A deep situaution

[ThrashAttack]

I brought this up a couple of months ago, but that 19 year old Girl at the party i met (me and her had a drunken one night stand) is again on my back.

Yesterday she rang me up and told me that she is pregnent and that i MAY be the father. She sais this becouse im the only one she slept with around that time and she is dead certain on the whole thing. I personaly cant see it being me but knowing her she probabley isent liying.

I hope she is lying becouse im not ready to be a dad, yes i know some of you will tell me that its my fault and i should of as least used protection but both of us where drunk.

I really need some advice.

[Alicia.C]

Find out her due date and let me know. I can tell you around the time she conceived. To find out for sure if you are the father, they have simple DNA tests, just a swap whip in the mouth on you and baby. Other then that, there isnt too much you can do right now. You do have a choice at this very moment though. You can chose to either help her and support her through the pregnancy, or you can back away completely. That choice is yours alone. I would suggest keeping in contact with her until baby is born though, and go from there.

[ThrashAttack]

Thanks for the advice. I am a bit scared though, i guess its natural

[Alicia.C]

Definitely natural. You have no need to be scared though. You're 18 years old. My brother and sister both were 15 when they had their first babies. My sister has 2 now and my brother has 3. My sister wanted to abort her first son at 6 months pregnant. Once he was born and she saw him, she was in love. She couldnt imagine a life without him. A scared daddy means a good daddy! That means you're smart, and if you are the babys father, Im sure you will a great job at being a parent. The toughest part is finances. But, think of the other things too. Holding that baby for the first time, that tiny baby whos life is so fragile and delicate, and you're holding that life in your hands. The first time baby looks into your eyes, you'll never forget that! And then of course, theres all the milestones. I remember when my first born came, he was still pretty new and laughed in his sleep, the first time he had ever laughed. I cried! lol
Are you scared because of finances, or because you dont think you can be a good daddy?

[ThrashAttack]

Im basicly scared becouse the whole parent thing is brand new to me :P

[Alicia.C]

Well in that case, be scared. lol Anyone without a child is scared their first time, even if they were trying for a baby! My husband when Adam was born, he wouldnt put him down. lol I barely got to spend any time with him, with either of them! lol Its life changing, for sure, but its a good life change. I bet once the babys born and he or she is a few months old, all the fears you have right now will be gone and you'll be an old pro at the daddy thing.

[ThrashAttack]

Thanks for the advice. I just regret that i lost my Virginity whilst i was drunk.

[TheLittleNinja]

Originally Posted by ThrashAttack

Im basicly scared becouse the whole parent thing is brand new to me :P

The whole parent thing is new to ANY new parent. And I wholely agree with what Alicia has said, you'd make a great Dad because your worrying about it already!

[ThrashAttack]

50% of me is wishing i am the dad whilst the other half is not

But ill find out when the child is born

[Alicia.C]

A baby through losing your virginity. Weird, I did the same thing, though a little different. I wished I was drunk because it was a date rape. :/ Dont dwell on the past, things happen for a reason. That 50% of you is what will keep you in it until babys born. Thats good enough for now.
If its your baby, will your be able to work with your one night stand girl?

[ThrashAttack]

Ill be able to work with her if the child is mine

And im sorry for what happend to you

[flowerchild32273]

well if she says its yours I would believe her for now. shes got alot to deal with right now so questioning it would be stress she doesnt need. just wait until the baby is born to raise paternity questions. see what the mother wants from you for now. she might want you to just step away and let her handle it or she might want you to be more involved. i know its scary but im sure itll all work out for the best.

[Pelios]

Good Luck with this situation I really do hope it turn out how you want it to. I also wanted to throw out this that there is a method to do it while the baby is still in the women, but that is all up to her and it's risky from what I've heard.

[Markteenhelp]

Yeah like Andrea said they can do tests to find out if its your baby but their is a low chance of complications if i remember rite