Your opinion please, on the girl code.

[VoodooGirl]

If two best friends like the same guy, and the guy likes only one of them back, should neither have him?

[theawesomeman]

Ok, this is coming from a guy so it might be different from what a girl would say. I think that if that happend then the girl who the guy liked should go out with him, no matter whether her friend likes him or not. Here's why.

Guy likes girl + Girl likes guy = They should go out no matter what.
Guy dosen't like girl + Girl likes guy = They don't go out.

It dosen't matter that your friend also likes him. As long as she realizes before you and him go out, that he dosen't like her. Just let her understand that he does not like her. I hope this helps you and her.

[Chris.]

I disagree with, Jacob.

Girl code is often like Boy code. In each of these 'codes' are unwritten rules which usually include bros before hoes - which is the most famous one with the boy code.

If she is a good friend, then you will never go out with that guy just out of respect for the other person. You will date many boys (or girls) and they will come into your life and they will leave your life - but if you have a good friend, you never throw that away just for a most likely temporary situation. In both unwritten code books - its wrong and shouldn't be done to any real friend.

So to answer your question, yes they both should move on to a different guy and not get involved with that guy. Best friends are always number one!

(Please note: this is how most code rules of both the girls and boys code book is - this doesn't necessarily reflect how I feel about this situation).


Best wishes,
Chris

[Apple Orchard Ghost]

I agree with Chris. Both should just move on to someone else, otherwise the entire friendship is in jeopardy. Unless the girl that isn't liked by the boy is honestly okay with it. Though that could be awkward.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

In my mind, if George and Bob both like Jessica but Jessica only likes George as a boyfriend and date, then I see no problem with it. Bob is irrelevant in terms of that particular relationship but can still be friends with George. If Bob were to suggest that George leaves Jessica because she doesn't like both of them, then Bob is sticking his nose where it doesn't belong. In my mind, the George-Jessica and George-Bob relationships are not mutually exclusive and if Bob cannot understand that, then I say it's his problem and his view should have no bearing whatsoever for George and Jessica. In my view, if Bob is upset over it, George could give him some money, tell him to buy some booze or other drugs and be happy.

This is similar to the "code" that if Jessica and George break up, Bob should have to wait until George is "healed" before dating Jessica. To me that's nonsense because the only relevant people are Bob pursuing Jessica. If George doesn't like it or feels jealous, tough like. In my view, Bob could give him some money, tell him to go to a strip club and get a lapdance.

[Fictional]

The girl the guy likes should talk to the other girl about it before agreeing or not to date the guy. Or at least, that's what i'd do :P

[Whisperer]

I agree with Jessy. I think it depends on how the other friend feels about you dating the guy. If she is okay with it go right ahead. If it is going to ruin your friendship, think twice about who is more important. To me, it all depends on the other person's opinion rather then who likes who.

[Dez]

I agree with Jessy as well. It's probably a good idea and sit down and talk with your friend first to see if she would be okay with it first. If your friend wouldn't be okay with it, then don't go out with him because friends are definitely more important.

[Artistic Soul]

i think neither should date him. one should always place friends 1st (hence, the girl code). but that's just my opinion. x

[JollyRancher.]

In my opinion, friendship is more important than dating. Think about all the great times the two friends had, would they really want to lose that friendship? I also think that the friends should talk it out and decide between each other what is wrong and right

[msfsteven]

Umm... the guy is not an item or a pet!
Nor is this a child custody case!
Let the guy go out with who he wants to go out with (: