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Struggling with baby fever - December 14th 2017, 01:55 AM

Hey guys, so I have a problem as of late. So I am 19 and have recently started stuggling with a big case of baby fever. Like, I really, really want to get pregnant and have a child but it's not an option for me right now. I am disabled, trying to focus on getting better, and no where near financially stable. I know I'm not ready for a child, but I can't help but feel an almost need for one. It's been getting a little better over the past week but it's still really hard sometimes. I just feel like I am obsessed with babies and sad that I can't have one right now. Does anyone have any advice as to how to get through this? Thank you!

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Re: Struggling with baby fever - December 14th 2017, 03:54 AM

I think this is very common for some people, so you definitely aren't alone. As I got older and interacted with more children, I realized that I like the idea of children and not so much actual children. I still want them, but the "fantasy" of how parenting will be has gone away somewhat. I would suggest babysitting or working with children. You'll get to take care of them and interact with them without having to support one and you'll get a realistic glimpse of what it will really be like.

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Re: Struggling with baby fever - December 15th 2017, 05:18 AM

Hey there,

I have struggled with this from time to time and it can be difficult. For me, an added difficulty has been my fear that my disabilities might prevent me from being able to ever afford children and I believe that fear has increased the 'baby fever' at times.

I agree that babysitting might help you get a glimpse. I have done babysitting periodically and it definitely has let me see that I was not ready for the full time commitment of parenting.

Another thing that I would like to point out is that I think that when we can't do something such as have a child the desire to have one increases. I have noticed that that has been something I have dealt with. I think the reason is because I know I want children but I am unable too and, once again, the fear and concern kicks in and I get that fever.

I think something else that can help is to focus on the things that you need to be able to have a child. For example, I am currently focusing on getting a job because I know that making more money and having a job with benefits would be great for having a child. Your situation is probably different than mine so it is likely that what you need to be able to have a child will be different. However, I can say that the closer I get to accomplishing a job the better I am at realizing that I will be able to have a child soon enough, if I want.

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