facebook makes me feel like a loser

[pursuit-of-happiness]

i always compare myself to everyone else and if i dont get as many wall posts/activity i feel really really depressed and down on my self. I try to write on other peoples walls but that really never helps me feel better. i dont know why i worry about it so much.
Any advice?

[samantha:)x]

I hate facebook, I think it is best if you Just don't go on it xx

[Breakingthehabit28]

Facebook aint anything to worry about man. I just use it to talk to friends and whatnot. Dont waste your time caring about how much time others are spendin at the computer posting things back and forth. There's plenty of other fun things to do out there!

[danni182x]

delete facebook for a while?

But, it's just facebook, and it's not real life. there are lots of things on the internet people can do to make them really popular, but there not popular in real life or have no lasting friendships, aslong as you have real friends who care about you, online friends don't matter

[sassygurlone]

If facebook is making you upset my advice would be to take a break from it for a while. If you want people to talk to you come to TH. There's always someone here to talk to.

[Aletheia*]

Facebook is just Facebook. It's not meant to make you upset or start questioning yourself. It's meant to keep in touch with your friends which you have been doing, or trying to do. If it's making you that upset, delete it for a while.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I don't think it's bad to have fewer comments & posts than other people. When I see close to blank walls on other peoples' facebooks, I just assume they actually have a life & don't get on much. What you can do is make sure your chat isn't online even though you're on, so people don't know how much you're on. They'll just assume you aren't a huge facebook person, which is actually admired.

[Nicole!]

This doesn't have anything to do with Relationships & Dating so I moved it for you
I agree, it is nothing to worry about. Facebook isn't a popularity contest and nobody has 999 notifications all the time.

[Bubbles37]

Think about it: if someone is posting about how great their life is, etc., then they're just probably trying to prove something, which means it isn't all that great. Basically, people who post a bunch of stuff about having lots of fun are insecure and probably don't have as great of lives as they say.

That being said, I totally know what you mean about comparing yourself to other people on fb. I do that all the time. If it gets to be a HUGE problem, I would suggest simply taking a break from facebook.

[MegaMadness]

Facebook is meant to be harmless fun, treat it as such or maybe it's best you don't use it.

[TylerVo]

Descartes said, "I think, therefore I am". Don't think you're a loser, and you aren't a loser. Enough said.

[King Of Iron Fist]

just post those things i which u r best . and u will sure get comment and like on that
like i m good in hacking and martial arts so post that and try it

[Heartlines.]

If face book is upsetting you that much, then delete it.
Form real relationships with people.
Go hang out with friends.
Not too mnay people post on my wall, and a handful post on my statuses.
I don't care because I work full time, and I don't have wifi..

Facebook is not a measure of your popularity.

[Dream]

Originally Posted by pursuit-of-happiness

i always compare myself to everyone else and if i dont get as many wall posts/activity i feel really really depressed and down on my self. I try to write on other peoples walls but that really never helps me feel better. i dont know why i worry about it so much.
Any advice?

Make a collage from a cartoon and tag everyone who you think will respond and you want to respond in it.

[Ryan1]

My opinion on Facebook as a whole is people can look happier than they really are. I like Facebook because it keeps me in touch with my family that live far away. I see where you’re coming from because I’ve had similar experiences seeing pictures from parties I didn’t go to. Some people live life with a camera in their hands where as I almost never take pictures let alone uploading the ones I have to my profile. All the pictures on my Facebook are from people who uploaded them and tagged me in it.

My advice to you would be to part ways with Facebook if it makes you feel bad or just don’t view things that might trigger those emotions. Instead just play games on it that’s what I do.

Interesting thread I like a lot of the responses on here.

[Skeleton]

It's just Facebook, I wouldn't take it too much to heart. I have quite a few friend on there and no-one writes on my wall or talks to me on chat or whatever. As said, it's just harmless fun so you shouldn't let it get to you too much.

As you said you tried, just try and talk to people first, I'm sure some of them will at least reply and you can get a bit of a conversation going

[Fairy Poppins]

The problem with Facebook is that it does not represent real life accurately.

It's easy for someone to make it look like their life is perfect by what they write on their profile. But in truth, most people only put the positive things and some people even have an Internet persona which again are not representative of them as an actual person.

You therefore have to take everything on that site with a pinch of salt. I've seen people with 2000 friends, but in reality how many of those people do they actually speak to? About 20? How many do they see in real life? 10 maybe. The point is that popularity is exaggerated on Facebook; it's easy to make "friends", but these "friends" don't = real popularity.

Likewise, if people have hundreds of friends, it increases the chances of them getting Wall posts, picture comments, etc. So if you want more interaction, make more fake "friends"!

I think it's tragic that a really unpopular person in real life can go on FB, make friends with 2000 randomers and therefore manage to get some comments from on their page... and other people like you start comparing yourself to them and then feeling depressed about it.



DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT, IT'S A LOAD OF UNIMPORTANT, INACCURATE DRIVEL.

[Cabron]

Originally Posted by Sincerely Yours

I don't think it's bad to have fewer comments & posts than other people. When I see close to blank walls on other peoples' facebooks, I just assume they actually have a life & don't get on much. What you can do is make sure your chat isn't online even though you're on, so people don't know how much you're on. They'll just assume you aren't a huge facebook person, which is actually admired.

This. Also, I sometimes get like that about Facebook too so I just deactivated my account for a while. I know how it can seem lik ea really big deal but if you take a step back to look at it then it's really not at all.