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Fashion and Style From the hippest new fashions to vintage dress, share your style, clothing, makeup, and hair related advice or concerns here.

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alternative clothing HELP! - January 29th 2016, 09:28 AM

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I have a little problem. I love alternative clothing like corsets but wearing it makes me feel very self consious.Especially in the beginning. How do I deal with this?
   
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Re: alternative clothing HELP! - January 29th 2016, 11:37 AM

I have the same fears and self-conscious about things I do differently (wearing heels as an example) but I learned it is who you are, your personality. Once I realized that it was a bit easier to be okay in something that I wouldn't normally wear.

It's like when someone has a job and they require you to wear heels, it becomes normal 'cause everyone in the office has them on. However, if you enjoy something because you like it or you want to make a statement about it with your personality, you shouldn't let the self-conscious play a role in that.

I know for me personally heels make me feel taller (I am short) and sexy, but I only pick out heels that suite my personality. I am taking you only pick out corsets that match who you are? It's like you walk into a store find a corset that has a bunch of lace and other with leather. You are more comfortable with one or the other. You wouldn't buy leather if it doesn't fit who you are so you pick lace.

It's all about comfort levels and knowing that you are only wearing what you like and it is who you are, it makes you comfortable. I am not sure if you are worried about judgements, everyone judges and we can't control that, we can only control how we deal with that. There will be lots of others who will be like, "I like this, it fits who you are." once you hear that, you feel better and that it's truly who you are and no one can change that.

I am not sure if that was helpful, we shouldn't go by what others aspect of us, go by what is right for us.


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Re: alternative clothing HELP! - January 30th 2016, 12:20 AM

Wear what you're happy and comfortable with wearing. If you like something, then wear it. Be proud of who you are and don't be afraid to freely express yourself. Feeling self-conscious is only a state of mind.
   
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Re: alternative clothing HELP! - January 30th 2016, 09:13 AM

Thanks. This means a lot to me.
   
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Re: alternative clothing HELP! - January 31st 2016, 09:40 AM

It was the same for me when wearing certain T shirts but you just have to wear what you like and not care what anyone thinks.
   
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Re: alternative clothing HELP! - January 31st 2016, 11:57 PM

When I started wearing 'emo' fashion I felt a bit like this. When you wear alternative fashion you are making a statement, and people will notice you. However, it's for the right reasons: they're noticing you because you look the way you want. You're expressing part of your personality. I found what helped me was starting slowly. Adding in new items of clothing as I got used to wearing them. I didn't transform suddenly overnight from 'typical' clothing to an alternative style. The other thing is, fake it till you make it. Act confident even if you don't feel confident, and that can actually have the affect of building your confidence. Wear what you love and enjoy it


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