Really? Really? (this is but a rant)

[you'rebeautiful]

Okay REALLY? What the flying...? Really?
I don't get it. I don't get it at all
That kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable... it's just so cruel... no way on Earth could that girl have done anything, anything at all to warrant that kind of verbal bashing. I am absolutely aghast... I feel so ignorant; I never knew that my school had this problem. I mean I know that all schools have problems with bullying, and everyone has their drama from time to time, but I have never, through all four years of my attending this school, heard crap like that. The things that this group of kids were saying about this one girl... were horrific. And when I told them so, they didn't even care. One of my friends was a part of that group, and when I brought it up, what did I get? "I know it's awful, but I don't feel bad. I have a dirty soul, haha" Really? REALLY?
adls;fjkadfs;jkdfljfdal;.
Unacceptable.
On SO many levels.
I'm thinking about checking out the information from Queen Bees and Wannabees (has anyone read or heard of this? Mean Girls was, in a way, based off of it) and seeing if we could get a speaker to come in and do a workshop after Spring Break... it's incredibly short notice, but... seriously? Seriously? How exactly does one manage to get such absolutely egregiously deplorable bull crap to not only cross their minds but to actually exit their mouths

Ahhhhlsdfjjlas. endrant

[LostTeen011]

I know, bullying is such a cruel thing for anyone to go through. I've gone through it for several years. What I really couldn't understand is why people get enjoyment and satisfaction by crushing someone's spirit. I mean has our society really became one in which we would rather take time out of ourselves to criticize someone just for laughs and then not have any remorse for their actions?!?!?!?!?!?

[Someday]

I believe if someone is being that cruel, they're probably just very miserable themselves.

I too don't understand the thought processes behind it though.

[Xineas]

Originally Posted by you'rebeautiful

"I know it's awful, but I don't feel bad. I have a dirty soul, haha" Really? REALLY?

It's so sad... :/ Yet those comments still exist, again and again. Comments like that disgust me. They absolutely disgust me and that's one of the reasons why I dug up this post after 6 days of inactivity.

I've personally had a similar situation, although in my situation, the bully was a classmate of the victim (both were ~13 years old) and I was 17 at the time, actively involved in the 'student mentor' program at my school. I hung around with the kids and walked around the school, talking to many of them as I patrolled the hallways. I had noticed twice, that on the inner courtyard, this girl was verbally and physically bullying, or at least harassing, another girl. She was a redhead, she was short and she was very shy and quiet. Prime target for a bully.

The third time I saw the bully push her around, I notified their home-class teacher. That very second. I just walked up the stairs to the teacher room and walked in. By the time the teacher and I got down the stairs, both the bully and the girl were nowhere to be found. The bully showed up in class after the break, so the home-class teacher pulled her out, the other girl went to the concierge, to mention she was feeling sick and wanted to go home. She had already called her parents by then, they were coming to pick her up, but I convinced her to come with me first. I met up with the home-class teacher and the 4 of us sat down. They both said -nothing-. Absolutely NOTHING. The girl was sobbing, the bully just sat there with her arms crossed.

The teacher asked me to take the girl out of the room for a minute, so I did. We sat down on the floor, against the wall somewhere close. The door was opened again, a minute or 10 later. The bully came out crying her eyes out, visibly upset and as I set the girl into the classroom, the bully sat down next to me, against the wall, her knees up and her head between her knees. She was still crying, so I asked her if she was okay and she shook her head no. Then I asked her if she wanted to talk about it and she shook her head no, again. 5 minutes later, the teacher asked for the both of us to come inside.

The teacher had this glimpse of a smile on her face as I sat down and she gave me a short thumbs up, before turning to the bully, who was still bawling her eyes out. The bully ended up apologizing for what she did and she semi-begged for forgiveness, the girl accepted the apology and eventually did forgive her. They actually ended up being pretty good friends that year. Parents were notified and what not, but I don't think there ever were any other consequences for the bully.


As for why the bullies bully... It's hard to tell, but there are several explanations.

First of all, bullies have problems, in whatever way that may be.

• They're bullied themselves;
• The situation at home is crap;
• They're feeling bad;
• Other people are pressuring them to do it;
• They do it for attention;
• Etc, etc.

Secondly, they want someone else to feel what they're feeling. It's a cry for attention. It's just that instead of going to someone to talk about things, they do them to someone else as a cover up. It's a way to make sure there's always someone off worse than you are and that gives a massive feeling of power over someone. Some people can't handle that power. That's when it can go downhill.

Anyways, I'm not a licensed doctor, so I can't prove any of the above, but I think those are the most obvious reasons and I'm sure many will agree. It's really a shame there aren't nationwide, even worldwide campaigns against bullying, or how to prevent bullying.

I know this is long, but I couldn't stop typing... Sorry.