Upsetting comments

[EIL]

I'm not bullied. But people always say stuff that offends me, even if they didn't mean to, somtimes even my friends. Maybe I'm being too soft, but I've been putting up with it ever since I remember, and I'm so, so sick of being different. People say to ignor what people say about you, but that's a load of rubbish, because it's always true, whatever they are talking about, there always must be some truth in it or they wouldn't have said it.

[Incompris]

That's not true. There isn't always truth to people's comments. If they are teasing, they really aren't meaning for you to take it seriously, it's meant to be funny. If it hurts your feelings, ask them to stop.

If it's people trying to hurt you, they will make up whatever they want to make themselves feel "better." This is especially common among middle school and young high school students. They are trying to cover up for their own insecurity, don't take it seriously and don't stoop to their levels.

Try to take it all as if it's a joke, or if they really are trying to hurt you, say "Thank you!" as if they complimented you. Who you are is not defined by how others say you are.

[EIL]

People say things because I'm VERY short. And it's not always like teasing. Like, for example, I'm walking to my next lesson, and someone who I don't even know, mainly a girl in an older year, will see me and say: 'AWWWW! Look, she is soooooo small!!!' And then a bunch of people will turn and look and go 'Aaahhh!' and I feel uncomfortable.
Somthing like this will happen at least once a day, and along with the sarky comments and patronising teachers, it makes me MISERABLE.

[Incompris]

Originally Posted by EIL

People say things because I'm VERY short. And it's not always like teasing. Like, for example, I'm walking to my next lesson, and someone who I don't even know, mainly a girl in an older year, will see me and say: 'AWWWW! Look, she is soooooo small!!!' And then a bunch of people will turn and look and go 'Aaahhh!' and I feel uncomfortable.
Somthing like this will happen at least once a day, and along with the sarky comments and patronising teachers, it makes me MISERABLE.

I was 4'11" when I was 15. I know exactly where you are coming from. I was teased pretty bad for it, people would ask if I was lost and needed help, etc. Try really hard not to let it get to you, make light of it and laugh with them. There is nothing you can do about your height. Embrace it, it makes you who you are.

[Chris.]

Yeah, this happens alot in all schools. You really have 3 choices though:

1) Ignoring everyone

2) dealing with it

3) finding comebacks to defend yourself (not always reccommended)

I would just be proud of who you are; the more they see that it affects your mood and emotions, the more they will do it. But if you just keep walking and not even look at them, I think you may be shocked to see the results.

[lacylovebugg]

I remember when I hit 6th grade, all the 8th grades were like 12 feet taller than me. lol I had to look up to everyone. Oddly enough, once I hit 8th grade(and not growing even an inch) all the 6th graders were taller than me and the entire 8th grade seemed like they were shorter than what the 8th graders I first seen were. I have always been a little shorter than most people. And in a crowd, I am shorter. I get picked don here and there and I even have a manager at my work tell me I am tiny. (Please keep in mind the guy telling me this is a good 6' 7" lol) I always just tell him no he is just giant sized. Or I joke back and say I am fun-sized. You can not control what other people will think or say when they see you. All you can do is improve how you cope with it. When someone makes a comment such as "awww look she is soooo small" Joke back and tell them you are fun-sized. or maybe come up with something of you own. you can only control you. I know people say things that can hurt your feelings and not even realize it. With your friends, just tell them how you feel about it. If they truly are your friends, they will understand and will stop. My friends joke with me about being short, but I just let it blow over. I joke with them about how they have a receding hair line. So it evens out. lol If you need anything, feel free to PM me (: Hope this helped and good luck (:

[ThornedRose]

I'm tall for a girl 5'10 so I get the "omg your tall and lanky" not to mention clumsy too I would take "awww she is so small" over that but I think the grass is always greener. Don't let them get to you.

[lacylovebugg]

One other thing I forgot to add. When I stayed with my dad for a little while, I had a stepsister who was taller than me. We weighed just about the same, but me being shorter I carry my weight more. I would always get the comments of how I was "fat" and how I didn't have as nice hair as hers and so on so forth. Now I know I am not fat. And just one person saying so will not get me down. i am too opinionated for things like that to change my views. (:

[EIL]

Thanks everyone I think maybe I care too much about what people say... I do try noy to think about it!