she was rooming with me and my friends (without consulting us), and since I'm the only one who really isn't friends with her, and because no one else said anything, I just shrugged and decided to deal with it. Needless to say, she spent a lot of time with me and my friends, though I tried to seperate myself as much as possible, and kept conversation down to a minimum.

One night we somehow ended up sharing a bed, and in the morning, I joked with her about how she was talking in her sleep. Ever since then, she seems to think we've become best friends. She's been frequently texting me, and on facebook, she's been "liking" and commenting on things. Most recently, she even tagged me in a photo as "Someone she's had a lot of memories with". I really don't want to be up front and flat-out tell her "I'm not your friend, leave me alone." However, I really don't want to lead her on, or have this continue. What should I do?


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Re: Awkward... - October 19th 2011, 03:03 AM

If you don't feel comfortable telling her outright, but you don't want to lead her on, then I wouldn't respond to anything she says on Facebook, and I'd treat her the same way you've been treating her at school (a quick greeting and short conversations). Once she realizes nothing has changed (in a few days/weeks), she'll probably back off.






   
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Re: Awkward... - October 19th 2011, 04:36 AM

I think you should tell her that things havent changed. Tell her you can be civil with her, but based on things from the past, youre just not ready to be close yet. If you dont want to say that, just do what Robin said. Act the way you have been towards her. Eventually she will get the hint that the feelings arent mutual, and that you don't really want to have a friendship with her.



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Re: Awkward... - October 23rd 2011, 03:57 PM

So. I tried to tell ignoring her as much as I could, however this girl is painfully oblivious. She tried to text me again last night, so this morning I sent her a messsage on facebook explaining that I think we're just too different to be friends anymore, and that I don't think we should interact outside of school because I'm uncomfortable with it. Her response was to defriend me on facebook. But, since the issue has been resolved, this can be closed.


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Re: Awkward... - October 23rd 2011, 04:00 PM

Ech. Sorry she took it bad! Oh well. You has me for a friend.

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