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I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 19th 2014, 05:16 AM

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In a few months, my father will be moving in with his girlfriend and I will have to move out. I recently turned eighteen, so I will be graduating very soon. Although I have job experience, I am currently unemployed. I know I can get another job, but at my last job I was only getting paid eight minimum and that's not enough to live on my own with. I'm worried I will not be able to get a high enough paying job, if I have to I can live in my car but it's diffidently not preferable. I have no idea what I want to do with my life, too many classes to make up and not enough money to get into college. I take full responsibility for where I am in life, I messed up a lot in the past, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't a little scared. All of this is really getting me down, it feels like I've lost all enthusiasm and interest in living.
Any idea's on what my first move should be? Or how I can avoid being homeless?

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Re: I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 19th 2014, 02:34 PM

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I am sorry to hear this.You father doesnt have a right to make you homeless.Afterall you are his child.He cannot do this.I guess you must take a legal help.Firsty I would suggest you to talk with your father about this issue.If still he doesnt agree with you,then you can seek help from lawyer.
On other hand,you can also take loan for your studies or find a suitable job.Please stay strong and never give up no matter what happens.

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Re: I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 20th 2014, 03:29 AM

Hey thanks for the response, Ibrahim!

Unfortunately I am eighteen, so it's technically legal for my father to kick me out. I don't think there would be much I could get out of it by taking it to court. Still I appreciate the advice and encouragement, it means a lot!

   
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Re: I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 20th 2014, 04:38 AM

Is there anyone else that you can turn to? Perhaps another relative or friend? Reach out to every single person that is close to you and explain the situation. I'm sure there will be someone who will help you, if they can do so.

Alternatively, talk to a counsellor at school. They can talk to you about what resources are available to you, and offer you support. You definitely have a reason to be a little bit scared; don't worry, it's normal. At this point, though, is there much you can do? Can you try talking to your father about the situation? Perhaps you can work out a way to continue living with him? Maybe you can pay monthly rent and help out with utility money?

If that doesn't work, don't live in your car. Is there another friend that is looking to move out of the house? Getting an apartment with two bedrooms is much cheaper than getting one with only one bedroom. Reach out to those closest to you because there may be many more options than you think.

For right now, though, I'd start with this:

(1) Talk to your father and see if there is ANY way to continue to live there; i.e., offer to help with rent, utilities, etc.

(2) Talk to your school counsellor and/or teachers at school to find out what resources are available to you in this situation.

(3) Do some online research. If you live in an even remotely medium-sized city, there will be a lot of resources in place to help people in your position. Find out what they are and utilize them.

(4) Reach out to close friends and family members. Is there anywhere you can stay until you find a more permanent place to live? Is there anyone looking for a roommate that can help split the cost of rent?

I know it's scary right now, and that's okay. But, take a deep breath, and take things one step at a time. It'll be tough but everything will work out in the end.


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Re: I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 20th 2014, 11:11 AM

You are welcome

I agree with what Harvey said.You must talk with your friends or elders.Have you talked with your father about it?
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Re: I'm going to get kicked out soon - April 20th 2014, 03:57 PM

I would begin looking for a job now. I would also begin networking with friends. Sometimes there are other jobs available that will pay a bit more than minimum wage but may be very, very hard work. I know a friend who made 15 working a lot at a truck wash but it was very hard work washing semi trucks.

Start now and take any job you can. If you cannot find full-time work, then you should begin looking for multiple part time jobs.
   
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