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Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 04:14 AM

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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 05:10 AM

I think this is a great idea! I'm not entirely convinced that it was necessary to remove the mirrors, but posting positive affirmations like this in bathrooms (and other heavily visited places) has the potential to do a lot of good. I've personally come across a sign like this once at my university and did boost my day a bit.

Positive affirmations are great regardless of where they come from, but they're even better when they're completely unexpected. I'd love to see this trend continue in other schools, workplaces, and general public areas.


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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 06:26 AM

I thought this was a great idea. I don't necessarily think to remove the mirrors was the best choice either because the mirrors are important especially at school but it's still a great idea.

We did something like this at my school every year where we would put notes like this on all the mirrors as well as every locker and it was awesome to see everyone's reaction! And one year we even put signs up around our town in store bathrooms and on posts. A little kindness goes a long way to brightening someone's day and positive affirmation is a great way to do that.
   
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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 06:58 AM

While I think its a great idea in terms of theory, the fact remains, a girl may need a mirror to put a contact lens in, or make sure she doesn't have any gravy left over on her left cheek.
I'd say keep the mirrors and then attach the notes. The idea of the notes is awesome, and I say go for it. Just keep the mirrors for practical reasons


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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 07:46 AM

A nice thought, but put them next to the mirror. The mirror functions as a mirror. That's why its there, so you can look at yourself. These don't allow you to do that.


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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 01:59 PM

There are theories/studies which argue that positive self-affirmation is actually counter-productive to people with low self-esteem.

I think this might happen because if someone has low self-esteem issues due to some form of underachievement or failure, then simply ignoring this failure by calling a spade an orange instead, doesn't address the cause of the problem.

People want to do well, and want to achieve certain standards. We should help people achieve these standards, rather than reinforce the idea that they're "doing well" when they actually are not doing well by their own definition.

The other reason is supposed to be that people actually prefer it when other people see themselves the same way they see themselves. It's difficult for me to articulate, so here's an article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...lf-affirmation

It's a nice gesture, but I personally think that messages of encouragement would be more effective, rather messages of self-affirmation. There's a subtle difference in convincing someone that they can do something, and convincing someone that "there's nothing wrong with them where they are". Most people have some sort of ambition, and giving them messages such as "don't feel bad about yourself if you don't get there" do not really help, at all. It comes across as very defeatist and even depressing. It misses the mark.

Of course that's not what those signs on the mirror are about, so I'm broadening the topic a bit to make a point.

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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 02:14 PM

I think it's a great idea to post uplifting messages in the girl's bathroom, but it's not necessary to remove the mirrors.
   
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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 05:22 PM

I really like this, it makes you feel good about yourself. Thank you.
   
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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 7th 2017, 11:44 PM

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It's a nice gesture, but I personally think that messages of encouragement would be more effective, rather messages of self-affirmation. There's a subtle difference in convincing someone that they can do something, and convincing someone that "there's nothing wrong with them where they are". Most people have some sort of ambition, and giving them messages such as "don't feel bad about yourself if you don't get there" do not really help, at all. It comes across as very defeatist and even depressing. It misses the mark.
I absolutely agree!

[although perhaps having both would be even better!]

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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 9th 2017, 01:37 AM

I absolutely think this was a great thing to do but I agree with many of the above people, maybe covering the mirrors with the signs or placing the signs to the side would have been more practical but I love what they were going for.




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Re: Mirror, Mirror [NOT] on the Wall - April 9th 2017, 03:49 AM

I honestly think the mirrors should be put back and although it is a great idea and will help some it might not help some either. Because for me I have hated myself since I was 8 years old and positive affirmations to me just pissed me off because I don't believe them. There might be kids who have eating disorders that the affirmations just make them worse.

I'm not saying it's a bad idea because I think it is a great idea because it can help kids,. But I also think for some people they need more then just words to make them believe and like themselves.


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