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Why Me? Here is a safe space to let it all out, where you can rant about all the bad things life throws your way. Sometimes it just helps to ask "why me?"

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Social Media.. - June 2nd 2017, 04:33 PM

I posted this here just because I'm ranting and complaining. Anyway, I'm so fed up with social media. Now I do have a couple social media accounts myself, and I keep them for the purpose of keeping in touch with family and friends that I have who are all over the globe. I've considered many times just deleting those accounts and sticking to email/mail but haven't gotten there yet. Now before I start putting all the bad things about social media on here, lets talk about all the amazing things. When I was a kid, the internet was just becoming popular, and it's an amazing resource, no doubt about that! My life is so much easier with it. I can Google any recipe I want/need, I can Google reviews on products and services and I can even order my toothpaste from Amazon so I don't have to go to the store. I love it.

However, I feel that some people take social media, specifically, too seriously. I personally wouldn't want to add anyone to my social media accounts that I don't have a personal relationship with. Like, I don't care if I knew you in highschool, we haven't talked in six years, I'm not going to add you. End of story. You never know about people in this day and age, and I'd rather be safe than sorry and add the wrong person. I have pictures of Ava on there, and info about my family/friends ect and I wouldn't want just anyone to have access to that stuff. Which in turn, makes me pretty nervous to have one at all. I'd rather just delete it, and get it over with.

Also, I think social media has caused people to lose their sense of a filter. They get on there and say whatever they want. They don't care who it hurts anymore, because when you say things on FB or IG you don't have to suffer the consequence that you may have had to if you would have said that comment face to face with the person. I think that's really sad. These days, most people (Notice I didn't say all) only comment on things with the intent of saying something hurtful, and they simply have no remorse for it. It's so frustrating! Even if I don't agree with something someone puts on there, I wouldn't call them stupid, or tell them they are an idiot, or call them names, or anything like that. Half the time I don't even comment because even if I was to comment, the person who posted the whatever, would comment and call me names and say hurtful things, and it's just not really worth the time!

You can't have a decent debate about anything with anyone anymore, because social media has made it too easy for others to be hurtful and say very unnecessary things without having to worry about facing consequences.

Another thing that bothers me is the fact that people are so sucked in to it. They use it a a tool to compare their lives to others, which doesn't really get you anywhere. It causes you to become depressed, or so focused on one-upping the person that we forget to focus on the things in our lives that make us happy. If I stayed on FB just a quarter of the time that my little sister did, my house would NEVER be clean, I'd never have time to cook dinner for my husband or daughter, and I'd never be able to spend time with my friends. Not I'm not saying you can't get on Facebook every couple of hours and see if someone responded to your message, or whatever, because I do that! I'll get off my computer and then a couple hours pass and I'll hop back on for a few minutes to reply to messages, see what is on my feed, ect. I don't see anything wrong with that, so long as you take some time off to be productive.

Another thing about comparing your life to others, some people ONLY post things with the intent of making their life seem better than others. I've experienced this first hand as well. They only post things to make their life look better than what it really is to become popular/gain attention/followers. We get so caught up in things like that. I don't even understand what the point in that is.

I also feel like there are kids/younger people who get on there and will add/accept anyone who wants to follow/request them as a friend. Even if they don't know them, which I personally think is insane. As I've said, you never know about people these days. Heck, my Nan has made more than one FB account because she kept forgetting her password and couldn't figure out how to get back in, and I wouldn't accept those requests till I found out from her, that it was her. My sister had a situation where someone made a FB account using her info/pictures she gained from a friend request to my sisters account only with the intent of adding her friends and then sending them hurtful messages to make everyone 'hate' my sister. My sister ended up reporting the account and making a new one herself, only adding people she talked to on the regular and never had a problem with that again.

These are a few main reasons why I hate social media, and also why I really want to close out my accounts and just stick to my email accounts. I think it would be just as easy to share updates/photos on email as it would be FB, and I would feel a lot better about it. Anyway, sorry about the rant. I've been experiencing some frustrating things on FB this past week, and just wanted to get this off my chest.

If you do take the time to read all of this, what are your thoughts/experiences with social media that make you love/hate it?


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Re: Social Media.. - June 4th 2017, 03:40 PM

Hey, I'm glad you were able to open up on here about your thoughts on social media. Don't ever be afraid to vent whenever you need to and I hope this has helped you a little bit. I am sorry there's been issues on Facebook or whatever social media account you have, and you are right... Not everyone is going to behave inappropriately on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or whatever. But the handful that does ruins the experience for everyone else.

For me, personally, I have mixed feeling about social media. I never use Twitter; I only have five followers and I'm following seven accounts. My account is set to private, meaning only my followers can see my posts. Between Facebook and Instagram, I use Instagram the most, and that is still not very often. However, I never leave comments on those accounts that I follow, partially for security reasons. I almost never, ever use my personal Facebook account. I don't even talk to anyone on it and I really couldn't care less.

I'd rather resort to using email. I check my Google account maybe fifteen times a day, more out of habit than expecting an email. The only people I communicate with via email are my mum, people I work with, and messages to myself sent from my work account. Everyone else, I communicate with on Facebook. I would deactivate my personal Facebook account in a heartbeat, but I have access to my work account's Facebook page and I kind of need an account to post updates, etc. on there.
   
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