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My Grandfather + Mail scams - March 13th 2012, 03:00 AM

My grandfather is a religious person who is very old fashioned. Over the past couple of years, we've been getting phone and mail scams. My grandfather used to be pretty intelligent, but that's been fading off and he's become so vulnerable into believing these mail scams that he's actually been putting money into these scams. Recently, he paid over a grand to get back over 400,000 dollars...but he hasn't received it yet and they're telling him to put in more money (but he doesn't have any). My grandmother and my dad have tried talking to him, but he refuses to believe anything. He believes that there is no corruption involved, that these are legit opportunities to make money, and that when someone disagrees with him...he just gets upset and retaliates by saying that he knows what he's doing. At this point, we don't know what to do. Help?
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Re: My Grandfather + Mail scams - March 13th 2012, 03:13 AM

Well your best bet is forcing him to not get involved in these things. Start scanning his mail before you give it to him. Go to the postal service office (or whatever office controls your mail) and have his address mail be transfered to your home, where you guys would be able to now look at his mail before giving it to him. As for his phone, I would try to get him a new phone number. Don't give him a house phone, but yet a cell phone where it is harder for advertisers to reach him. Tell him that the phone company needs him to change his phone number for certain reasons. Overall he may get mad, and even get hurtful with words, but nonetheless, as you are aware, something needs to be done - and its unfortunately up to you guys to do it.

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Re: My Grandfather + Mail scams - March 13th 2012, 03:37 AM

Brandon, one of the organs that deteriorates with advanced age is the brain and often with it, those 'Executive functions' like judgment. A lot of families deal with similar situations, and many of them do a couple of things, none of them easy.

It's probably best for his kids to take the lead here, but you all could come up with a plan and use it. So, that might involve talking with him about his behaviors and your concerns here, maybe get him to voluntarily give up the check book and/or credit cards. If that doesn't work, one of his kids could legally file for 'Power of Attorney', which would basically give that person the legal responsibility over him and the decisions that concern him, it's like the reverse of a minor child/parent relationship...including cancelling credit cards, etc. There are other, much more controlling things an elder attorney can help you with, but that all would require outside professionals examining him and basically declaring him incompetent to attend to his own needs, which might not yet be the case.

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