Demotivated :(

[AmazonQueen]

Ok, so yesterday I tried out MMA (Mixed Martial Arts) for the first time ever and I loved it. It was just kick boxing yesterday but still ever since I seen Never Back Down I wanted to try it out so I looked up the benifits and every single one listed is benificial in my situation and it's something I really like to do, I used to lose friends for being so aggressive now I'm not aggressive anymore but I'm still always angry...so long story short I fell in love with MMA the first time I ever tried it, I had a good trainer he was really cool and laid back, and everything was alot of fun even the plank sprints or w/e their called even though their killer lol. but i get very discouraged for absolutely NO REASON! I'm not sure why but I do...

I am also a very shy girl so as sad as it is...I get very intiminated by confident good looking guys as I am insecure...which has nothing to do with MMA so it shouldn't matter but I want to get past this but I don't know how...I heard MMA was suposed to teach you self control, self confidence, self defence and a bunch of stuff like that so yeah idk...I'm determind to stick with MMA even if it kills me though but I'm worry about jujitsu, I'm afraid I'm going to flat out get my ass kicked or I won't be able to do what they teach me as I'm not very strong either...I have no money for a gym pass in our town and we have no gym equipment so everything for me is old school.

I'm sorry this is so long I'm just feeling really discouraged for no reason but I still feel really motivated...it's like I already sleep, eat and breathe MMA it's insane I was half awake all night thinking about training and working out and the days lesson all I been thinking about all day is training and working out and what not but I don't have anyone to train with here the gym I go to is almost 2 hours away from where I live... Does anyone have any advice?

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Jujitsu and judo are built around not needing massive amounts of strength to overcome your opponent. You don't need a lot actually. In judo, you can flip someone over who weighs twice your weight. In jujitsu, when you go for chokes or joint locks, you don't need lots of strength, you need technique. At my dojo, for some self-defense techniques, I can easily outpower some of the other students but when they do the techniques, they win. When it goes for joints, it doesn't matter how muscular someone is, the joints are hard to strengthen.

Martial arts will teach confidence and such but it requires practice as none of it comes overnight. One class won't make you a lot more confident, it'll take many classes for that.

You're learning jujitsu, you probably know very little so you're going to learn by mistakes. However, people don't often go all-out on a beginner, they help them. When I'm helping people do sparring, I'm going to be the winner but I'm not trying my best because I don't want to beat them to a pulp, I want them to learn. So, the way they're going to learn how to prevent me from taking them to the ground is if I do that. Likewise, when striking, the way they're going to learn to punch much faster and block my hit (which I do lightly to them) to the chin is if I do those things.

So, you are going to lose to someone much more experienced while sparring but the idea is to learn why you lost and improve. When I get through their guard when striking, they'll have to improve on punching and blocking speed, and get used to some hits. I know it does feel rather bad when you hop in and get your ass kicked but you'll need that to improve.

[AmazonQueen]

Thanks, I know I won't be good over night I just feel like I'm going to make a total fool of myself because I'm so out of my element...My trainer is a really nice guy, and like I said I get intiminated by good looking guys because I'm insecure it's not the trainer that's working with me I'm worried about it's all the other trainers watching the class...I'm on a bit of a roller coaster because I want to be better...I want to MAKE myself better i want to train train train but I also just want to enjoy it and learn things as they come...I guess I get discouraged for stupid reasons but at the same time I supose you are 100% right I do have to learn from my mistakes...and I need to practice.