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University Acceptance, Petty Woes. - January 8th 2009, 04:52 PM

So my parents made me apply early decision (binding, you have to go) into a really good university because they didn't think I'd get in regular (but they probably would have made me go even if I got in regular).

I know why my parents made me apply to that university.. I mean uni is a lot of money in America and we're immigrants. We have money now, but the mindset is only spend money on things that are good, like an elite school, whereas an lesser name school would be a waste of money, and so I had to apply to the that one, and holy moley I was accepted with flying colors (I got a special email about my work) and now I'm good to go. For next year.

Only, I'm not. I'm worried to tears that I won't fit in, that I'll be whining about the schools I truly did want to go to, and I'll be repulsed by some of the things that Ivy League entails (rich entitled brats, snobbism, greek life) because I really wanted to go to a small, artistic, selective school, and instead, I got into the most competitive, tiny, artistic institution of a FUCKING HUMONGOUS mess in the middle of fucking nowhere. And I'm all beaming at my friends and family and telling everyone how excited I am.. damn I'm terrified. I'm terrified and I'm resentful that I didn't get to choose like my friends are. :-/

I have a back-up plan, which is to work my ass off and transfer into one of my real favorite schools (one of which is free, but accepts 35 people first year, and 10-15 transfer) but I'm just so daunted about going next year. It's like a looming dread, and I need some advice about how to come to terms with myself and my university. How did you guys calm your college dreads?


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Re: University Acceptance, Petty Woes. - January 8th 2009, 04:57 PM

Congrats! Right now, I'm only a junior, but the thought of college admissions next fall makes me nauseous.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling nervous, terrified, etc. This is the next chapter in your life and it is a scary one. However, I am sure your friends and millions of seniors across the U.S. are in the same exact boat (esp. the ones who have no clue where they will end up). I apologize that you did not get into the school you wanted to, but try to think positive about the school you will be going to. I am sure you will fit in and it will change your life in one way or another. Try not to worry too much about the future and concentrate on your last year of high school. I understand it is tough, but try and stay positive no matter what. Enter your college with a positive attitude and who knows, maybe you will fall in love with it. Give it a chance! Good luck and congrats, again!
   
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Re: University Acceptance, Petty Woes. - January 8th 2009, 05:14 PM

That makes sense.. Thanks for the congrats.

One of the things I keep telling myself are the pros of a good school, ie the chances and the connections, and I am honestly trying to throw myself into things I enjoy and the things that make me happy, and I mean, I am proud of myself.. I know I did a good thing given my... um.. not so good childhood and early adolescence but I guess I'm just not good with dealing with nervousness, esp if it's associated with things beyond my control for the time being.


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Re: University Acceptance, Petty Woes. - January 8th 2009, 05:29 PM

Okay...take this getting into said school as a growing, learning process if the worst case scenario chimes in and you are totally, utterly the class freak (which I, personally, seriously doubt you will be - but this is your fear and most fears are over-exaggerated...).
Be proud of yourself and the like...but don't chase after the unattainable "what everybody else" is feeling/thinking. Like, that you have to enjoy it to be properly soaking in the moment or whatnot.
Ultimately, as everything has been up until now, it's going to be up to you as to how you feel about all of this.
The only thing any person can ask of you any other way is that you keep an open mind. As long as you do that, all of your fears will eventually become reasonings for the next (possible) best move.
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Re: University Acceptance, Petty Woes. - January 9th 2009, 12:33 AM

I applied binding decision to my dream school. It was a school that could easily compete with the ivy leagues, without the "stinky name" attached. My dream school turned into a nightmare experience, but NOT because of the people. The people were great. All the rich, private school kids were so much more down to earth than I expected they would be. I judged them, before I knew them, and it turns out I've made some lifelong friends there. I also get a darn good education.

I say it became a nightmare, because I let it. I made poor choices and it affected my life, negatively. Life is all about what you make it, Edna. If you make it great, then it will be great. The things we are faced with in life don't dictate what we learn, from our life experiences.

Worse case scenario, you could attempt a transfer if you dislike your first year. Try to be optimistic. Things aren't always as they seem.



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