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University move tips? - August 7th 2016, 07:01 PM

Sooo, in just 6 short weeks the time will have come for me to move to university. Day by day my excitement builds. The very idea of finally having my own independence especially. However I admit that my mind keeps wandering and I start having these silly fears. What if I mess up getting the train? What if I get there and I have no idea how to get to my Halls? What if even though I've made all these preparations I still mess up? What if I get there and nobody likes my personality? What if my age causes a social barrier? You know, those sorts of things. For the most part I'm feeling pretty good about moving because I can finally get away from home, mostly because my older brother seems to have turned into a child, especially these past few weeks and it's just not nice to have to put up with.

I've packed everything I want to take with me on the initial day and what I'll need for the first week. I've set aside some stuff that my mum's going to send me in a large box later on once I've settled into the first few days, so this stuff won't be immediate essentials that'll take up space and weight in my suitcase and bags.

My mum has spent SO much money on me lately. She's saved up loads of money just so she could do it and it was really nice for her especially since we're still in a financial bind. My biggest fear isn't so much as being able to survive on my own. I know I can do that with my eyes closed. But what is, is the fear I'll not do well in my degree and that I won't be able to do it very well. It's probably a stupid fear because I've seen and read so many first year stories form various different courses and areas around the UK saying that the first year is often the easiest but I can't help how I feel. I fear my ability to write essays will be poor. I fear that I won't have any spare time except sleeping and eating and I fear that I'll just not be very well liked by the people I'm going to be living with.

So there's that out of the way and into the open.

For those who've gone to university or have to live away from home for their education, are there any tips anyone can share? By this I mean finance tips or unusual but very effective things to buy/take with me. I'll be putting aside money for my rent right away to make sure I can definitely pay for it, and I think I'll be ok in terms of buying weekly food shops instead of daily ones because I honestly don't eat very much anyway. Some people have suggested actually withdrawing money each week rather than constantly paying for things with my card, that way I can manage my money better and that's a great idea I'll definitely be using. I'll be bringing some stuff like a headset so that I can talk to my mum via Steam (since I don't use Skype) to save on phone bills since voice chat is completely free. I've brought some things like milk and jam portions in case I want some toast or a cup of tea yet haven't established good relations with my flatmates yet since there are the occasional horror stories of thieves which I'd rather avoid. I've brought some of the lesser things like a bathmat as my room is en suite and a soap spike since we have so many bars of soap at home there's simply no point in buying any liquid stuff which will also save me money.

If anyone can chip in with some ideas that'd be great.


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Re: University move tips? - August 7th 2016, 08:27 PM

Hey Sarah!

Congratulations on getting a place at university!

Your worries are very common, believe me. As exciting as it all is, I don't think anyone leaves for university without any concerns, worries or fears. It's part of human nature to feel uncertain about something that you have never done before.

In terms of not messing up on a practical level (i.e. missing a train, not being able to find your Halls), planning is key. When I travelled down to university for the first time, I do what I do for all important days and created a word document that listed my schedule in detail (all the times that I needed to be at specific places/do certain things) and an annotated map image of the area I was going to. That way I could plot my route from the train station to the university (I get lost very easily!)

As for your social concerns, I wouldn't dwell on those if I were you. I too was 25 when I came to uni and, honestly, no one batted an eyelid. Everyone's kind of ageless here, because you're all in the same boat so to speak. Obviously, if you were 50 and everyone else was 18, that might be a bit difficult, but 25 is not very old and you'll mix with other people who are 22, 23, etc. There may even be people who are older than you. Ultimately, not everyone will be a teenager but, even if they were, you'd be fine.

You'll be meeting a wide range of people from a variety of backgrounds; some of them you'll get on with more than others. But from what I know of you, there's no reason for people not to like you. I think that particular worry is probably down to nerves and should dissipate after you've been there a few days and no one has screamed, "I hate you, Sarah!"

Can I ask what course you'll be on? Some programmes are more intensive than others and can therefore affect how much free time you'll have. But generally you should be able to relax for at least a couple of hours in the evenings, depending on what time you go to bed. Universities don't want you to have to work completely flat out because it's a well known fact that a healthy work/play balance is key to avoiding burn-out. It's in the interest of the university for you to succeed on your degree and not have to drop out because it's too much work.

Whilst we're on the subject of academic success, if you find that you struggle when writing essays, there is help available to you. At my university we have all sorts of advisors, including one who specialises in study skills and essay writing. I'm sure that there will be someone similar at your university, so you will definitely be able to improve your writing if you want to. The key is to start early; don't wait until the piece of work is nearly due in before you ask for help.

Finally, I have a few other practical tips for independent living. These include buying "colour catchers" so that you don't have to separate your clothes into different colours before washing. Our washing machines cost £2 per wash and I like to do my washing on a regular basis, so having two half full loads would just be wasteful. Another tip is to cook things that can be eaten over more than one day. This doesn't mean having exactly the same meal twice. For example, you could make up a chilli con carne mix (or similar) and then have it with rice one night, and on a jacket potato the next. It's just easier to only have to do any real cooking once instead of twice, and this will allow you more free time.

That's all I can think of for now, but I'll post again if something else springs to mind.

I hope that what I've written is of some help to you. If you have any questions or just want to chat about going to uni, feel free to get in touch!


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Re: University move tips? - August 8th 2016, 10:50 AM

Thank you very much for your response!

I suppose I just worry I won't be very well liked due to returning to college when I was 21. Most people I shared lessons with were 16-18 and although a few were friendly with me, the majority had that stereotypical 'school' attitude where it'd be like watching a game of Chinese whispers around the classroom or making jibes at my age. It didn't entirely bother me but it still wasn't very pleasant to deal with.

I'll be doing a degree in a course which involves both computer information systems and business. So kind of a mixture between working a little more in-depth with networking and computing but also have business marketing and management aspects to it as well.

Thanks again for your reply as well as your great suggestions!


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Re: University move tips? - August 8th 2016, 11:52 AM

Hi,
TBH, most uni kids don't care about your age. Source, me. I'm at uni, and age is just ignored. If you're a nice person (which i suspect you are), it'll work out great.
At classes and stuff, just talk to the person next to you, and it work out great. Meet 1-2 new people and they carry on introducing you.
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Re: University move tips? - August 8th 2016, 06:48 PM

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Thank you very much for your response!

I suppose I just worry I won't be very well liked due to returning to college when I was 21. Most people I shared lessons with were 16-18 and although a few were friendly with me, the majority had that stereotypical 'school' attitude where it'd be like watching a game of Chinese whispers around the classroom or making jibes at my age. It didn't entirely bother me but it still wasn't very pleasant to deal with.

I'll be doing a degree in a course which involves both computer information systems and business. So kind of a mixture between working a little more in-depth with networking and computing but also have business marketing and management aspects to it as well.

Thanks again for your reply as well as your great suggestions!
I had a similar experience. I tried to return to college when I was 19 but felt really out of place surrounded by 16 year-olds. (For the record I returned again at 22 and was with mature students on an Access course, which turned out great.) So I can understand you feeling concerned that your age will cause problems.

However, I have found university an entirely different experience to any of the ones I had at college. I don't know if it's because everyone's at least 18, or because they have a different mindset to people at college, but I honestly don't feel that people judge you purely on your age.

There have been times when I felt like I was a little too old to be doing certain things. But that was my perception; no one else was telling me I couldn't join in. Therefore I would not say that age was a barrier.

Ultimately, people will respond to you based on how you behave. If you want to mix with those around you, you will find a way to do so and people will be happy for you to get involved, regardless of your age. In addition to time spent in lectures, there are opportunities for socialising at various clubs and societies, as well as any times you might share with those you'll be living with. Lots of opportunities for making friends.

In summary, just try to relax. If you go there with the mindset of, "I'm so old, I don't know how to interact with young people, no one is going to want to hang out with me", you are at risk of that becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Forget about age, be yourself and take it one day at a time.

Your course sounds as though it's a standard university course, where most of your contact time is spent in lectures, so you should have enough time to do things besides sleeping and eating. If it was a programme with a hefty practical element like Nursing (or my course, Speech and Language Therapy), you could expect to have less free time because you'd have to travel to and from placements.


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Re: University move tips? - August 8th 2016, 10:06 PM

Hi there! My sister is going to uni and is having just the same worries as you so first off I would say don't panic, it's totally normal! Everyone is in the same boat as you, they aren't going to know anyone else and they'll be having exactly the same fears.

I think you have a good plan sorted in terms of taking all your stuff, just make sure you plan your journey, and there will be people on hand when you get there to help you find your way and settle in. As I said, all the first years are in the same boat and the university wouldn't let you all wander around lost on your first day, so there'll be loads of help on hand!

I think when you first start your course it will be difficult, it's a step up from everything else and the independent aspect of learning is one that won't come naturally to a lot of people, but because of the pace of work you'll get used to it quickly. The course is designed to test you, so it will be difficult but in fear of sounding horribly cliche, practise makes perfect! You just need to keep plugging away and you'll get it. There are support staff at universities to help you with any problems, so don't suffer in silence, go and talk to them if you're having difficulty with work or anything and they will give you all the help they can.

In terms of making friends, a good tip I have heard is to bring sweets or cake on the first day and offer them to people. That way you will automatically become a friendly face and it provides an opportunity to get to know people really informally. Freshers week is another really good way to meet people, especially those who have the same interests as you, and they will all be friendless too, so if they come across someone who is friendly and welcoming (especially with cake ) will quickly endear them to you. I don't think age will be an issue, people are more concerned if you are a nice person, and as far as I can tell you should have no worries there! Just don't feel lumbered down with the mindset that you are too old, because then you will start believing it. The people around you honestly won't see an issue if they are nice people, and they are the ones to make friends with!

With regards to financial advice, there are several budgeting apps you can download that will help you track how much you spend each week and keep on top of your finance. Also this book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nosh-Studen.../dp/0956746470 contains loads of recipes designed for students with no money to cook, and also includes meal planning and budgeting tips. On nights out take out only the cash you want to spend and leave credit cards/debit cards at home to stop you overspending. Also you can often download vouchers for discounts - or an NUS card is a good idea, it gets you twenty percent off in most week known shops and restaurants (but do check first some only allow it on specific days and things like that)

I hope this helped! Message me if there's anything else!

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Re: University move tips? - August 9th 2016, 01:25 AM

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Also you can often download vouchers for discounts - or an NUS card is a good idea, it gets you twenty percent off in most week known shops and restaurants (but do check first some only allow it on specific days and things like that)
Yes! I can definitely recommend an NUS Extra card.

Companies are very much aware that students often struggle financially, so do often offer discounts. You just have to be able to prove that you are a student. One of the ways is by having an NUS Extra card, but there are also websites such as Student Beans and UNiDAYS which generate discount codes and vouchers, and also inform you about any offers that companies are doing (both online and on the highstreet). I would definitely recommend signing up to those once you have access to your university email account or online learning portal (used to confirm that you are a student). The physical NUS Extra card will be delivered to your uni itself.

Wherever you are, whatever you're doing, it's always a good idea to ask whether a company offers a discount for students because not all of them make it obvious.

You'll be surprised at how much money you can save over time, and in ways that you hadn't previously considered.


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Re: University move tips? - August 9th 2016, 01:45 AM

I'm jealous. University sounds so cool. Can't wait to be able to go.


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Re: University move tips? - August 9th 2016, 11:53 AM

Thanks everyone so much for your great tips and advice! My university has suggested an NUS card as well as a 16-25 Rail Card to help save on rail trips which will definitely come in handy for me as getting to and from home is almost 2 hours one way. I'll definitely look into that recipe book! Hopefully I can hone my cooking skills beyond the ability to roast chicken and boil vegetables.


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Re: University move tips? - August 9th 2016, 09:20 PM

Glad we could help!Best of luck and let us know how it goes!


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