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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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It's always a joke! - September 1st 2010, 12:29 AM

For reasons unknown to me, the popular kids find it so funny to act obsessive of the non-popular kids. In my classes, guess who they like to act obsessive of? I hate it. I hate them. Why do they do this to us? Why do they find it funny? There are always the kids who just make the sly comments that seem like compliments if you're half-listening. But if you are listening, you hear everything mean pushed behind the words.
What is with the horrible, mean, asshole guys now? In homeroom today, I was asked out as a joke. One kid then said that he swears to God that Blake likes me and wants me as a girlfriend. Then someone said to him "Whoa, you must be atheist then!". They said that when they knew very well that I was sitting less then five feet from them. Why do guys in my school find it funny to do this shit? This isn't the first time it's happened, and I know that I'm not the only one it's happened too.
What did I do to them to make them hate me?

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Re: It's always a joke! - September 1st 2010, 01:02 AM

I have no idea why they find it so funny but this happens in my school too. It's never really happened to me before so I can't pretend to know how you feel but I'd say either go along with it and pretend like it's not getting to you and maybe they'll leave you alone because they won't find it as funny if it's not winding you up.
Or the other option is to ignore it completely and hope that they get bored because they're not seeing a reaction out of you.

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Re: It's always a joke! - September 1st 2010, 01:19 AM

i know i'm a guy, but i thought i would offer my view, if that's alright.

first off, let me just say, you did NOT do anything to deserve the way they treat you, and the other kids they do this to. i'm really sorry you have to deal with people like that.

these guys are just assholes, plain and simple. "popular" people are, in general, rude and obnoxious (not all of them are like this, i know some cool "popular" kids). the ones that are rude and obnoxious also tend to be insecure about something in their life, and they take these insecurities out on other people.

and once you get to middle school/high school, the people they take their own crap out on are the "non-popular" kids. it is inherently stupid of them to do this, but that just happens to be the way they cope with their lives.

i know it sucks, and i know it hurts, when other people treat you this way. i dealt with it all through high school.

but it gets better. eventually, those kids are gonna grow up and realize how... asshead-y they've been. just ignore those idiots, if they can't treat their fellows with respect, they're not worth it.
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Re: It's always a joke! - September 1st 2010, 09:26 AM

Its funny how humans react to be hurt... by hurting other people by the same amount.... Thats just bullies for you, so insecure on the inside....

This is female advice prefered with good reason... I'm fairly good with male bullying, but female is a little harder for me (obvious reason)

Pity I can't experiment with girl bullies. I do with boys, because they treat me like a male victim... However girl bullies treat me as.... uh... what do they treat me as.

Anyway, i'm hypothesising here but... hrmmm maybe the same tactic would work like it did for me.

try questioning why they're bullying you, to their face. read the thread i made here, its called. "New discovery"

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Re: It's always a joke! - September 1st 2010, 11:25 PM

I can say I've been put in that situation sooo many times. And I agree it hurts alot. It makes you feel so bad about yourself.
The truth is hon, you did nothing wrong. Bullies are assholes in front of their friends. When they're alone with no friends watch how they just walk straight past you.
It shows you just how stupid it all is.

If it happens again try going sarcastic.
I know sarcasm is such a good way to come out on top in these situations.
Saying things like 'oh surre! I would just lovelovelovelove! To go out with you! I mean who wouldn't want to go out with such a big headed ass hole like you?!'
Make sure you are acting really happy and sacrcastic.
I'd only do this once though.. And make sure you make a sharp exit afterwards and don't give them time to retaliate

I can't say there's really a big difference between 'popular' and 'not popular' kids in my schooll.. We all have our groups of friends and everyone pretty much gets on.
Well mostly.
So I don't know what the social differences are like.

But a tip would be to just let it roll off of your back.
The worst thing you can do is let them see it hurts you.
It gets better.. It did for me

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Re: It's always a joke! - September 14th 2010, 08:53 AM

Sometimes guys do this as they like you, I know your thinking well if they liked me then why are they nasty to me. This is a known FACT guys are funny in the way they do things, particulary in school, He probably fancies the pants off you but at a young age that ure at he probably dert tell his friends abot this.

So been horrible to you is flirty and he is probably just doing this because he will be embarassed to come up to you and just talk and his friends might pick on him, but then if he is been cruel and horrid and just the way boys r then this means he does like you because its putting across to his friends that he dont.

I know this all sounds a little wierd but i know its true hunnie, when u grow up u will realise

Love Paris x
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