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something that's really bothering me - January 9th 2018, 11:54 PM

Hey I'm not sure we can we really talk about puberty or sex.
I remember when I was probably around 6 and 8 i told my sister how to kiss and i kissed her on the lips she was probably 5 . Is that wrong ? I think I was just reproducing what I saw on TV .

The thing is the same thing happened with my cousin who's a girl (she's 3 yers older than me) I think we were just playing a role game where we were parents . I think we just were in our underwear or something. I don't i just feel like i'm a bit mentally messed up to do something like that , or maybe it's just me , and it was just a childish game .

to finish when i was six i kissed my bff at the time a couple times because we were trying to reproduce a tv show we were watching where they had bf and gf and stuff . we used to put scarves around our chests and kiss in her bed .

For some reason these things make me upset even 10 year later .They make me feel like i'm a bad person and i should kill myself . please respond as fast as you can and be nice.
   
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Re: something that's really bothering me - January 10th 2018, 12:16 AM

I don't think you are a bad person at all. I think that a lot of it is that kids experiment with what they see on TV, and also experiment with their bodies. I know that there are a large amount of kids that "play doctor" for example, which is very innocent most of the time and is more out of curiosity about the different parts of the body rather than anything sexual.

From what you described, the incident where you and your cousin were in your underwear seems to be like that - curiosity about different parts of the body. At the age of six, you were probably at a state where you were becoming aware of the different parts of the body and were getting curious.

We are also impressionable people, which could explain imitating what you saw on TV. During young ages you are still learning what is appropriate, as well as what feels good and bad. It's even possible you or your cousins saw parents or other family figures giving each other a quick kiss as a sign of affection. So, it's possible that you didn't even connect that it can be sexual.

In any of the situations, was anyone forced into it or was anyone threatening someone else in any way? If not, it's likely you may have thought it was something innocent.

You are not a bad person at all. This was in the past when you were kids, and it seems like you were more curious than anything. However, if these thoughts are still getting in the way is there anyone in your life who may be able to reassure you a bit?


   
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Re: something that's really bothering me - January 10th 2018, 12:29 AM

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So I agree with everything Dez has said. You aren't a bad person at all. Little kids do a lot of things out of curiosity. When i was little I did things along the lines of this, and some other stuff. I just chalk it up to being young and not really stupid but not knowing any better.

If none of you were forced to do any of these things then it was totally fine and just kids being kids. Don't beat yourself up over it. This doesn't make you a bad person at all.

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Re: something that's really bothering me - January 10th 2018, 12:32 AM

thank you for that Onism;

No no one was hurt or threatened in any way .
If this makes me feel bad again I'll maybe talk to my therapist about it.
But she is a very religious person and i'm scared that would the relation ship we have . She is really one pf the nicest person i have ever met and i wouldn't want her to dislike me in anyway.
   
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Re: something that's really bothering me - January 10th 2018, 12:34 AM

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So I agree with everything Dez has said. You aren't a bad person at all. Little kids do a lot of things out of curiosity. When i was little I did things along the lines of this, and some other stuff. I just chalk it up to being young and not really stupid but not knowing any better.

If none of you were forced to do any of these things then it was totally fine and just kids being kids. Don't beat yourself up over it. This doesn't make you a bad person at all.

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thank you Frankie that is really nice of you to say
I don't really know how this forum works so i don't knwo how i can get in contact with you.
   
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Re: something that's really bothering me - January 10th 2018, 12:47 AM

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thank you for that Onism;

No no one was hurt or threatened in any way .
If this makes me feel bad again I'll maybe talk to my therapist about it.
But she is a very religious person and i'm scared that would the relation ship we have . She is really one pf the nicest person i have ever met and i wouldn't want her to dislike me in anyway.
As regards to your therapist they are trained to not let what they believe interfere with their patients.

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