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College and "connections"? - July 9th 2009, 02:54 AM

So, I'm attending a college in the fall that is pretty difficult to get into-only like 20% of the applicants get in. It was my top choice of the schools that I applied to, so I was really excited when I got in. The only thing that still bothers me is that my aunt works at the school. She has nothing to do with the application process itself, and she isn't a teacher there. In fact she's barely on the campus- she is actually the director of something or other and has to ask people for grants for the school. I'm just worried that the only reason I got into the school is that my aunt works there, and I'm starting to have second doubts about myself. What if I am not smart enough to go there? And what if people find out that my aunt works there... they'll probably judge me for it. Idk, I'm just nervous. Anyone have any advice?
   
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Re: College and "connections"? - July 9th 2009, 03:08 AM

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So, I'm attending a college in the fall that is pretty difficult to get into-only like 20% of the applicants get in. It was my top choice of the schools that I applied to, so I was really excited when I got in. The only thing that still bothers me is that my aunt works at the school. She has nothing to do with the application process itself, and she isn't a teacher there. In fact she's barely on the campus- she is actually the director of something or other and has to ask people for grants for the school. I'm just worried that the only reason I got into the school is that my aunt works there, and I'm starting to have second doubts about myself. What if I am not smart enough to go there? And what if people find out that my aunt works there... they'll probably judge me for it. Idk, I'm just nervous. Anyone have any advice?
There are many, many people who have connections to colleges in one way or another. It is true that sometimes these connections can benefit one's application to a certain school, but most of the time it doesn't make a big difference. At the end of the day, a school determines whether or not to accept a student based on his/her application. Even if people find out your aunt works at the school, I doubt they will judge you. Lastly, don't let this deter you from applying to a school, because how will you know if you get in without applying?


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Re: College and "connections"? - July 10th 2009, 06:57 PM

It probably doesn't matter that much that your aunt works there. You're given a student number and you're referred to by a student number usually. But try your best and if you do succeed at the year then you know that you got in due to your wits.
   
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Re: College and "connections"? - July 11th 2009, 03:26 PM

Hey Lauren! =]

To be honest, I doubt your aunt working there had much influence on whether or not you got accepted there. The school definitely wouldn't let you in if they thought you weren't smart enough, or that you weren't capable of handling the work. Because I'm sure you are certainly able. =]

We all doubt ourselves, Lauren. College is such a big deal, and it's easy to get nervous and freak out. It's normal to be anxious about this! But the bottom line is, you were accepted, and you were accepted because of you. Do your work, and prove to yourself that you're well capable of it! Believe in yourself.

As for other students judging you, I know personally I wouldn't care at all if somebody's aunt was working at the same school, so I doubt other people will, either. And if they do, they're honestly not worth it, you know?

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Re: College and "connections"? - July 12th 2009, 02:12 PM

Hey Lauren!

Don't doubt yourself. Your aunt has nothing to do with the Admissions process, so she had nothing to do with the decision that was made. You got in because of your merit, and while someone may have mentioned it when they were making their decision, it is NOT the only factor that got you into such a prestigous school. And actually, most schools don't reveal names of students during the admissions process anyway, for that very reason. Just in case you had a sibling that went there, had parents who knew people, or who had any relatives that worked there. They want it confidential so they can admit you on merit alone.
No one will mock you for having, "Connections," because that wasn't the reason you got in. And most college kids aren't childish like that anyway.
I know a boy that only goes to my school because he's the University President's son. He's gotten busted for alcohol 3 times and hasn't been kicked out (3rd time's a charm in my school) because he's the president's son. People don't care though.

Anyway... Go to school, have fun, and enjoy your new life experiences as a college student! It's a blast!

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