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Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 04:17 PM

I'm 14 and my boyfriend is almost 15.
Okay so, today is mine and my boyfriend's two month anniversary, and I was talking to him about what we should do for next month's anniversary, because we always celebrate our anniversaries by going out somewhere or just hanging out at his house or whatever we feel like doing really, and while we were trying to think up ideas, he suggested we have sex, and no, he wasn't pressuring me or anything, it was just a suggestion and he said it's up to me. We've already gone pretty far, further than I've gone with any guy before, I've given him handjobs and blowjobs and he's fingered me and stuff. I'm pretty sure I'm ready to have sex with him and all that, but I just think we're a little too young. I really want to have sex with him too, and I love him so much. So do you think I should have sex with him? Advice please!
   
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 04:33 PM

Oh and neither of us have had sex before and of course he'd wear a condom lol.
   
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 04:45 PM

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Like your boyfriend has said - It's up to you! I too feel your too young. I'm 16 and I'm only just starting to think about having sex.

If you have any doubts - then I'd say your not ready. If you feel to young - then tell him that! Do you not think that a 2 month relationship is a bit too soon to be thinking about sex?

And I'm glad to hear you've talked about protection xD


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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 05:00 PM

First of all, thanks for replying and your advice

I think I'm just going to have to think about this a while longer and talk to him about it again. I don't think we're jumping into things too early though, even though I only have been going out with him for 2 months because we were best friends for over a year before he actually asked me out. I really can't decide if 14 is too young or not at the moment, like I said, I'm just going to have to think about it some more.

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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 05:26 PM

I think you should definatly wait a while and really think about it.

Youre obviously not 100% sure because you came on here to ask our opinions.
If your not 100% sure then dont do it.

Also if your unsure about if your too young or not, then its probably best to wait a little longer.
Its should be when your ready and have no doubt in your mind that you want to have sex.

I can understand that you love him and want to show him that. But like you said yourself, there are other things that you can do apart from sex.
Talk to him and Im sure he will have no problem with waiting.
Remember theres no rush
   
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 05:38 PM

I think you should wait a while and then decide if you are ready. If you feel you're too young -- then just say no to him and wait a bit longer maybe.
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 05:51 PM

It's really up to you in the end, but I would suggest waiting. It's only been two months and you are still pretty young. In my opinion, I would wait. It's so early, are you sure you trust him?


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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 05:56 PM

Its up to you but in my opinion, you are still far too young for such stuff.
Sex is special and a gift. Really Really special. So I suggest you wait.
   
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 06:38 PM

If you feel in anyway that you're too young then you're most likely right, why rush on things? You two have only been together for 2 months, enjoy what you're doing right now and wait on the sex, maybe that'll be a great 6 month anniversary present.





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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 22nd 2009, 07:32 PM

I agree with most of the posters above.

I wouldn't even begin to think of having sex with anyone right now, I just wouldn't be ready for that. Then again, though, it would also be hard for me to imagine being in love with anyone enough to even want to go there with them, so maybe I'm not the best one to give advice, even if we are the same age.

If you feel like you're absolutely ready, then you are ready (as long as he's ready too, and you've thought about protection). You're right in deciding to think about it a little more, though. If you feel that you're too young, then don't. If you feel that you truly love him and that you can do it together and happily and that you won't regret it later, then do it. It's up to you. But remember, sex is a very special thing, so don't treat it too lightly.

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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 23rd 2009, 08:57 AM

I would wait. But that's me, not you.

You should have sex when you're ready to have sex. My girlfriend and I waited a DAMN long time, but we were both extremely thankful we waited, for a variety of reasons.

Sex before you're ready can be a really messed up experience, so you should be certain it's the right time before you go all the way.

When it's the right time, you'll be glad you saved yourselves for each other. ^_^
   
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 23rd 2009, 09:06 AM

I think you might be asking for excuses not to do it here.
But you say you're ready, and if that's true, and you decide to do it, then please be safe. (Condoms. Condoms Condoms Condoms.)

Also, please remember that you won't get your virginity back, and remember, you're young. There's a massive chance you won't be with this guy forever. I've heard the words "HOW COULD HE LEAVE ME? I was a virgin before him!"

Whatever you choose, have fun, and stay safe.



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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 23rd 2009, 11:45 AM

My friend and her boyfriend didn't wait, they were together for about a week but knew each other for ages before that, It messed up her whole relationship, so if i were you i'd wait a little longer
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Re: Should I have sex with my boyfriend? (Please help!) - December 23rd 2009, 01:38 PM

I'd say that two months is too soon. You're already doing other stuff, so why rush it. There's no hurry, so why rush into things before you know you're going to be together for a long time.

I would say no. Wait. Make it special with someone you have a solid relationship with.


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