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Planning College :/ - September 28th 2009, 05:34 AM

So I'm a junior in high school. I've got this year and next before I'm off to college. I realize I still have quite a bit of time left before I have to pick a college, but I've got a lot of pressure on my right now. I feel sort of trapped, like 2 things are closing in on either side of me and I'm stuck, squeezed in the middle. Everyone is saying junior year is the time to start looking at colleges, my parents are starting to get into talking about colleges with me. But yet, there are several reason I don't want to even be thinking about college yet.
I want to go to college somewhere in the northwest US (Oregon, Washington, maybe Idaho). Up until now, I have really had no idea where I want to go. When I was younger I used to think, "Oh, I could go here because this is where my dad went" or "I could go here because I took an art class here when I was younger." But there was no place I had any real desire to go. Now my boyfriend, on the other hand, knows exactly where he wants to go. It's where both of his sisters live and went to college.
And...well, I kind of want to go there. I understand that if I had had some place I wanted to go that I shouldn't let him influence me out of that, but I had no preference until now, PLUS this seems like a good college, it has a good science program which is what I want for what I want to major in, and it's in a city I really like. But it's almost like that's a taboo, to go to college with my boyfriend. If my parents knew I was thinking about going there, they definitly wouldn't be happy.
It's supposed to be my choice! Yet, I feel like my parents are making it hard for me to go where I want.
And I'm not asking for people to tell me what to do, I'm just asking for a little input on whether going to college where my boyfriend is would really be as horrible as my parents make it seem? And also, do you think I should try to not let my parents influence my decision, either, or should I listen to them?
I'm just so confused and there's so much pressure, I almost can't stand it.

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Re: Planning College :/ - September 28th 2009, 04:52 PM

Hey Caroline, college planning is fun isn't it. Anyway, the reason that going to college with your boyfriend MIGHT not be a good idea is that if you were to have problems or break up at some point you'd still be around him. Also, what college you go to is a big decision and your parents don't want you to decide based on what someone else would do, as annoying as it may seem, they only want what's best for you.

I had the opposite problem with my parents, they influenced every decision I made until it came to colleges then I was kind of left to decide for myself and I paniced. I think you should listen to them to some degree, but remember that they can't make the decision for you. If they're completely opposed to a certain school that you want to go to find out why and see if you can make them feel better about it.

Choose a school based on what you want to study, (if you know yet) and location, and price. Good luck
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Re: Planning College :/ - September 28th 2009, 09:42 PM

hi sweetie.
i didnt have a chance to read the whole thing, but just keep your chin up! be strong and be strong. your parents care, which is why theyre being so annoying. please please PLEASEEE pm me if you need to talk about ANYTHING!!
love always,
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Re: Planning College :/ - October 7th 2009, 04:17 AM

I'm totally proud of you for starting to think about your career and college now, but don't let it get you stressed. I've found Unigo.com to be a really great website for comparing schools. There is a lot of opinionated information there (college students review their college) but plenty of factual also. Search a college or university in the search box, and the site brings up a page with number of undergrads, location of school, top majors, and other stuff. You can also find average SAT or ACT scores, and a rating between 1 and 10 for things like Greek Life, Teacher Availability, Diversity as well as statistics. Collegeboard.com has a ton of factual information on colleges and careers. You can pretty much enter your criteria for your dream school and find it. Find as many possible Colleges or Universities as possible, and keep your options open. You can narrow your options down during senior year, by finances, location, and the difficulty of getting in. Do your research this year, and next year you can look for an internship in the career field you're interested in, and visit colleges. Research now, explore later! Do what you want, and ultimitely don't stress. If you're having a hard time, enroll in a yoga class or something. I was put in yoga class this year, because I need a P.E. credit, and was dreading it. I totally love it now, and it's a great way to relieve stress. Pm me, if ya like.
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