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Unhappy She doesn't know! D: - August 6th 2015, 03:34 PM

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How do I explain this to my bestie...
She's 10 and on Skype she keeps saying...
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"Cum online". I do not know how to explain to her that she can't use that word like that because... Well... You know why. Please, help!


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 6th 2015, 05:57 PM

Just be honest and tell her it's a bad word and you'd prefer she spell the actual word. You don't have to tell her what it means if you don't want to.


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 6th 2015, 06:00 PM

I would honestly say it bugs you when she spells it like that and ask her if she could spell it the right way.


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 7th 2015, 04:29 AM

It is simply better to just be honest with her and explain to her that she is spelling the word wrong. She doesn't even have to know the alternative is a word, she'll know.... eventually .


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 7th 2015, 08:29 AM

There's nothing wrong with it.
Some people will use the word to mean something different, it's the same for a lot of words. That doesn't mean you have to stop using it.
In the UK, the word "mug" basically means "idiot", that doesn't mean I don't use the word. In fact, I have a fantastic mug on my desk at work. It's exactly the same principle. Just because a word can be interpreted differently in other contexts doesn't mean you should stop using it. Besides, she's 10! It doesn't matter what words (or variations of words) she uses. You know what she means so why does it matter?


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 7th 2015, 09:40 AM

Llamallamaduck, I am from the UK and we don't say mug at all, even for a cup do they say that is Scotland? And thanks for all your help everyone!


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 7th 2015, 12:09 PM

It is used here sometimes, but I heard Dominic Littlewood say it once and assumed the English used it too.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mug


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 7th 2015, 01:00 PM

I'm definitely with Lou on this. Her usage of the word is completely innocent and has only a single meaning for her. The more you learn of words with more than one meaning, especially having anything to do with sex just becomes amusing to some people. Don't worry about it. Unless is really bothers you, maybe you should let this one slide x


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 8th 2015, 06:22 PM

I would just tell her a softened down version of the truth. Something like this might help:

"Just so you know, you might want to spell "come" properly, instead of spelling it like "cum", because the way you have been spelling it is more commonly known as a sexual reference and it is not a common short form of the word "come". Since it's not exactly appropriate for this context, I just wanted to tell you so that you find out from someone who cares about you"




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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 8th 2015, 06:32 PM

its just a word - i used to use the word 'cum' in text talk with my old nokia 3310 as it is simply text talk and theres like nothing wrong with it. if you dont like it ask her to use the proper word. but honestly it like has a few meanings.. and im from the uk and i say mug of tea xD (im from essex)



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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 8th 2015, 11:15 PM

In my personal opinion I don't see much wrong with the word. Only through the course of time do people associate it with something 'bad' but realistically, each person can associate it with whatever they like. Here, your friend simply associates it with a shorter version of 'come' and therefore to her it's completely fine, where as you associate it with something different. You both have differing associations for the word is all.


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Re: She doesn't know! D: - August 11th 2015, 03:23 PM

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Llamallamaduck, I am from the UK and we don't say mug at all, even for a cup do they say that is Scotland? And thanks for all your help everyone!
What part of the UK? in south England we call people and coffee cups "mug" xD

Anyway, maybe say spelling it like that is a rude way of spelling it and ask could she please use the non rude spelling. If she asks why say she's a bit too young to understand right now but people prefer you don't spell it that way. She'll thank you when she understands
   
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