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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unhappy I lost my childhood best friend - December 6th 2013, 01:36 PM

4 days ago, I've gotten the news that my childhood best friend has killed himself, and I feel really empty and hallow. Been getting loads of flashbacks and dreams, which are distracting me from my studies and career.

I broke down while working and I got sent home, because I'm unfit to work. Now I have no one left with me. It sucks being alone in a massive house, because I've been thinking about self harming again and even suicide. I don't know what to do now, or anymore.

It's too painful to get by everyday now.



   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 6th 2013, 06:06 PM

It's a natural to feel this way, they were your bestfreind. Most people do take time off, and try to grieve, and I am sure everyone would be okay with that.
Take some time to yourself it's been four days grieving takes longer than that. Try doing something you two would do together.

Remember they wouldn't want you sad, or hurting yourself, they would want to see you happy, and remembering the good times with them.
I lost a close friend a few years ago, and it's still hard sometimes.
You can get through this, and you will. They would want you to do that for them.
There are many things you can do,
Cry,
Write a letter,
Do something you use to do with them,
It's hard, but as time passes it will get easier.
I'm sorry for your loss.
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 7th 2013, 03:22 PM

Aww I am so sorry to hear that you lost your childhood best friend. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. If you ever want to talk feel free to PM/VM me.

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Feel free to PM me anytime , I love getting PM's and I love supporting people as it distracts me from my horrible thoughts.
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 9th 2013, 01:39 PM

I feel like a biggest massive failure today, I self harmed because I couldn't control my thoughts. Now I feel even more crap.
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 9th 2013, 04:47 PM

Your not a failure at all.
I know it's hard right now for you, and it will be for awhile. Do you have anyone you can talk to about the thoughts your having? It might help to get this kind of stuff out instead of keeping all your thoughts in.

I suggest maybe writing them all down, like a diary, or having someone to talk too. You do not have to do this alone, and you shouldn't. There are people out there you can talk too, such as. Myself if you ever need someone!
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 11th 2013, 07:00 AM

I opened the letter and the box of things, and there was an engagement ring inside. I feel horrible and it's all my fault that he's dead.
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 11th 2013, 03:25 PM

Dede, it is in no way, your fault. No matter what was in that box, or in that letter. You didn't know what was going on. You did not make this choice for him, he made it, and he did this. NOT YOU! He acted on this, and took his life, you had no part in it.

Do not put yourself down, not like this, not over this, not ever. It won't help you to blame yourself for his death. I know a lot of people go through a blaming stage in grieving, and sometimes it goes make it easier; but in the long run you have you realize that your not to blame for this.
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 12th 2013, 08:20 AM

Oh, dear, I'm so sorry. I know, how it is to loose a friend. But please, don't give up. Time heals, you know. I'm always here for you, just remember, you're not alone through this hard time (hug)
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 17th 2013, 03:18 PM

i know how you feel to lose your best friend
i lost mine seven months ago , he died by cancer though
never felt so shocked or empty, because everything was going and falling into the right places
but you know what? you need to keep swimming and fight till you reach the surface of the water,and break through it, keep on fighting to reach there, to be able to breathe again
if you need help, im right here <3
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 17th 2013, 07:18 PM

I'm really to hear about this I'm always here if you want to talk.






I'm here if anyone wants to talk, I'm always here. Feel free to VM or PM me
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 18th 2013, 09:12 AM

I know how it feels to lose a best friend, it's like part of you has been snatched away from you, you feel empty and so lost. But if you try to move on one day at a time, I'm sure you can do it. Letting go is the hardest part but I guess you'll get used to it! <3
When I lost my best friend like 7 months back? I swear I was convinced I can't survive but I did and so will you! you know why? because your best friend will be right up there, watching over you like always! :') he's not gone! whenever you feel empty? close your eyes and just remember him and you'll feel light and alive again. And you need to do this again and again, you need to push yourself forward! cause your best friend wouldn't want you to give up and fall down!
So now I want you to smile and just realize that he's in a much much much better place now! and he's with someone who loves him more than anyone! he's with God! may his soul rest in peace! :')

If you ever need someone to talk to, just drop me a message! <3
take care of yourself and don't think about suicide or self harm, you'll just hurt the people around you this way!
stay positive!
   
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Re: I lost my childhood best friend - December 19th 2013, 01:47 AM

I'm sorry for your lose.

We all go through those tough times. When I was 8, we had to give four of our cats away. And... I was crying over them a lot.

But, that's okay! It's okay to cry!

Take some deep breathes, and go for a walk. Calm down, and just relax.

It'll be alright. I bet your friend is looking down at you right now!

I feel your pain.
   
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