My Teacher

[Ashes2493]

Okay this has a little of a back story but bear with me. (If this doesn't belong here please feel free to move it. Sorry, I swear a bit in this)

Last weekend I had a state competition for school, and my teacher is the coach. Our team ended up getting first in state and is now headed for nationals. Here's where the trouble comes in. I made a little mistake and said the wrong thing during the debate. I felt HORRIBLE, like I let the team down, but everyone said it was fine. I ended up fixing the problem and it was all good. Even though I messed up we still ended winning so it was fine. End of back story.

So now that the competition is over and we are back. My coach/Teacher was telling all the other teachers that she's proud of us, we did an awesome job, yada yada. Well when there was an announcement at school about how we did, she decided to tell her class (My best friend told me this) that because of me we almost didn't make it........ Then after she said that she just started bashing me! Saying that I was the slack off member of the team!! Even though on the tests I get the highest scores and I study and try so f***ing hard. Then when I talk to her she says that she's proud of me and is happy that I'm trying so hard.

After my friend told me this, I almost started crying. I mean I put my f***ing heart and soul into the team and even though I hate it, I try my hardest. I felt HORRIBLE that I messed up that little bit and I apologized profusely for it. Then she goes and says this about me! I mean if you hate me or if you want to say something bad about me at least say it to my face, don't talk about me behind my back.

Just so you know she's still doing this. Talking trash about me to her classes. Any advice to make her stop. My friends in her classes and my team members have told her not to do this and to talk to me about it but she won't stop.

[Marguerite]

I would suggest asking her why she is doing these things. Most people in this situation would a) do nothing or b) have a fit.

A is obviously not effective but neither is B. If you go to her, ask her why she is bitching behind your back, tell her to stop being an idiot... it's just going to justify everything she's already said.

You should ask to have a word in private. Ask her if she has been talking about you in class. Say that you didn't mean to make the mistake but you think it's unfair for her to do it because it's personal you and you did fix it in the end. Then ask her to stop mentioning you in class because it's upsetting you.

It might take some balls but she'll respect you for doing that (and probably feel like a moron, too).