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Keeping emotions in check - November 21st 2014, 08:08 PM

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I have a very hard time keeping my emotions in check. In other words, I cry easily. I hate it. I guess I'm a bit sensitive. I get hurt easily. But I am okay with that. I just wish I could keep it all in until I am alone or with someone I trust and am comfortable with.

No matter how hard I try, I can't seem to control my tears. I hate crying in front of people.

How do I keep it inside?
   
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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 23rd 2014, 03:56 AM

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I'm sorry that this is happening to you! I myself have also struggled with this problem. At times I cannot keep it inside for the life of me, but at other times, I am able to keep it inside. The thing i have done to try and keep it inside is, try to think of something totally different than the thing that makes you want to cry. Try to distract yourself from the emotions the best that you can. Or if you are unable to keep it inside, I would suggest going into a bathroom, etc to get away from the people.


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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 23rd 2014, 05:40 AM

I really like Kimberly's idea of thinking of something completely different - something positive that will make you smile. I personally am pretty humorous so if I find myself getting upset I'll make a few jokes to lighten things up. And, you can always excuse yourself to a more private area so you don't have to cry in others. If you do end up crying in front of someone else, though, just know that crying is natural and it's a great way to release your feelings.


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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 23rd 2014, 04:44 PM

it's weird but sometimes inevitable . anyways i think you should try to go around on that and try to avoid situations you feel like crying in public
   
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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 24th 2014, 08:31 AM

Crying in public is embarrassing. I'll try thinking of something else. Thanks for the advice.
   
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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 24th 2014, 08:42 AM

I kinda already know this is bad advice. But I've had this problem before, random crying, anxiety attacks, panic attacks in public and similar, sometimes I get sudden outbursts. Rarely though, once or twice a month if I'm not around people too much. Around high school I've learned to suppress crying by thinking about anything else... something else, something completely irrelevant. Maybe a show I watched, something I need to do by tonight, experiences etc. As long as I avoided the triggers.

What else, paying attention probably, shutting myself off too. It depends on the situation regardless. When I was in middle school, this worked quite well and helped me get started on suppressing: tightening my jaw each time I would feel the urge to cry. Accompany it with thinking of anything else. This may take several minutes.

In all honesty, suppressing isn't good. It made me feel worse, more depressed. At least I succeeded at my task, right?
Don't do it all the time, because if you need to cry, you should. Keeping it in will cause long term consequences if done repeatedly. And when it gets in the way of your need to express your feelings in cases that matter after a year or two or more, IMO that is a problem. There is no turning back to your normal self. Whatever you do, I advise this most of all, stay true to yourself. I'm not worrying about this, since you mentioned you trust yourself and some people.


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Re: Keeping emotions in check - November 24th 2014, 08:45 AM

I don't wanna suppress my emotions and keep it all in. It's just temporary. Until I'm alone. I am someone who believes in letting it all out. If you feel like crying, then cry. But not in public.

Thanks for the advice. Hope it helps,
   
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