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Unhappy Grandma. - April 20th 2009, 07:25 PM

Grandma passed away.
She'd been suffering from dementia and Alzheimer's disease for about twelve years. She stopped recognizing me when I was still pretty young, so I never got to know her as well as I wanted to.

She was a great woman. She worked as a nurse and a bookkeeper, and raised four children. She loved nature, music, and poetry. She used to always sit at the breakfast table in the seat facing the window, because she loved to see the birds, the trees, and the sky. She used to play fifties music on the piano in the dining room. She used to read the work of obscure poets who wrote mostly about nature, hope, and love.

After she died, we stayed at Grandpa's house for a few days so he wouldn't have to be alone. He insisted he was happy that she wasn't suffering anymore, and that she was in heaven watching over all of us. But there were other times when he would stare off into space, and his eyes would fill with tears, and he would have to turn away for a minute.

While at his house, I looked at some of Grandma's books. There are inscriptions in the front of some that read "Charlotte ----, Christmas 1941" in her handwriting. She read books about science, philosophy, and literature. I never got to talk about those things with her.

She and Grandpa had been married almost 62 years when she died. Grandpa hasn't taken off his wedding ring, and I don't think he ever will.


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Re: Grandma. - April 20th 2009, 08:04 PM

Lorelei-

I am so sorry for your loss, hon. I lost a beloved grandmother when I was younger, and the experience still affects me to this day. The pain you're feeling right now will remain for a bit, but trust me when I say it dulls to a state of bittersweet remembrance, and it will get better. I'm sure you've heard all of this before, but it's important to focus on the fact that she's not suffering any more, and that she's much happier wherever she is now :]
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