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The Ultimate Dilemma - October 12th 2016, 01:41 AM

This could also go in the disability forum, but I think it fits better here. After almost 2 years of recovering from my masters program dismissal, trying (and failing) to find a job, and trying to figure out what I could do for a career instead. I might finally have it: Medical Coding.

Now, I'm only considering going to a legitimate program/school and from what I can find it fits some of my health interests and my uniquely disabled brain perfectly. It's nearly impossible to find something that does, and even if the money isn't great, I don't need to be rich, I just need enough to survive and contribute to my student loans. One of the major issues I've found with my disability is that my interests and abilities are polar opposites. I seem to be unable to do what I want and be really good at things that I don't really love. I'm also really good at things that I know won't earn me a living wage.

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I'm afraid I'll be bored and/or hate it even if I'm good at it. And you can't really try it out without getting deep into it because of the confidential information and the training you have to have.

It's REALLY hard to get into with no experience (which is where I'm coming from)

Since I probably won't be capable of a career I would love because my brain will get me fired, I could get paid for something I"m good at and fill the rest of my time with things I love that won't make me money like writing and/or volunteering.

It bothers me that I'm this hesitant, which is why I haven't done it yet. After everything I've been through I'm afraid to do anything else out of fear that this will happen again. UGH

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Re: The Ultimate Dilemma - October 12th 2016, 02:06 AM

Hello. I'm sorry that this is stressful for you, try to relax and smile!

It's always good to try new things, and if it turns out you hate it, know that no one can ever make you keep doing something you hate, and if they try to, then screw them, they're not worth your time.

I totally understand your uncertainty though if it's something that requires a lot of training and time investment and you don't know that much about it yet. Is there a way that you could get in touch with some people who do medical coding for a living and have been through the whole training experience? Maybe you can ask questions that will help you to get a better sense of whether this is something you want to pursue. Or maybe you could talk to some of the teachers at the school(s) you are considering? Just to try to find out more before you decide to dive into it.

I have hope and faith that you are entirely capable of a career that you love! But at the same time, sometimes we all have to do what we have to do to pay the rent, so I'm glad that you do have things that you enjoy doing and could do on the side regardless of what happens with your career/work life. Definitely find time to do things that make you happy, that is really really important.

Don't know if that was helpful at all, but wishing you all the best of luck. Whatever happens, it's good to be alive

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Re: The Ultimate Dilemma - October 16th 2016, 11:40 PM

Honestly, being someone who has fallen comfortably into the "working a meh job to afford actual passions outside of work" thing.... it's very underrated. I dare say that the vast majority of people in the world are in this kind of situation, and most of them don't do so badly. Two years in the workplace has taught me an important lesson which is that the contents of the job itself is much less important compared to the people you work with (especially the people you report to), and the lifestyle that the job allows you to have - whether it's in line with what your mind and body needs, or whether you can afford what you need, etc. The latter is slightly easier to predict, the former less so, but at the same time we do see certain types of industries being more attractive to some personalities than others.

Think about the kind of lifestyle that you want to live, in which work is just a part of it. What kind of environment do you want to work in, but also live in, how much time do you want to spend at work per week and at what times of day, variation vs routine, indoors vs outdoors, a lot of socialising vs minimal.... most of these things aren't too hard to answer based on a few decades of just living with ourselves. Start with that as the foundation, and other things will follow.

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Re: The Ultimate Dilemma - October 17th 2016, 12:04 AM

Well, I have to account for the disability before anything else because I will lose any job if I don't, and it affects pretty much everything. Once I have a consistent income, I think the rest will work itself out, but if I'm doing this 8 hours a day, I'd like to know I won't absolutely hate it because then I'll be stuck in it since I'm not capable of maintaining that many jobs.

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Re: The Ultimate Dilemma - October 17th 2016, 04:28 AM


Honestly, I can relate to this quite a bit. I had a lot of dreams for myself, I wanted to become a counselor, but due to my disability (Mental health) I have had to change my goals. Now, I am just looking to get a job where I have some type of benefits and can pay bills when I am living alone.

This leaves me in a place where I'll likely have to take a job that I don't love but I can manage.

I know your disability is different and I think that if you think that medical coding would be something you could do then you should go for it. Even if you don't love it you might feel better when you have money to pay off some of your student loans and can pay for the type of lifestyle you want.

I've thought a lot about medical coding and billing and might look into it at some point. I say go for it and see what happens.

You should look and see if your local community college has a program. I know the community college I go to has a program for medical billing and coding and it's gonna end up being a lot cheaper than some of the other programs out there.

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