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Sex Life - April 18th 2017, 07:01 PM

So im 19 years old,
I have never had a girlfriend or even so much as sniff from girls,
ide like to think im a fairly average guy, personally dont think im that bad looking, but girls must think different i don't know.
When i was about 13 i discovered masturbating and porn.
In my early teen years i must of masterbated 3/4 times a day religiously.
This carried on till i was around 17/18. I'd never had a intimate relationship/contact with a girl until i was 18 years old.
There was a girl who i had always fancied at school and somehow one day managed to get chatting on snapchat. To cut a long story short she invited me round her house, of which of course i went. As soon as i arrived she made it very apparent she wanted me to have sex with her. Fully unprepared and in the moment it was long before we started kissing, which to my surprise made me erect, just of kissing, she noticed straight away but sort of ignored it.
About 5 minutes later she led me upstairs and into her bedroom where she stripped both of our clothes and encouraged me to have sex with. As she asked i did, but as literally as soon as i put my penis inside her that was it.
I was Finished, literally 5 seconds in, i didn't even manage one full stroke.
She looked up in disgust and laughed. She couldn't believe it was over already and neither could i. I didn't really know what to say, i was soo embarrassed.
As you can imagine i got home to find she had blocked me on every social media and blocked my number, probably told all her friends to.
I spent hours upon hours researching why i finished to quick and got so excited so quickly but nothing really touched on the subject.
Have my years of masturbating as quick as i could ruined my sex life?
Ever since that day i have not so much looked at a another girl, my confidence is rock bottom low.
I have tried not masturbating for months any many techniques but nothing seems to work.
Even now when i watch porn ( every few weeks) i can literally masturbate in sub 2mins.
I need to do something about this whilst i am still young otherwise i fear i will never have to confidence to speak to another girl please help.
   
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Re: Sex Life - April 18th 2017, 08:31 PM

Hey there, I've heard that it's not uncommon for guys to come quickly during their first time, what with it being a new sensation and excitement building up, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I have no idea how frequently the average guy masturbates and what effects masturbation can have on sexual performance, but I wouldn't assume that because you came quickly that first time it will be like that every time. Maybe get some proper medical advice?


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Re: Sex Life - April 19th 2017, 08:03 AM

Sounds normal.

I never kissed a girl until I was 21. First sex a year after that.

Coming too soon won't be a problem with a little experience. Masturbation is good experience. Porn can help make the naked body less arousing. (Seen pics of 1000 vaginas, another one isn't as OMG it's a vagina! anymore.)

Meditation practice can help lower anxiety, teach one to focus on the present moment, which gives one more control over their emotions, and a better sex life.

Also you can still please a woman after you cum. You can "eat" her, (lick her pussy. use a soft tongue like you are licking an ice cream cone.) You can caress her, gently, women like other things, intercourse isn't everything to them, they like attention, massage, finger her pussy, encourage her to give you feedback, ask her what she wants, what can you do for her to make her feel good?

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Re: Sex Life - April 27th 2017, 03:45 AM

Some guys come with little stimulation. Don't worry too much. Maybe next time you do it try oral first then physical intercourse, that would make you last longer.
   
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Re: Sex Life - May 9th 2017, 03:50 PM

To be honest I was in your position too. 5mins is the maximum before i come. And It really disappoints me and made me feel so discourage.Me and my girlfriend actually have sex like everyday.Yep im not talking shit right now. You got it right everyday... but as days goes by... Im able to last 15-20mins of straight sex without actually coming. What i figure out is if you can feel that you're coming go low key and kiss her and grab her breast or anything just to rest your penis. By doing this your body is actually becoming getting used to it and make it last more longer than it used to.

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Re: Sex Life - May 10th 2017, 01:30 AM

Masturbation, from what I know, doesn't "ruin" a male's ability to wait longer to come. if anything, it seems like it can help you last longer. I know some guys who jack off before going to see a girl for sex so that they'll last longer.

one thing I definitely suggest is to practice edging, where you get right to the edge of almost climaxing, then stop or change it up so that you don't. do that a couple times before actually climaxing and it should help.

don't feel bad about your first time though. lots of guys come too quickly their first time, due to nervousness, lack of experience, etc. it just takes practice. don't let that define your sex life forever.


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Re: Sex Life - May 15th 2017, 11:28 AM

I enjoyed reading this thread. I dont know how to help you out sorry. I just got interested.
   
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Re: Sex Life - May 17th 2017, 05:24 AM

Try to relax your muscles and don't masturbate every once in a while. This way it may reduce the chance of coming early.
   
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Re: Sex Life - May 17th 2017, 06:57 AM

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Sounds normal.

I never kissed a girl until I was 21. First sex a year after that.

Coming too soon won't be a problem with a little experience. Masturbation is good experience. Porn can help make the naked body less arousing. (Seen pics of 1000 vaginas, another one isn't as OMG it's a vagina! anymore.)

Meditation practice can help lower anxiety, teach one to focus on the present moment, which gives one more control over their emotions, and a better sex life.

Also you can still please a woman after you cum. You can "eat" her, (lick her pussy. use a soft tongue like you are licking an ice cream cone.) You can caress her, gently, women like other things, intercourse isn't everything to them, they like attention, massage, finger her pussy, encourage her to give you feedback, ask her what she wants, what can you do for her to make her feel good?

Congratulations!

This is best advice i heard so far. Well done!
   
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