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Need friends - February 29th 2012, 08:51 PM

As the title says, i just need some friends! There is no one really that i can talk to at the moment and the 'friends' i do have dont seem to make the effort. I seem to be the one who has to make the friendship work, and at the moment i am inbetween changing meds and i dont think im gonna have the energy and that to be able to hold up the friendships. Im not sure what to do I need someone to be a proper friend to me...what ever that is!?
   
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Re: Need friends - February 29th 2012, 09:27 PM

Hi Gemma.

Perhaps you should consider branching outside of your current social circle. Make an active effort to attend youth clubs or activities available to you after school. There are many different activities you could take part in, dance, art workshops, martial arts, music clubs... etc. This is a great way to meet new people with similar interests to yourself.
   
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Re: Need friends - March 1st 2012, 07:22 PM

Hey there!

I recently went through a similar situation. It seemed like I was making all the effort to keep in touch with friends, and it was really beginning to take a toll on my self-esteem. In my case, I had moved about 100 miles away, and it seemed like I was "out of sight, out of mind" after that. Some people kept in touch via Facebook/texting, but most didn't. I made the mistake of sending them messages whenever I had the time, hoping they would reciprocate. What I should have realized is that, after 8 months, you need to accept the situation for what it is and let go. I don't know how much time has passed for you with these friends, but if you've been trying for months and they're just not getting it, then it may be time to accept your friendships have changed. That's not necessarily a bad thing, although it can be a very painful thing to accept.

Like the previous poster said, search for friends outside of your normal connections/circles. Take this feeling of isolation as a cue to start seeking friendships with other people. I ended up passing up some opportunities to make friends because I was too busy trying to salvage old friendships. Fortunately, I recently realized my mistake, and now I'm getting to know some wonderful people. You can do the same! Join a new club/organization and go to their events (even if you don't feel like it at times - trust me, as you make acquaintances/friends, those initial awkward feelings will go away, and your mood will improve as you start to make those connections!). Call people and see if you can hang out - you're probably already doing that with your old friends, but do it with your new friends instead! If you hit a roadblock along the way, feel free to post here, and we'll do our best to give you more specific advice. =)






   
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Re: Need friends - March 1st 2012, 08:15 PM

I've done so much to improve my friendships and make new ones. It doesnt work, at all.
   
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