TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Religion and Spirituality, Science and Philosophy Use this forum to discuss what you believe in. This is a place where everyone may share their views freely.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
prettygale17 Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
prettygale17's Avatar
 
Name: Stephanie
Gender: Female
Location: New York

Posts: 38
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: June 14th 2012

Post Is it Wrong? - December 29th 2013, 04:22 PM

This thread has been labeled as non-PG13 by the original poster or by a Moderator. The contents of this thread might therefore not be suitable for younger users. Please take this into consideration before continuing to read.

Christians who believes in no sex til marriage, is oral sex wrong too?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Adam the Fish Offline
The Skittlemeister.
I can't get enough
*********
 
Adam the Fish's Avatar
 
Name: Adam
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Location: Bristol

Posts: 2,343
Blog Entries: 6
Join Date: August 24th 2012

Re: Is it Wrong? - December 29th 2013, 05:09 PM

Hey Stephanie,

Although interpretations differ, I would suspect that the majority of religious people who believe that pre-marital penetrative sex is against God's will would believe the same of any sexual relationships (since Christianity generally will say something along the lines of '[marriage is]...a bond of sexual union' at a wedding).

However, I would point out that you don't need to subscribe to, or even agree with, these beliefs and practices to be a good, moral person; I certainly don't.

If you would like to have safe, responsible sex, and both you and your partner consent, then that's what's important. If you would like to refrain for religious reasons, that's also your choice, but know that it isn't necessary.


Skittlify me up...
Adam the Fish | 26/08/12 | 08/10/12 | 02/12/12 | 09/02/13 | 01/06/13 | 30/08/13 | 25/11/13
...spreading happiness and joy around the Internet!
...well, I try, anyway. .......................
private message.visitor message.profile.email
"May we always remember that we are the rainbow."
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
ThisWillDestroyYou's Avatar
 
Name: Michael
Gender: Male
Location: USA

Posts: 1,050
Join Date: July 5th 2011

Re: Is it Wrong? - December 30th 2013, 02:31 AM

If you think it's wrong, it probably is.


"For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love."
- Carl Sagan
   
2 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
ELEVATE
I've been here a while
********
 
Celaena-Sardothian's Avatar
 
Name: Hannah
Age: 22
Gender: Female
Location: NZ

Posts: 1,014
Join Date: April 25th 2012

Re: Is it Wrong? - December 30th 2013, 04:58 AM

Personally I think yes. But then again, I have very high moral standards and have been called old-fashioned

Basically, the way I see it (as a Christian) is that if it has the word sex or any variations of the word sex in the name of the action, or if it is related to sex in any way, then it is wrong to do before marriage.
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
Catharsis. Offline
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
Catharsis.'s Avatar
 
Age: 22
Location: Limerick, Ireland

Posts: 1,797
Blog Entries: 101
Join Date: December 8th 2012

Re: Is it Wrong? - December 30th 2013, 07:21 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by Of Mike and Men View Post
If you think it's wrong, it probably is.
+1.

I would imagine that most Christians, who would, naturally, believe sex outside marriage is immoral, would extend that to all types of sex, and not just penetrative sex. But you, yourself, need to think about whether or not you think it's right. That's what matters.
  Send a message via Skype™ to Catharsis. 
1 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
Lizzie Offline
Volunteering Officer
Outside, huh?
**********
 
Lizzie's Avatar
 
Name: Lizzie
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Location: USA

Posts: 4,700
Join Date: January 5th 2009

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 7th 2014, 06:25 PM

Stephanie,

I think this is something that each person needs to decide for themselves. I know Christians who are waiting to have any type of sexual interaction until marriage, I know Christians that are waiting to have vaginal intercourse until marriage and I know Christians that are having sex before marriage. It just depends on what you are comfortable with and what will make you happiest. Whatever you choose to do is between you and God.




Interested in becoming a staff member? Feel free to PM me, or apply HERE!
::Teen Help Member Since 2006::
::Staff Member for ten years::
~Blessed Be~

Last edited by Lizzie; January 8th 2014 at 07:25 PM.
   
  (#7 (permalink)) Old
.:Bibliophile:. Offline
PM me anytime!

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
.:Bibliophile:.'s Avatar
 
Gender: Just me

Posts: 16,305
Blog Entries: 1722
Join Date: January 18th 2009

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 7th 2014, 08:08 PM

Hey there,

I think Lizzie summed this up quite well. I think this is something you have to figure out for yourself because at the end of the day it is your relationship with God not anyone else's. Yes, there are a number of Christians out there who might hold to the belief that any form of sexual activity is wrong but I also believe there are a number of Christian out there that hold a different belief. In the end this is for you to decide. What do you feel in your heart is right?

I hope that this helped in some way and I am wishing you the best of luck.


|Lead Moderator|Newsletter Officer|
   
  (#8 (permalink)) Old
MindBodySpirit Offline
Member
Junior TeenHelper
****
 
MindBodySpirit's Avatar
 
Name: Not Michael
Age: 26
Gender: agender
Location: Canada

Posts: 244
Join Date: February 24th 2011

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 8th 2014, 03:08 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by MovedByMercy View Post
Personally I think yes. But then again, I have very high moral standards and have been called old-fashioned
Wait, so people that have sex before marriage don't have a high moral standard then? Sorry to nitpick, but this just irked me.


Anyway, if you're against sex until marriage, I think it would logically follow that oral sex is included in it. Oral sex is still a type of sex.
   
  (#9 (permalink)) Old
DanTheMan :P Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
DanTheMan :P's Avatar
 
Name: Dan
Age: 22
Gender: Male
Location: Essex -.-, UK

Posts: 103
Blog Entries: 38
Join Date: October 14th 2013

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 8th 2014, 05:39 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by .:BreakingBeautifully:. View Post
Hey there,

I think Lizzie summed this up quite well. I think this is something you have to figure out for yourself because at the end of the day it is your relationship with God not anyone else's. Yes, there are a number of Christians out there who might hold to the belief that any form of sexual activity is wrong but I also believe there are a number of Christian out there that hold a different belief. In the end this is for you to decide. What do you feel in your heart is right?

I hope that this helped in some way and I am wishing you the best of luck.

This.
If you were to do something of a sexual nature with someone before marraige, that doesn't mean suddenly you aren't allowed to be Christian anymore. It just means you did something that an increasingly small minority disapprove of. Again, I'm not saying its an incorrect belief either, just don't feel that you NEED to adhere to it to be classed as Christian.
   
  (#10 (permalink)) Old
hannahgreenwood Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
hannahgreenwood's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 185
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: December 21st 2010

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 8th 2014, 08:27 PM

I would say that Christians who do decide to wait until marriage categorize all tyes of sex as sex and would refrain from doing that until married. I have met plenty of Mormons and Catholics who practice chastity and they only kiss their partners while dating them. I think that they basically want to see each other naked for the first time or really any nudity at all upon marriage.
However, obviously, the choice is up to you. You can do abide to whatever choice you would feel most comfrotable and at peace with between you and your partner
   
  (#11 (permalink)) Old
Brandon Offline
Member
I can't get enough
*********
 
Brandon's Avatar
 
Name: Brandon
Age: 29
Gender: Male

Posts: 2,536
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: Is it Wrong? - January 9th 2014, 07:49 AM

Hey Stephanie,

In a religious aspect, it's pretty agreeable that pre-marital sex is considered a sin, but there's many different interpretations on what is defined as pre-marital sex. Some people would say that oral sex is considered sex, while others might say that sex can only occur if there's penetration of genetalia. Since there's no penetration of genetalia during oral sex, you could argue that oral sex is not having pre-marital sex. Because things are too open to interpretation, there is really no way of knowing. Some Christians may say that it is, some Christians may say that it isn't. The only time you'll really know is when you're judged by The Dude Himself. Otherwise, you're gonna have to come up with a conclusion on your own. Unfortunately, this is a circumstance where you have to decide what you feel is best. If you feel that oral sex is something that God is going to disagree with, then it would probably be best to go with your gut instinct. Let me remind you that no one can tell you whether you're going to Heaven or Hell based on something that is loosely interpreted, so don't feel like your beliefs are more right/wrong than others. If you feel it's right, it's right; if you feel it's wrong, it's wrong.
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
wrong

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2018, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.