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Asking to be made redundant due to depression? - June 7th 2012, 12:13 PM

I'm planning on asking my boss to make me redundant as I have been unhappy there for a long time now, constantly taking time off (sometimes the odd day, sometimes a whole week) and am currently signed off by my doctor die to low mood/depression.

I don't see it getting any better and I can't go on as I am. I think my only option now is to get out of there (and to give me the best possible chance in future, it'd be best if I were made redundant) It would also benefit him if I were to leave due to me being unreliable. I feel like he gave up on me a long time ago but he is not the most organised person so rarely gets around to talking to me about issues.

What do I say when I ask him if he can make me redundant? To be honest I can't think of a good enough plausible reason. I've just been unhappy for a long time and don't see it getting better while I'm there. I'm the only female there, I work alone all day, not even allowed the radio on. Everyone else who works there is 2 or 3 times my age and male. I think the lack of socialising there and the lack of organisation from my boss makes me feel alone and I suppose frustrated and irritable. I have spent many days having to compose myself so I haven't cried.

How do I explain that to my boss? He's almost 60 and definitely stuck in his ways. Very stubborn man. In the past I've even tried to get him to delegate me some more responsibility and he wasn't having it. I feel like I've come to the end of my tether.

I have tried this year to get another job in the same work area (admin) but haven't been successful even after a few interviews. I stopped applying a while back as didn't feel I had the self confidence any more to convince anyone to pick me at an interview.

I've come to the conclusion now I'd be happier with bar work than where I currently am... also would be on better money as daft as that sounds it's true!

Apologies for this being so long... hopefully you can understand why I don't feel able to work there. Do you have any advice on how to ask him to make me redundant and a good enough reason why which doesn't put the blame on him? I've worked there since the start of 2011 and has been my only admin job so can't afford to lose the reference he would hopefully still be happy to give me.

Also he does know about the low mood/depression but not that I think that is mostly due to being unhappy at work. In fact I told him a few months back work isn't the problem and that it's actually helping as it keeps my mind off other stuff (this was a true statement but work is also a problem and I didn't think I could tell him that).

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Re: Asking to be made redundant due to depression? - June 9th 2012, 12:22 AM

My advice is this: don't let your depression interfere with your opportunities.

It makes it hard to work, and work seems like a waste of time, especially if you weren't particularly happy with the job to start with, but quitting as a result is not a good idea. Firstly, you'll lose your income. Secondly, unemployed people are less likely to find work in their preferred area - people who already have jobs are more likely to get hired for other jobs.

If you're involved in the mental health system, it may be possible for you to seek the assistance of a work broker, seeing as you said you haven't had too much success on your own. Work brokers are in contact with numerous employers and are well placed to help you find a job in your preferred field as well as in your preferred locality. So if you kept the job you have now, and managed to work with a work broker, chances are in 3 - 4 months you could have a new job, and things may start to improve.

You can't be made redundant without good reason. It sounds like you want to resign but don't have the confidence at the moment to take responsibility for the decision.

You may find it good to know that if you resign on good terms with your company/manager (for example, after having discussed that you want to leave, and asked about getting a reference), the chances of you retaining a good reference are quite high. Most managerial types don't hold grudges, especially if you worked well and fulfilled your duties during your time there.
So if you could, instead of asking to be made redundant, why not have a resignation conversation with your manager? Also, resigning actually looks better on your C.V./Resume than being made redundant, because being made redundant implies that you were no longer useful in the job (even if that isn't necessarily the case), and some employers may discriminate on the basis of redundancy. With the job market as it is at the moment (generally hundreds of applications for each job), employers can discriminate on pretty much anything they want, and nobody knows the difference.

I think it's in your best interests to hold on to the job for now.
However if you feel completely unable to continue, I would resign, as opposed to asking for redundancy. Taking responsibility for your employment decisions is important.

Good luck.
   
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