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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Friends (or lack of haha) - May 14th 2014, 08:50 PM

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So I've been bullied for years, im an easy target, prefect, senior prefect, anti-bullying rep and I don't ever respond.

I've always had close friends, and they all turned to drugs and smoking and I followed them for a while but I realised that I could still be friends yet not become them.

Then one of them decided to make friends with one of my bullies, and told them all about my self harming and now my whole year say horrible things, I can't even look up off the ground because even if they aren't saying anything about me, every whisper feels as if it's aimed at me.

It's turned physical too, people kick my legs and say "do you enjoy the pain attention whore"..

But hey, all my friends have gone and I'm all on my own. The thing that keeps me going is helping others. I feel like a failure, I just wish I could walk somewhere without people holding their noses, laughing, calling me a skank.

Ohhhhhhhhhh well just needed to rant haha



   
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Re: Friends (or lack of haha) - May 14th 2014, 10:30 PM

Hi Emily!

I'm sorry to hear that you've been bullied for a while. Drugs can influence some bad decisions for those who take them and your friend might have been under the influence while she decided to tell one of your bullies that. Unfortunately, people change as time goes on but not necessarily for the better either. Even if a lot of the student body says things about you, that doesn't mean that every whisper or laugh is directed at you. I know how you feel, though, and I struggled with this when I attended regular school. It sounds like those feelings and thoughts are from a lot of anxiety that you're having.

Some people are misinformed or uneducated about self-harm which leads them to make ignorant remarks like that. They can choose to educate themselves if they would like to but they will never truly understand unless they go through it themselves. You along with others here are mature for your age because of what you have gone through. It has shaped you to the amazing person that you are today! You're beautiful, and if other students in your year can't see that then that's their own fault. They must need some glasses or something! They're probably immature about themselves and if they feel as though they have to put someone down that just shows what little regard they have for everyone else. Try and walk with your head held high, look your bullies right in the eyes and show them how powerful you are.

Is there anyone you can speak to about this? A parent, teacher, or a counselor will do. Helping people is a great quality to have but remember to help yourself, too. You come first, okay?


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