boyfriend problems

[crimsontears]

I didn't know where to post this since it had to do with relationships and games, but my bf is a gamer which is usually fun cause he sends me fun games and crap but lately he's been too much into the games, and gaming with him isn't fun because he gets cranky and snappy. And tommorow he'll be gaming all day, And i just can't help but think does he think games are more important than me????

[how.we.operate.]

This post seems best fit in Relationships and Dating--it will probably get moved there shortly.

I know that feeling. My boyfriend is also a very big gamer...I've had days where I will be hanging out at his place after him begging me to come over and he'll just game all day...I'll end up sitting on my computer in the corner.

Best solution: talk to him. Let him know that you feel like his video games are more important than you are and you'd like to spend more time with him. Do try to work things out instead of just telling him don't play games--give him time to play games too. Of course games aren't more important as you! Sometimes, gamers are just...well not going to lie since I am a gamer, games can get in the way a lot and you get really pulled into gaming. Just because you get wrapped up in a game, it doesn't mean that it is the most important thing to you.
I let my boyfriend know that is how I felt. We worked it out so that if he felt like I was doing that or if I felt he was doing that, that we'd just say so. After someone said something, we'd finish up what was going on or finish the game and spend time together. That or he'd take a break and come hang out with me then go back to gaming.

Good luck and don't think that gaming is more important than you are

[crimsontears]

I've tried that, and all he says is "lovely how you always make me out to be the bad guy" and ill say "im not making you out to be the bad guy, but that's how i feel" and he'll just get mad or roll his eyes at me.

[how.we.operate.]

I'm sorry that he does that...it makes it hard and it makes the situation tougher.

If you are open to trying things, I have a different approach--see if you two could play games together. By this I mean same game at the same time/in the same room. This allows you to spend time with him and let him do something he likes.

Otherwise...I'm not too sure...I mean the only other thing that I can think of is just really sitting down and talking to him more where you get past the rolling eyes or him getting mad. The best thing would be to reach a compromise or agreement about him gaming all the time and hanging out without video games?