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I have a really intense cuckold fetish (essentially, I want to see my female partner have sex with other men), and I guess I have a few questions about that.

1. Is it weird?
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 12:46 PM

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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 02:24 PM

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I have a really intense cuckold fetish (essentially, I want to see my female partner have sex with other men), and I guess I have a few questions about that.

1. Is it weird?
2. Is it a good/bad idea?
1. It's a little out of the ordinary but it seems quite common as a fetish, from what I've heard?

2. I don't see a problem with it, I think people should be able to do whatever they want as long as everyone involved consents to it and keeps it safe.
   
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 03:26 PM

1) I don't know that it's weird necessarily. I think there are a lot of people who would not be okay with it and would view it as weird. But, this is something a lot of couples do and to them it is not weird.

2) I don't know that it's bad but I do think you have to really trust your partner with this. For example, if you don't trust your partner you might end up getting paranoid that she enjoyed the sex with that person better than they enjoyed anything with you. You might get paranoid that they are more attracted to the other person and want to be with them. I believe this is different than threesomes but the biggest thing I hear regarding threesomes is that it causes a lot of jealousy. If you trust your partner though this probably won't be an issue.

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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 04:38 PM

If she consents, I don't really see a problem with it. I'd consider emotional repercussions on whether your relationship can handle being opened up and making sure you pick other partners who are tested and/or ensuring she uses condoms with other partners, but that's not abnormal for a fetish


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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 09:18 PM

Weird? No.
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 09:21 PM

It's not my cup of tea, but I've heard of it being quite a common fantasy. Therefore it can't be that weird.


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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 11:17 PM

It depends, I guess, on what you define "weird" as. Personally, I don't find it weird at all. Everyone has their own tastes when it comes to sex. As long as everything is mutual, I don't see a problem with any fetish.

As it turns out, cuckold and swinging is becoming more accepted and popular in society. Certain studies suggest that couples involved in these activities can actually be happier, but that communication is key. In fact, the process of communicating allows a two way form of honesty that is rare in most relationships because you're discussing wants, desires, etc. that are typically "taboo." Ironically, I believe, it's taboo because of religion being engrained in society since our species developed monogamy for religious reasons -- considering polygamy is essentially the norm for humans (I'm not condoning it, just stating facts).

If your into it, make sure your significant other is as well. Make sure you discuss boundaries such as kissing (you may want to leave that between you two), and such. Also, make sure you're ready for it. There is a possibility she develops feelings for the other guy, as some people aren't able to separate sex from romance.

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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - November 30th 2016, 11:55 PM

As far as fetishes go, having a cuckold fetish is not uncommon. I don't think it's weird at all. Many couples enjoy having this kind of arrangement. However, I suggest you communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your desires and make sure it's something you're both interested in. While cuckolding is not a fetish of mine, I do have an open relationship and have for many years. I've learned over time that things work better if everyone talks to one another about what they are thinking and feeling. That way it's easier to work through things together.

Be sure if you are going to engage in this activity your partner uses condoms with her partners and that you are both tested regularly for STIs. Another thing to consider is whether or not it would be a better situation for you if you selected relatively random participants or if you took the time as a couple to get to know the gentlemen your partner would be having sex with. Neither way is right or wrong; it's all about personal preference.

It may take a learning curve, but I hope you find this experience very rewarding and fulfilling. It's an opportunity for you and your partner to have a lot of fun and learn a lot, and that's a really great thing.



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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 01:00 AM

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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 01:03 AM

Although we've discussed this type of activity pretty in-depth, discussing or fantasizing about it is obviously extremely different from actually making it happen. We've taken very vague steps towards this type of thing before in the past, but for me there is a massive fear of not being able to "take it back" after it happens.
   
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 06:41 PM

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Although we've discussed this type of activity pretty in-depth, discussing or fantasizing about it is obviously extremely different from actually making it happen. We've taken very vague steps towards this type of thing before in the past, but for me there is a massive fear of not being able to "take it back" after it happens.
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 06:47 PM

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That no matter how much preparation we do, that if I don't like it when it happens, I can never go back and undo it.
   
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That no matter how much preparation we do, that if I don't like it when it happens, I can never go back and undo it.
It's possible you could do it as a "knowledge" thing. You don't have to watch the sex actually happening. You could just have the knowledge that your partner is having sex with someone else. For example, you could just listen to them having sex, and then if it's too much for you you could go somewhere else. That way you don't have to awkwardly excuse yourself from the room. It's just common that the male partner in the couple watches the female have sex with someone else, but this might be a better way to start out if you aren't sure.



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It's possible you could do it as a "knowledge" thing. You don't have to watch the sex actually happening. You could just have the knowledge that your partner is having sex with someone else. For example, you could just listen to them having sex, and then if it's too much for you you could go somewhere else. That way you don't have to awkwardly excuse yourself from the room. It's just common that the male partner in the couple watches the female have sex with someone else, but this might be a better way to start out if you aren't sure.
Not a bad idea, or that she should film or take pictures of it that I could view later...

interesting idea, I'm not totally sure how I feel about it but it's something to keep in mind.

I suppose in addition to worry about handling it at the time, I'm worried about what I'll think or how I'll feel in the aftermath.
   
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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 10:55 PM

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Not a bad idea, or that she should film or take pictures of it that I could view later...

interesting idea, I'm not totally sure how I feel about it but it's something to keep in mind.

I suppose in addition to worry about handling it at the time, I'm worried about what I'll think or how I'll feel in the aftermath.
Like I said, it's always a good idea to discuss your feelings with your partner. I think you have to ask yourself if the potential for unpleasantness is enough of a deterrent to keep you from exploring something you have an interest in. If it helps, you could make a pros and cons list. And no one says you have to do it right now. You can wait and take some time to think about it. If you're not ready to rush in that's okay. Personally I think it's really great that you can admit to yourself and your partner that this is something you're curious about. Many people never take that step.



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Re: Cuckold Fetish. - December 3rd 2016, 11:24 PM

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Like I said, it's always a good idea to discuss your feelings with your partner. I think you have to ask yourself if the potential for unpleasantness is enough of a deterrent to keep you from exploring something you have an interest in. If it helps, you could make a pros and cons list. And no one says you have to do it right now. You can wait and take some time to think about it. If you're not ready to rush in that's okay. Personally I think it's really great that you can admit to yourself and your partner that this is something you're curious about. Many people never take that step.
I suppose quite simply the list would look like this.

Pros: I think it would be hot, she could explore other aspects of her sexuality.

Cons: I might be jealous or hurt.

I suppose there is no need to rush into doing this type of thing, and we could simply expand upon the gradual steps we've already been taking before fully committing.

As immature as it is, I also honestly worry about what society would think of me/us if we did something like this, because it certainly seems "weird", doesn't it?
   
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