So im 19 years old,
I have never had a girlfriend or even so much as sniff from girls,
ide like to think im a fairly average guy, personally dont think im that bad looking, but girls must think different i don't know.
When i was about 13 i discovered masturbating and porn.
In my early teen years i must of masterbated 3/4 times a day religiously.
This carried on till i was around 17/18. I'd never had a intimate relationship/contact with a girl until i was 18 years old.
There was a girl who i had always fancied at school and somehow one day managed to get chatting on snapchat. To cut a long story short she invited me round her house, of which of course i went. As soon as i arrived she made it very apparent she wanted me to have sex with her. Fully unprepared and in the moment it was long before we started kissing, which to my surprise made me erect, just of kissing, she noticed straight away but sort of ignored it.
About 5 minutes later she led me upstairs and into her bedroom where she stripped both of our clothes and encouraged me to have sex with. As she asked i did, but as literally as soon as i put my penis inside her that was it.
I was Finished, literally 5 seconds in, i didn't even manage one full stroke.
She looked up in disgust and laughed. She couldn't believe it was over already and neither could i. I didn't really know what to say, i was soo embarrassed.
As you can imagine i got home to find she had blocked me on every social media and blocked my number, probably told all her friends to.
I spent hours upon hours researching why i finished to quick and got so excited so quickly but nothing really touched on the subject.
Have my years of masturbating as quick as i could ruined my sex life?
Ever since that day i have not so much looked at a another girl, my confidence is rock bottom low.
I have tried not masturbating for months any many techniques but nothing seems to work.
Even now when i watch porn ( every few weeks) i can literally masturbate in sub 2mins.
I need to do something about this whilst i am still young otherwise i fear i will never have to confidence to speak to another girl please help.
Hey there, I've heard that it's not uncommon for guys to come quickly during their first time, what with it being a new sensation and excitement building up, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I have no idea how frequently the average guy masturbates and what effects masturbation can have on sexual performance, but I wouldn't assume that because you came quickly that first time it will be like that every time. Maybe get some proper medical advice?
"You shall love your crooked neighbour / with your crooked heart."
I never kissed a girl until I was 21. First sex a year after that.
Coming too soon won't be a problem with a little experience. Masturbation is good experience. Porn can help make the naked body less arousing. (Seen pics of 1000 vaginas, another one isn't as OMG it's a vagina! anymore.)
Meditation practice can help lower anxiety, teach one to focus on the present moment, which gives one more control over their emotions, and a better sex life.
Also you can still please a woman after you cum. You can "eat" her, (lick her pussy. use a soft tongue like you are licking an ice cream cone.) You can caress her, gently, women like other things, intercourse isn't everything to them, they like attention, massage, finger her pussy, encourage her to give you feedback, ask her what she wants, what can you do for her to make her feel good?