A couples Coil...

[Psychosis' Illusions]

Well I just wrote this out and my computer crashed, so i'm doing this is half the effort sorry.
Ok i've been dealing with stress from back i Apirl 2011 due to jenn and I friend being a couple and bring all the people near her into her over dramatic and depressing view on life, it has gotten to the point where jenn said something and now chantel treats her like shit, so i stepped in and now its a couples coil, where its the four of us fighting, all centered around chantel, saying we are tryign to control her relationship when the truth is she tried tell me how i should act and what i should do to jenn. I know i made matters worse when i stepped in, but i can't change that all i can do is finish this and to do this I need help, i can't really figure out how to go about this without having a all out brawl between me and Robert(the Boyfriend of chental), and honestly i dont want to fight anymore, im sick of it. any ideas of ending this with the least amount of violence would be greatly loved.

[ScreamKatesName]

You should make your story a little bit more clear, it's hard to follow. We don't know who the people in your story are, introduce them first so it's easier to give advice.

[Chris.]

I agree, this is alittle confusing to understand.

If I understand, here is the advice i will give:

I think you need to tell her that you are done fighting, and if they don't want to talk to you fine, but you are done with the BS and you just want to move on from what has happen. I think if you told her this that she may move on and everything will go well.

Again, Im not sure if I understand 100%.

Best wishes,
Chris

[Psychosis' Illusions]

OK sorry about it, and sorry i've been busy the last couple of days

Me-Braden
Jenn-My girlfriend
Robert- Chantels boyfriend
Chantel- Jenn's friend and Roberts girlfriend

Ok I've been dating Jenn for 2 years now, and for the entire 2 years I had chantel trying to tell me what I should be doing and how I should be acting around Jenn. Then about a year ago Chantel started to date Robert, and they did look like a couple of a couple of days, then Robert start to ignore her and only talk to her when it benefited him. Well this is still going on, and Jenn hates Robert because he treats her like a play thing and will only spend time with her when he wants to sleep with her.
So after biting her tongue Jenn told Chantel that she didn't like Robert and told them how she thinks the two of them aren't actually a couple. Chantel fliped out on Jenn. After when I heard about this I went to ask Chantel if she could explain to me what happened between them so I could hear both stoies. Chantel then flips out and yells at me saying I'm trying to break them out, and how I'm going into "Her personal Life". This then gets Robert mad (Who has hated my guts for years now) mad and all eager to make himself look like the good guy, so he now wants to end this in a fight. (This is where the drama overflows and makes my year into a soap opera) Now Chantel is telling all of her friend that i'm trying to end a relationship, and Jenn is trying to make chantel single so she can spend more time with her.
This now makes me flip out because she found it necessarily to go into my personal life and even try to control my relationship with Jenn. So now Chantel thinks well my grandfather died so i have all the right to become a drama queen and make a big deal about everything.

That would be the story, and the whole grandfather thing is understandable if she didn't use it for everything, and if I didn't have the same problem. So this small problem is now pasted all of the school with people taking one of two sides, making my Grad year this much more exciting......

[Chris.]

Wow, I'm sorry to hear about all this drama. I'm going to tell you what I tell alot of drama people - move on and stop the drama. Sounds simple, right? Well for most people it isn't. I recommend you stop talking to Robert (which shouldn't be hard because he hates you anyway), AND stop talking to chantel (she is the main drama queen of the situation). Keep you and Jenn to yourselves - No need to get involved with them and cause more problems. I would tell Jenn to do the same and back off of them because they are no good. Its your last year of high school. Make your high school career end with the smiles and happiness instead of the sadness and drama.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Psychosis' Illusions]

The thing is, we've been ignoring them, its just Robert likes to look like the good guy and step in, which makes things worse because we can't go a day without Chantelmaking things worse by giving the whole dramatic speach about her grandfather.

[Chris.]

Tell you tell Robert and chantel - listen, I'm done with the drama, so as far as our friendship goes, its pretty much over. So stop the bs, and grow up.

You need to make sure your voice is being heard that you BOTH are done with the drama.