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Unhappy I kinda wish I was moving away for university - September 18th 2016, 10:11 AM

Hey everyone,

So I'm starting University next week. Whether to move away or stay put and continue living with family while studying is obviously a big decision that all students have to make, but without too much thought I opted to live at home and go to a local university as I live in the UK so I will be paying 27,000 for the tution fees alone across the three years I will be at university, and I decided it was best not to add to that huge debt I'll come out with by moving out and paying to live in halls if I had the option to stay at home and just pay my parents a small amount of board instead. I'm close to my parents, they respect my privacy and allow me to live my own life and make my own choices the majority of the time - so I never felt I needed to be 'free' from them like some young people do.

But now I'm kind of sad, as I feel it might not have been the right thing to do. While the cost cutting is undoubtedly a positive, I feel like I'm going to miss out on that 'uni experience.' I'm worried it'll be hard for me to make friends because I'm not on campus so I won't really be as involved in the social activities and the fun stuff. Seeing and exploring a new city, learning to be independent, experiencing living with friends and stuff. It didn't really bother me when I first considered this but now it's getting closer the reality of it is sinking in.

So my question is do any of you have any advice on still making friends and getting involved with the activities and stuff even though I'm living at home? I'm not great at making friends so it does really worry me. Did anyone here live at home for uni and have a good experience they can share with me?

Thank you all in advance

P.S I can't move into halls, at least for the first year now as there are no more spaces so changing my plans isn't realistic option at this stage.
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Re: I kinda wish I was moving away for university - September 18th 2016, 12:31 PM

You can make friends no worries. I live at home and stuff, and i have made a number of friends. When you head to your lectures, talk to the person next to you. It helps. Thats what I've done. And also, maybe talk to people during O-Week. You can make heaps of friends that way. Honestly, no one really cares about whether you live at home and stuff. When you meet some people, maybe you can like go out for dinner, or drinks, or coffee or something. Its a great way to socialise. Also, consider joining clubs and stuff. That way you meet heaps of new people.
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Re: I kinda wish I was moving away for university - September 18th 2016, 02:29 PM

Living at home is cool, I don't think that will stop you from making friends. Like aguy said, just chatting people is a really good way to start. Also join some societies and clubs things you're interested in, you'll meet some likeminded people and they always do events and stuff individually.

It might be a bit weird at first, but once you get to know people I'm sure it will get a lot easier. And I doubt you'll be the only person living at home either. So I wouldn't worry too much!

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Re: I kinda wish I was moving away for university - September 19th 2016, 12:53 AM

You will have to re-apply for student finance next year, and again you'll get the option to select a maintenance loan based on your living arrangements. If you find this year you feel like you're missing out, move into halls next year, or into a house with second years- there's always places as so many people drop out and leave their housemates looking for someone else to live with!

Personally, I lived with my now fiancee and some friends for my first year in private accommodation, and I still wonder whether I missed out on halls. But there's plentyyyy of horror stories about nightmare flatmates to put you off, and sometimes, you need your own space and home is a lot better for that than uni accom. So much of uni is bigged up as going out drinking and socialising but there's a lot more to it, and living at home shouldn't stop you making friends

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Re: I kinda wish I was moving away for university - September 20th 2016, 03:09 PM

Deciding to live at home is a brilliant choice if it is a choice you have to make. Yes,cit can have its draw backs cause I see a lot of my friends parents trying to baby them and, personally, as another adult, I don't really feel comfortable in my friends parents home; it's not like we're doing anything but adults don't generally want to have to talk to mommy and daddy. But that's just me. The same goes for dating; if your parents don't treat you like an adult who can stay out all night if you feel like it and such, then that'll be a problem. But seriously, even if your parents treat you like a kid still, jut give them a talk abut bondries and do your thing. Accumulating debt just to move out isn't worth it, especially when it doesn't dramatically affect your life. You can always move out in later years.

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