what should i do???

[TakeMeHigher]

Hey, im having a little problem.
There is a rumour going around about me at school at the moment, unfortunatly it is true, i regret it and wish it had never happened and hoped it wouldnt spread but it has.

I've told a lady i know how the rumour has spread and her advice was to just say 'so what? we all do things we regret blah blah blah' , but i can't help but deny it when someone confronts me about it. she asked me a bit ago if i was getting bullied because of it and i said no, because back then i wasn't but now i think it is actually on the verge of being classed as bullying?

I basically got really drunk and did stuff with this guy which i would never of gone near if i was sober. ew it will haunt me for years to come -.-

anyways, its becoming more of a problem the more people find out. There is this one particular boy who is giving me SO much stick, everytime i see him or have to walk past him at school he will shout comments to me, and makes me feel so crap! People have told me to ignore him, but he's not getting bored!
I avoid him by all costs but there are some instances where i have to see him, i.e the other day i went to collect some books i had left in a classroom, it just so happened that he was right beside them , he literally humiliated me in front of the whole class and kept on shouting things to me as i left

I don't know what to do about him :/


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[Emy Bug]

I'm not in public school but I kindof know what your feeling. Humility and embarrasment. Like the adult said, try to ignore him. Normaly, if he sees that it doesn't bother you, he might stop. But if he doesn't, tell a trusted adult. Although you never should have gotten drunk and done stuff with that boy, you can't change the past. Now some people would say spread a rumor of the other person. But then what does that do? Revenge? It might feel good for a while, but then you might start to feel bad. You can't reverse a rumor, but you can do your best to make it stop. He might be teasing you, but that means he's probaly insicure of himself. People tend to tease, spread rumors, and bully others with a higher confedence level than themseves. He's probaly trying to make himself feel better by putting you down. I hope this helps you Message me if these didn't work

[TakeMeHigher]

thanks for the input but im still a little unclear on how to go about solving this issue.

[Maverick.]

We all make mistakes in life. I'm pretty sure you have already come into acceptance of this mistake. Finding a comfortable way to deal with the problem might be hard at first, but I'm sure you will be able to get through this. If you feel more comfortable denying the rumors, then ignore them. If you feel that it is time to face to music and come clean, be honest. Ask for forgiveness, whether or whether not that person agrees to do so, at least you have the satisfaction of telling them. You have the strength to move on. Over time, this stunt will be forgotten. Try not to get too aggressive over the rumors. If a problem arises, let some of the school officials know about it. I hope things go well for you. Stay strong.

[EndureEmo]

become a slut , easy , well thats personaly what iv seen girls at my school do (yet my school is the worst in the area). one on my close friends from primary school did stuff with a bunch of lozers and got ragged out about it, but now she pretty much got all the boys thinking about her... 24/7!

[Xineas]

Hey Lucy,

Fret not, you. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody. Even I've took some wrong turns and here I am, giving advice to others. Making a mistake does not make us a bad person, although some teens nowadays seem to be thinking so. The only bad person here is the nutter who keeps on shouting at you.

I guess I don't need to spend words on what happened between the guy and you in your fragile state and I'm sure you've learnt from it, so I won't go haunt you with how bad alcohol is and how it's just as addictive as drugs (or technically it is a drug) and how stuff like that can happen when you take a bit too much... It's why I don't drink. I don't know how my body will react to alcohol, so I prefer to not try and stay safe.

My advice: stop drinking like you did when it happened to prevent this from happening again and make the best of your life. People will forget, it's just a matter of waiting for the next person to so something. Once that happens, all attention will be shifted towards that. It's just a matter of time.

Take care,

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

For the guy saying various comments to you, he's craving attention because everyone else has moved on with it, it's old news to them and they stopped caring about it. Either this guy is desperate to get popular or as odd as it may be, he's trying to get attention from you specifically. One thing that works just about every time someone is being mean to you is do something that throws them off so much they're confused about what to do. For example, as much as you may dislike him, if he doesn't stop, pretend that you're attracted to him and make it known to him. Others are going to notice this and chances are, they'll find it funny (which you should too) and everything turns onto him. For example, you could say something such as you like how he talks dirty to you, it's really amazing and you want him to stop hiding his affection for you. He may resort to more name-calling but keep doing it and it turns from old news to new funny news. Of course, it is entirely possible he actually does like you in which case, proceed with it as how you wish. I'm not recommending to do what EndureEmo said and I'm stating that right now so you know I don't agree with her.

Telling a trusted adult is a wonderful idea if it were to actually work. The guy is calling you these names in front of others, even after others found it boring so he's not likely to be deterred from a teacher talking to him, especially given the fact he's shouted it in class. You could complain that it's been going on and is bothering you, you've tried to stop it but nothing works.

Others may be finding out but unless they're doing something similar, clearly they aren't moved by it or don't care about it. They may not act friendly to you but they may not be making such comments to you.

[Angelito]

Originally Posted by EndureEmo

become a slut , easy , well thats personaly what iv seen girls at my school do (yet my school is the worst in the area). one on my close friends from primary school did stuff with a bunch of lozers and got ragged out about it, but now she pretty much got all the boys thinking about her... 24/7!

LOL haha wow