Right Age For Sex

[Cosmo]

Now, this isn't asking about me, or anybody else really. I just wanted to gather opinions on what you think is the right age for sex.
If you're going to say 'when you feel comfortable' (no offence) but save yourself the trouble of typing it out, and don't. I want to know what age you think.


Personally, I think minimum is about 17-18. I just don't believe anyone, bar a small minority, can truly be mature enough for sex any younger than that.

[taylalatbh.]

I think atleast 16. Before that, you should be playing with toys and being a child. But in this day and age, that's not the case. Everything has changed for young people and it's all about sex these days. I just hope this changes! Because I feel that anyone younger than 16 can't really be emotionally mature enough to be intimate with another person, and have sex. It just doesn't seem right in my head.

My opinion.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

I don't think there is a fixed rule for every person. It completely depends on them and the relationship that they're in.

I had a sex a lot younger than 17 or 16, and I have absolutely no regrets at nearly 20. I lost it to the right person and would not have wanted to lose it to anyone else even though we're no longer together. It was the right choice for me. Even though I can see that it was quite young, when I made the decision I was defintley mature enough to make the right one. I think the fact that I'm still 100% happy with my choice so many years later shows that.

So I don't think you can give such a blanket answer that "no one is mature enough for sex until they're 16/17/18" or whatever age. Some people will be mature enough at 14. Some will not be mature enough at 18.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by taylalatbh.

I think atleast 16. Before that, you should be playing with toys and being a child. But in this day and age, that's not the case. Everything has changed for young people and it's all about sex these days. I just hope this changes! Because I feel that anyone younger than 16 can't really be emotionally mature enough to be intimate with another person, and have sex. It just doesn't seem right in my head.

My opinion.

Haha oh dear at first I thought you meant sex toys and it just was not making sense in my head!

[Cosmo]

That's exactly what I thought. Started to wonder what was going on there hehe..

[WillO'Wisp]

I didn't have sex until I was about 21 years old, so I think 20 is the right age for it.

[lauren_160]

Personally i was comfortable at like 14/15, but that was just me, although these days, like loads of 11/12/13 year olds are having, sex :|

[taylalatbh.]

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

Haha oh dear at first I thought you meant sex toys and it just was not making sense in my head!

My appoligies!! That's definitely not what I meant!

[Rainbow Dash]

17/18 in my opinion. Obviously that may not be the case for everyone but if you really want me to give you a set age then 17/18.

[flowerchild32273]

i think that for most people 16+ is best but some are ready before that and thats just fine as long as they arent rushing into it or being pressured. my best friend lost it at 13 and shes still with the same person and has no regrets about it. if it's right then its right.

[vrchards]

It is very discussing matter about the right age for sex. See Sex is happen due to some chemical reaction happen in our mind.so for sex our body becomes ready. and when our body is ready to do the sex,then no problem,that is the the right time for sex.
Ok, If you all are talking about the right age then i will say after 15 years any one can do the sex.

[Magicalisland]

I think age 16 minimum for sex (the age of consent in england). I think any younger than that and the person just is not mature enough to deal with the possible consequences. I also think that as under 16s are still children, losing your virginity at 16 is throwing away precious childhood innocence. If the person is mature and aged 14-15 then petting and fooling around is fine, but sex should be for when they are older. I think we, in England, have such a high percentage of teen pregnancies because girls are losing their virginity before they are mature enough and able to cope with the consequences of sex (particularly unprotected).

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by Magicalisland

I think age 16 minimum for sex (the age of consent in england). I think any younger than that and the person just is not mature enough to deal with the possible consequences. I also think that as under 16s are still children, losing your virginity at 16 is throwing away precious childhood innocence. If the person is mature and aged 14-15 then petting and fooling around is fine, but sex should be for when they are older. I think we, in England, have such a high percentage of teen pregnancies because girls are losing their virginity before they are mature enough and able to cope with the consequences of sex (particularly unprotected).

Do you not think that perhaps you are not in the place to judge another persons maturity level? No two people have had the same life experiences and so no two people will have the same level of maturity. You at 15 may feel too immature to deal with sex, but I certainly did not. This is why I say that the age a person is ready for sex is completely variable.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by her_beautiful_mistake

Do you not think that perhaps you are not in the place to judge another persons maturity level? No two people have had the same life experiences and so no two people will have the same level of maturity. You at 15 may feel too immature to deal with sex, but I certainly did not. This is why I say that the age a person is ready for sex is completely variable.

And honestly I know lots of people who misjudge their maturity. Like you might have done at 15. Once you see proof of maturity you can verify. If someone just says, "Oh yeah, I'm mature." But they are living with their parents and don't have a job, for example, they are indeed not. I claim maturity based on the fact I work, go to college, and don't live at home. I pay my own bills, drive a truck.. I deal with life as an adult and that's the proof that a person is mature.

[Algernon]

Here's my list that I will continually post in these threads.

1. When you can take care of a baby if you get pregnant.
2. When ALL of your normal body parts arrive.
3. When you know all you can about conception/protection for preventive pregnancy.
4. When you're mature enought to say "vagina/penis" without laughing or feeling weird.
5. When you know that swallowing or ejaculation on pants Isn't going to get your pregnant. .
6. When you're in a loving relationship for a semi-long period of time. My opinion... six months at least.
7. When your boyfriend/girlfriend meets all the requirements above.

[LetGodArise]

Probably 17/18. I just.. think that makes most sense.

[Apollo]

I believe the persons participating should be of legal age of consent, and their maturity level should be high enough. Age-wise, I believe maybe 18 or so. By that time, your life is beginning to set in, and you are more mature.

[bitesize]

I can't decide...but between 15 and 17.

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

And honestly I know lots of people who misjudge their maturity. Like you might have done at 15. Once you see proof of maturity you can verify. If someone just says, "Oh yeah, I'm mature." But they are living with their parents and don't have a job, for example, they are indeed not. I claim maturity based on the fact I work, go to college, and don't live at home. I pay my own bills, drive a truck.. I deal with life as an adult and that's the proof that a person is mature.

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

Here's my list that I will continually post in these threads.

1. When you can take care of a baby if you get pregnant.
2. When ALL of your normal body parts arrive.
3. When you know all you can about conception/protection for preventive pregnancy.
4. When you're mature enought to say "vagina/penis" without laughing or feeling weird.
5. When you know that swallowing or ejaculation on pants Isn't going to get your pregnant. .
6. When you're in a loving relationship for a semi-long period of time. My opinion... six months at least.
7. When your boyfriend/girlfriend meets all the requirements above.

Firstly, I don't necessarily think that a person living with their parents and not having a job does not make them mature.

I live with my father and I do not have a job. However, I am a very mature person and I get told this all the time. I do not have a job at the moment but I plan on getting one in a while when I feel that I can handle it. However, I plan on living with my father for as long as possible because financially it is the best decision.

I think what makes someone mature is based more on decisions they make and what not. Not where they are at in life on a financial level or whatever else.

Some circumstances prevent people from having a job or living outside of the home but that does not mean the decisions they make are not mature and do not mean that they are not mature.

As for the whole 'providing for the baby', I agree with that to an extent. People should not have sex until they think of absolutely everything involved. What would they do it they go pregnant? But, I don't think whether or not being able to provide for the child should come into play. Instead they need to think about what actions they are going to take if it were to happen.

Basically, they need to have some type of plan in the back of their mind in case a pregnancy does occur.


Now, as for an age, I don't really think there is a set age. I think it really is based more on the person and the relationship. But, I think the older the better. I think the older a person is the more mature and the better they are at decision making.

I also think the older they are the better they will be at being able to think about the future and everything involved with having sex.

So, I guess I would say a good age would be 20+

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Generally speaking I would say 16 or 17 at THE EARLIEST.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by ~Jenna~

Firstly, I don't necessarily think that a person living with their parents and not having a job does not make them mature.

I live with my father and I do not have a job. However, I am a very mature person and I get told this all the time. I do not have a job at the moment but I plan on getting one in a while when I feel that I can handle it. However, I plan on living with my father for as long as possible because financially it is the best decision.

I think what makes someone mature is based more on decisions they make and what not. Not where they are at in life on a financial level or whatever else.

Some circumstances prevent people from having a job or living outside of the home but that does not mean the decisions they make are not mature and do not mean that they are not mature.

As for the whole 'providing for the baby', I agree with that to an extent. People should not have sex until they think of absolutely everything involved. What would they do it they go pregnant? But, I don't think whether or not being able to provide for the child should come into play. Instead they need to think about what actions they are going to take if it were to happen.

Basically, they need to have some type of plan in the back of their mind in case a pregnancy does occur.


Now, as for an age, I don't really think there is a set age. I think it really is based more on the person and the relationship. But, I think the older the better. I think the older a person is the more mature and the better they are at decision making.

I also think the older they are the better they will be at being able to think about the future and everything involved with having sex.

So, I guess I would say a good age would be 20+

I'm not saying that that people the live at home and don't have a job aren't capable of immaturity. I was more or less trying to prove a point, that at a younger teenage age, teens declare themselves mature when they really aren't. Do you get where I'm coming from?

But everything on that list, I do still enforce. I think that if someone is mature enough to have sex needs to have good circumstances for themselves and good choices.

[MegaMadness]

I think about anywhere from 16+. It really depends on the person though.

[newurule]

I would say 18. I know at the age of 16 or 17 I wasn't mature enough to have sex. That said, it will be different for each person. Some people could be mature enough earlier, others later.

[LittleMiss]

Probably 17+

But it's up to the people. Some aren't ready until they're 20.

I felt ready at 17.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

I'm not saying that that people the live at home and don't have a job aren't capable of immaturity. I was more or less trying to prove a point, that at a younger teenage age, teens declare themselves mature when they really aren't. Do you get where I'm coming from?

But everything on that list, I do still enforce. I think that if someone is mature enough to have sex needs to have good circumstances for themselves and good choices.

Ahh I see, you think I am a younger teen
I lost my virginity over 7 years ago now. As I do not regret that decision I'd say it was the right one, and yes I believe I was mature enough to make that decision. Life experiences contribute a lot towards a persons maturity as well as taking care of oneself.

[Work_In_Progress]

I don't believe guys before age 18 can bring anything to the table(or to the bed for that matter!) It would just be *push, push(for 5 minutes), ok I'm done* lol @ that Plus none of them look good naked at all!

As for girls, the youngest I've ever had sex with was 15 years old back when I was 17, so idk. She didn't bring much to the table either..

I guess my opinion would be that both for boys and girls, they should wait until they've both matured mentally and when their bodies have hit puberty and actually matured a little so it doesn't look like two toothpicks poking each other. I can have that kind of entertainment at home! *brings out two toothpicks and plays with them mindlessly*

[xxxAJxxx]

Originally Posted by Work_In_Progress

I don't believe guys before age 18 can bring anything to the table(or to the bed for that matter!) It would just be *push, push(for 5 minutes), ok I'm done* lol @ that Plus none of them look good naked at all!

As for girls, the youngest I've ever had sex with was 15 years old back when I was 17, so idk. She didn't bring much to the table either..

I guess my opinion would be that both for boys and girls, they should wait until they've both matured mentally and when their bodies have hit puberty and actually matured a little so it doesn't look like two toothpicks poking each other. I can have that kind of entertainment at home! *brings out two toothpicks and plays with them mindlessly*

xD well said... *takes out own set of toothpicks*

but disagreeing with everyone here. in meh opinion, its not the maturity that matters, its more whether youu love the person or not. so, while i dont condone 10 year olds having sex, im thinking the 16-18 time range most of you have is unrealistic.

[The Kira]

Well, doctors say that your body is physically ready at about 19-23 years old, but, come on, who is going to wait just because doctrs say so. But I personally think that rather then being physically ready it's even more important to be emotionally ready to have sex. And also you have to feel very secure about your partner. But no matter how old you are, if you do it with the right person, a person you love and respect and he/she loves and respects you, then go for it. But it's very different for everyone.

Personaly I am not ready to lose my virginity. Not because of my age, but I havn't found the right person for it. Your first time is something you will remember all your life. Make sure you dont regret it...

[Jack]

For me I was ready at 14/15. For others it might be older or younger. I don't think there is a generalised "right age for sex" for everyone but I do think that 16 is a good bar to set the legal age for it at.

[Em...]

As many have posted before, it's really dependent on how mature your body is. I had sex the first time at age 17, but I was not mature enough for it, and I count it as a flaw in my past, I should have waited until I was a bit more ready, but again it depends on the individual.

[losing touch.]

i think people take the whole virginity thing way too seriously. i don't see virginity as a big deal at all and i don't place any importance on it. so for me, having sex at an early age without being in a 'loving relationship' isn't an issue. there is no 'right' age for people to start having sex.. because everyone is different and everyone has different ideas about it. some people see sex as a huge deal which should be saved until you're in a loving relationship, etc.. where as some people don't really care about it at all.. that's just the way it is. now don't get me wrong, i wouldn't encourage 10 year olds to start having sex but i see nothing wrong with 13/14 year olds experimenting. younger teens aren't all as stupid as some people like to make out.

[Xujhan]

Originally Posted by Algernon

I'm not saying that that people the live at home and don't have a job aren't capable of immaturity. I was more or less trying to prove a point, that at a younger teenage age, teens declare themselves mature when they really aren't. Do you get where I'm coming from?

But everything on that list, I do still enforce. I think that if someone is mature enough to have sex needs to have good circumstances for themselves and good choices.

Slippery slope, Holly. You declare teenagers to be immature, but then I think many adults in their fourties would say that you and I are immature. It's a scaling scale, not a switch that magically flips on when a certain set of criteria are met.

Re the OP:

At the risk of incurring your wrath, it really does depend on the person. For me it was fourteen, and I've never had cause to regret it. For others, even twenty might be too young.

That said, if you'd like me to guess at an average over everyone, I'd wager it's in the neighborhood of 16 or so. Few people could deal with it before 14, and most can handle it by 18, so it seems a reasonable compromise.

[TheNumber42]

Originally Posted by Algernon

Here's my list that I will continually post in these threads.

1. When you can take care of a baby if you get pregnant.
2. When ALL of your normal body parts arrive.
3. When you know all you can about conception/protection for preventive pregnancy.
4. When you're mature enought to say "vagina/penis" without laughing or feeling weird.
5. When you know that swallowing or ejaculation on pants Isn't going to get your pregnant. .
6. When you're in a loving relationship for a semi-long period of time. My opinion... six months at least.
7. When your boyfriend/girlfriend meets all the requirements above.

Actually, that's one of the most sensible things Ipve seen as far as when to have sex. Can't really find any fault with it.

Though if you want a specific age, I think atleast 18-20 is best. Gives you enough time to mature and be ready to deal with sex. Younger than that, petting and stuff is fine, but I don't think sex, generally, should happen much before that.

[Xujhan]

Originally Posted by Algernon

Here's my list that I will continually post in these threads.

1. When you can take care of a baby if you get pregnant.
2. When ALL of your normal body parts arrive.
3. When you know all you can about conception/protection for preventive pregnancy.
4. When you're mature enought to say "vagina/penis" without laughing or feeling weird.
5. When you know that swallowing or ejaculation on pants Isn't going to get your pregnant. .
6. When you're in a loving relationship for a semi-long period of time. My opinion... six months at least.
7. When your boyfriend/girlfriend meets all the requirements above.

Since I find myself awake with some spare energy:

1. You don't need to be able to take care of a baby. You should be able to deal with the consequences of getting pregnant, but there are much less life-changing alternatives.

2. This could easily mean anything between 13 and 20.

3. This is sensible; it's unfortunate that the sex ed program in many school districts leaves much of this to the teenagers.

4. Many adults still laugh at a good dick joke. Many people will be embarrassed about sex all their lives, and considering our culture that should be no surprise.

5. This would seem to fall under the same heading as 3: basic sex ed.

6. This isn't necessarily wrong for everyone, but you're trying to apply a conservative ideal to everyone, and that just isn't reasonable. There are other valid reasons to and other situations in which you can have sex. Some people enjoy casual sex; some people enjoy having sex with a friend. "Serious relationships only" is certainly applicable to some people, but not to everyone.

7. Better stated: "When your partner is approaching sex with a mindset similar to or at least complimentary to your own, and who is also capable of being reasonably mature about it."

[Rhop101]

I have to agree with HollyFlet because I am more conservative I do think that people should be able to take care of themselves, but Flectcher does have a point. I also don't believe in abortions which is a political view and this sort of skews things the way I feel they should be. So I feel if you have a baby you should care for it and deal with the consequences of your mistake.

Sorry If I come across as being harsh in that respect it's just my belief.

To be honest I think most people have sex when they are like 14-15, but don't really appreciate what it is and don't really fully understand the consequences and what it can do to a person's future to have a pregnancy so young. They just think it's cool. You don't appreciate the value of sex till 17-18. Which is why my gf and I won't do it till we are in our mid 20s likely after we are engaged/married.

Though a lot of people in my dorm I know hook up with girls on a regular basis like every weekend for fun, just not me.

[Lizzie]

Once you are living on your own and are financially, emotionally and physically stable and are in a loving and committed relationship. Because sex is made to create children and that is exactly what it does, even with protection it still can happen. And you have to be prepared to either raise a child, or give it up for adoption. (Depending on where you live, abortion may not be an option, and personally I don’t think it should be an option, but that is another topic.)

[DeadlySin]

I'm still going to throw in when you're comfortable and ready =P
Since there really is not age for sex. Being there are 9 year olds having sex.

BUTTTTT
If you want an age i'd say 16 or older. =)

[Work_In_Progress]

I'll just throw in that as long as you're on TH, you're not ready.. Joking!


All right, not really joking..

[AmyIsLegit]

I say 16 and up, to be honest..

My friends are having sex, and I'm only 12(Turning 13, soon. 7th grade.)
I find it really stupid, and not right at all.
But whatever.

[Sidhe.]

Definitely no younger that sixteen, but preferably about eighteen or nineteen, in my opinion.