new school and loner

[ac2]

can't fit in.i chose this school,thought the facilities are great.and yeah,they are great...until I realize I can't make any connection with the students.im a girl.not having friends will affect my life..especially high school should be the most fun moment in my life,rite?
anyway,this school is pretty expenssive compared to my family's fund.i told my mom this is the only school I like.i regret it much.now my mom's paid the school,everything,and the bus,etc.it's totally too expenssive and I can't move to other since my family can't afford it.dont be wrong,ive tried to talk to the girls,,but it doesnt work out.im confused.and depressed.probably this is the biggest mistake ive ever made. help mee..

[football94]

how long have you been at your new school? It took me about a year to get used to this school because the cultures between both high schools were so different. have you made any friends yet? maybe you should tell your mom I'm sure she will understand

[football94]

are you extroverted or introverted? I know it can be hard changing high schools, I was there very recently. But it DOES GET BETTER. If I were you don't let those girls not talking to you bother you, just talk to other girls or guys. Here is what I did to make as many friends as I could.

I joined clubs and sports which I liked
I took advantage of being put in to groups for group projects to get to know the people in my class
I did somethings that got people attention during school spirit week (funny things that someone could start a convo out of)
if you changed your hair style and someone says they like it you know that they are paying attention to you. I'm a guy but I went from a mini afro to a mohawk and I walked in and the teacher said something about it and the class all turned to me, I got a few thumbs up for that.
Go to your guidance counselor maybe they know some one who can introduce you to some people.
if you dont have a permanent seat at lunch go to a table with a vacant seat and ask if you can sit there

I hope I helped trust me...it gets better

[Storm Arainellia]

i been to new schools so many times and it takes awhile to get to know ppl im sure you will find someone soon get invovled ask to sit with someone at lunch if u just started then u have time but im sure u will find someone to be firends with just dont be picky some ppl who may look intimidating may be super nice good luck

[Sea Monkey]

Hi there,

People are generally quite shy to start off with, give it time to fit in. You'll find some awesome friends soon. Maybe you could go to a club in school or socialize with others at lunch times?

[Nostalgia]

I found it hard making friends at school too. The advice/tip that I know and I can give you is ' Just be yourself' . Go up to someone who looks friendly and say 'hi how are you' Usually asking people how they are is a good way to start a conversation. Like the other poster suggested you could join a few clubs in school ect. Maybe ask someone who looks friendly if you can join them for lunch and see what they say. Don't change who you are, Just be yourself.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Since you're one of the "new kids" at the school, you're going to be an outsider in that there are established circles of friends. You have two strategies to take. First, try to socialize with students who have been at the school longer than you have. Second, try to socialize with students who are also new to the school. In both cases, you may not know who is new and who isn't, which is fine, treat them the same. If you do know who is new, try socializing with them as they're more likely to be in your situation.

You have three other strategies of how to present yourself. First, be yourself. Second, change some things of yourself. Third, change all of yourself. The latter two are harder, I recommend being yourself as you'll find people like it when you're being true as opposed to "true". Joining a club(s) is a good idea because clubs encourage people to interact with one another, so if you're on your own, someone will interact with you. It also gives you a chance to showcase some of your skills, which can draw attention to yourself, hence, you'll get friends.

In classes, you can be more vocal and answer questions correctly, which signals to other students you're intelligent and you'll get more attention from other students. Throughout my high-school I was on the Dean's List (i.e. group of people with the highest marks). I socialized mostly with fellow students who were on the Dean's List as we tended to have common interests as well as formed our own study group for ourselves. We welcomed others as long as they showed us they have high marks and understanding, otherwise they go elsewhere.

You can find people with common interests, anything from fashion trends (i.e. hair-styles, make-up, how the uniforms are worn, etc...). You can simply eat lunch with a group of students or have others join your table.

Ultimately, it comes down to you being willing to interact. While you may feel willing on the inside, your body language and facial expressions may indicate otherwise, telling others to steer clear from you.

[Invincible]

Give it time. Just be patient and wear a smile and you are bound to meet people. If you want to have the best time of your life in high school you can make it the best time of your life with the right attitude.

Your goal is to ultimately befriend one person. Because once you're on friendly terms with one person, you can ask to sit at his lunch table. The lunch table serves as a non-threatening, inclusive way to socialize with others and build up contacts. So yes, as football94 said, take advantage of class partners and join school clubs. Make sure you're always on your toes for opportunities to talk to people.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best.