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Cheering charms, please? -
January 27th 2015, 12:11 PM
I guess this is going to be an unexpected post to most of you. But I did not want to go on staff leave and probably disappear for a while without informing.
Last evening we got news of 5 deaths within 5 hours and it's still not sinking in. Two of them were people I met at some point in my life but they were close to my parents so somewhere it did hurt. The third was a celebrity artist I had met when I was a child and he kept in touch with me and my family through the years. To lose someone whom you have looked upto for over 15 years is hard to accept. The fourth is an uncle of mine. Someone who was easily called the healthiest person in the family was taken away within minutes by a massive heart attack. I'm still hoping someone is going to call me and say it was a prank, but somewhere at the back of my mind I know I need to accept this sometime. Of all the family but for his wife and kids, he was closest to my parents and me. My grandfather's older brother (the only grandfather figure in my life) passed away late last night. I know everyone's going to say he has lived his life to the fullest, but there's a sense of loneliness that is setting in now because I had somehow convinced myself he was never leaving.
I have never been the best at handling death or grief. So keeping all this in mind I decided I need to get off the site for a while and concentrate on coming to terms with what can be called a sudden change in life. I also have an operation scheduled around 10th of February. It isn't a major one but I am going to be hospitalized for a couple of days. I am not sure when I will be back, but I'm hoping to be back around middle of February.
To everyone who has messaged me on or outside of Teenhelp, forgive my being anti social and not replying. Sorry this got long, but I decided it's best to explain.
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Re: Cheering charms, please? -
January 27th 2015, 01:17 PM
I am so sorry that you're going through this, Kav. I can't imagine how difficult it must be. Take strength from the fact you have your family around you. You are all grieving, but you all understand each other's pain, you will all be able to support each other through this awful time.
I understand how utterly devastating it is to lose someone you love and thought would never leave, I also know how much harder it is when a death comes out of nowhere. If you ever need to talk or just want to take your mind off things, please PM me anytime.
Take the time you need to heal from this, it's important to focus on that instead of bottling it up. TeenHelp will be here whenever you're ready to come back.
Take good care of yourself, and good luck with your surgery. <3
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January 27th 2015, 02:43 PM
Hey Kav.!
I'm so sorry to hear about all you're going through. My thoughts are with you and your family. Take all the time you need and know I'm here if you want to talk. Message me anytime!
Can't stop now, I've traveled so far. - Foreigner
I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance. - Garth Brooks
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January 27th 2015, 03:52 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that Kav. I can't imagine how that must've felt. Thoughts are with you, your family and everyone else affected.
I totally understand your decision for leaving the site for a while. It's definitely important to look after yourself, especially at a difficult time. Hope the surgery goes well.
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January 27th 2015, 06:12 PM
I'm so sorry, Kav. It's downright awful to lose people, especially ones you were close to. I'm glad you're putting yourself first. You and your family are in my thoughts and I'm only a PM away if you ever want to talk. <3
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January 27th 2015, 06:39 PM
I'm so sorry Kav. It must be really difficult to deal with such devastating news. I'm here if you need to talk.
Take care of yourself while away and know TH is here.
Also good luck with your surgery. <3
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January 27th 2015, 07:34 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about all this Kav. I understand you are going through a tough time right now and understandable that you are going on leave. We all need time for ourselves to get things settled. If you ever need someone to talk to, you are more than welcome to message me anytime.
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"Imperfection is beauty;
madness is genius;
and its better to be absolutely ridiculous
than absolutely boring."
-Marilyn Monroe
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January 27th 2015, 11:20 PM
I'm so sorry, Kav. It's awful to lose people and even worse if you were close to them. I'm here if you need to talk or a distraction. Text/call me anytime.
Good luck with your surgery as well. <3 I love you. Stay strong.
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January 28th 2015, 04:13 AM
Take care of yourself, Kav. It will take time, but hopefully things will get easier for you. I'm always open to talk.
And I really hope your operation goes well and that you recover fast.
Take your time and rememebr that TH is always here if you need it.
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January 28th 2015, 05:18 AM
hang in there okay. I can't even comprehend how this must feel for you and I'm so sorry you have to deal with all the pain. I wish you the best and that may in this time you require the strength you need. I also hope your surgery goes well and have quick and healthy recovery. I will miss seeing you around. Remember we are always here for you. You can always find me on Skype smd shoot me a message. keep your head up and stay strong <3
Life is too
Short to spend
It at war with
Yourself.
I’m catching stars in the sky because I am fixing the soul within me. May it be from the heart a girl broke years ago or my soul simply repairing itself as it was shattered on my walk on this earth. May the stardust fill those cracks within my soul making me brand new, but never forgetting who I once was.
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January 28th 2015, 06:39 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Kav. One death is hard enough. I can't even imagine how difficult it is to have five deaths in one night. If you need anything, you know where to find me.
wanderlust consumed her;
foreign hearts & exotic minds compelled her.
she had a gypsy soul
and a vibrant heart for the unknown.
-d. marie
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January 28th 2015, 04:16 PM
I think you made the right decision in being on Staff Leave. Right now it's far more important that you spend some time adjusting to your new lifestyle and dealing with so much loss in an incredibly short amount of time.Take all the time you need and best of luck with your surgery.
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January 28th 2015, 08:48 PM
Oh Kav.
I am so sorry to hear about everything you are going through. It makes my heart ache to hear it. I love you as a sister, and I will be sending many good thoughts, lots of love and constant prayers to you.
I'll definitely be thinking about you in February, for a smooth surgery and a quick, full recovery. I hope that this surgery will be your last one too. I'm here for you, Kav. Get well soon. <3 Praying for you. Hope you are back to full health soon, and that your spirit is lifted up.
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January 29th 2015, 01:06 AM
I'm sorry to hear about this. If you need someone to talk to please know that I am here for you. You can make it through this. Take this time to spend with your family. Their support will help you through all of this. You are strong and can make it through all of this.
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February 4th 2015, 05:25 PM
I am really sorry Kav. I can't even imagine what you must be going through right now. Take as much time as you need.
I am a message away if you need someone to talk to.
Stay safe.
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February 11th 2015, 06:50 AM
Twin, I am so so so sorry to hear this has all happened to you at one or at all. Death is never easy, but I know you're strong and will get through this. If you ever need to talk I'm here. I love ya twin take all the time you need and know we'll be here when you decide to return. Please stay safe and strong.
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February 22nd 2015, 06:19 AM
Hi there Kav,
I'm so sorry to hear of your lose and I'm glad that you're taking care of yourself.
I hope your surgery goes well.
I'm here if you need anything.