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Unhappy Birth mom - May 8th 2014, 03:36 AM

I'm adopted and my birth mom was apparently raped. Now we don't know. My mom looked up her name last week and found out she is dead. Had cancer only was 31. So my birth grandma didn't tell us about this. My birth mom died in 2012. So I have been thinking she's still alive and stuff.
I'm so lost and confused. I'm so mad at me grandma. I need help. I'm depressed as trying to stay strong.
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Re: Birth mom - May 10th 2014, 09:02 PM

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Re: Birth mom - May 13th 2014, 05:18 AM

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Its hard when someone doesn't tell you because they think it will be easier on you, because you didn't know them all that well.
She was still your birth mother, and you deserved to know.

I'm sorry for your loss.
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Re: Birth mom - May 21st 2014, 04:21 AM

I'm really sorry for your loss. Especially the fact that your grandmother never told you, you definitely did deserve to know. If you'd like, you can PM me. I don't mind listening.
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Re: Birth mom - May 21st 2014, 03:07 PM

I am sorry to hear this.Please stay strong
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Re: Birth mom - May 21st 2014, 03:46 PM

I'm sorry to hear this love, I can imagine you must be upset and confused. I would talk to your Grandma about the frustration you feel at not being told - she may have thought she was protecting you. And would you consider speaking to a counsellor about it?

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Re: Birth mom - May 21st 2014, 03:55 PM

I am so sorry to here this. I know it must be hard that your grandma did not tell you and thinking she was still alive. If you want to know why your Grandma didn't tell you if your in contact with her I would ask her. You have a right to be mad at your grandma because you did deserve to know. If you ever need to talk you can PM me anytime.

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