Support would be nice..

[misconception]

I dont want to get into the politics of this issue. I know some wont agree.

Im pregnant, only 3 weeks. and Im getting an abortion.

I feel bad about it, but I cant have a kid yet, my lifestyle and situation I would be bringing it into wouldnt be ideal for either of us, or the father.

[rhapsody]

Its your choice and if its what you have decided then i think its the right one. Good luck, I know it can be a difficult experience for lots of women. 3 weeks is very early on in the pregnancy though so hopefully it won't be too traumatic. Have you booked an appointment or have you only just made the decision to have the abortion? Do you have someone to go with you?

[misconception]

I only found out about two or three days ago, and I know it sounds like a rushed decision, but Ive talked to the Dad, and my parents, and I think its best for me. I have an appointment for family planning tomorrow before my radio show, and then In a week Im heading to get it done, the dad will be going with me.

When I say Dad, I mean current boyfriend.

[rhapsody]

It doesn't sound like a rushed decision at all. In fact, I think it is really good that you were able to make this decision so early on in the pregnancy because it will make the whole process a lot easier as it won't be so invasive. I'm glad your boyfriend is being so supportive. How are you both feeling about it?

[thebigmole]

I think it's great that you talked to your parents, and it seems that they are supporting you which is also great. You also seem very confident in your decision, which is another plus. I've never been in your situation so I certainly can't speak from that point of view, but since you are so secure and the father is also supportive I believe that you will make it through this fine.

[bitesize]

Love that's fine. It's your decision, and your body and your life. It sounds as though you've though this through and that it's the best thing to do. I would be in the same position really. Don't let anyone judge you on doing what's best for you. I hope everything goes ok.xx

[misconception]

Hey, thanks ae, your comments are making me feel better about my choice.

Were a little shocked, but I think that is mostly because I was told I wouldnt be able to have kids (I had a cyst taken off an overy and they messed it up compleatly.)

I have more support on this then I thought I would, I mean I even told my tutor (Because I was ment to be doing my on-air radio show assessment, and Im still not in a fantastic headspace about it) And Im heading around there tomorrow night for dinner with him, and his wife, for someone to talk to and more support because most of my family lives a three hour flight away.

I have an appointment with family planning on Tuesday, at 1.30, and I will be getting a scan, and a referal to the hospital for the procedure. If Mum isnt too busy, she will fly up to go there with me, which would be good.

Ill let you all know how it goes.
Thanks again

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Do what you think is best for you. I'm glad you have the support network around you as so many girls dont seem to when they are in this position. I hope everything goes ok for you
take care
x

[Ryan1]

I wish you all the best through your treatment and I hope everything goes okay. In my personal opinion I think abortion is a necessary evil in same cases.

Please take this as a lesson learned don't fool around unless you've got protection in place.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Please take this as a lesson learned don't fool around unless you've got protection in place.

She said just before that she'd been told she would never have kids. I personally don't know anyone who would spend money on extra contraception if they were already infertile, do you? Her doctors screwed up here, not her.


Sonic, I'm so glad that you have some much support for your decision. A lot of girls don't receive any, and I think that's a shame. I hope that everything goes well for you.

[Elfs Mummy]

I think you've made one of the toughest decisions you will ever make, and im really glad that you have made a decision that is right for you. Good luck with everything and i hope everything turns out ok xx

[Alicia.C]

Just curious, but how do you think you're only 3 weeks? If you weren't trying to have a baby, you wouldn't test until your period is due which is at 4 weeks.
Regardless, 3 weeks, the baby's heart isn't beating yet, get it done now if you're going to. I hate abortion, but, it's your choice. Like I said, the heart isn't beating yet, do what you need to do.

[thebigmole]

Originally Posted by Alicia.C

Just curious, but how do you think you're only 3 weeks? If you weren't trying to have a baby, you wouldn't test until your period is due which is at 4 weeks.
Regardless, 3 weeks, the baby's heart isn't beating yet, get it done now if you're going to. I hate abortion, but, it's your choice. Like I said, the heart isn't beating yet, do what you need to do.

Her doctor would have told her how far along she is. And you are assuming that the baby was conceived right after her period. It could have been conceived right before it was supposed to start.

[misconception]

Sorry for the late reply, i have been in hospital for abdo pain, it looks like Im loosing it anyway at the moment, I need to head back there when I get a ride.

I wish you all the best through your treatment and I hope everything goes okay. In my personal opinion I think abortion is a necessary evil in same cases.

Please take this as a lesson learned don't fool around unless you've got protection in place.

I agree, but in my situation bringing this into the world would not be good for either of us. And as it has been said, I was told i wasnt able to have kids, if I had known there was a chance, I would have used protection, hands down.

Just curious, but how do you think you're only 3 weeks? If you weren't trying to have a baby, you wouldn't test until your period is due which is at 4 weeks.

I have had blood tests done, and scans, and the doctor says I am now 4-5 weeks. Im just going by what they are saying, As I am not a medical professional yet.

thanks all for the support, my appointment is 30th September, that is the earliest they can get me in, Like it has been said, alot of girls dont get this support. Thank you.

[Alicia.C]

Originally Posted by thebigmole

Her doctor would have told her how far along she is. And you are assuming that the baby was conceived right after her period. It could have been conceived right before it was supposed to start.

Actually, a woman who has an average 28 day cycle will ovulate around cycle day 14. The egg only last a couple days. My husband and I tried to have a baby for 6 years, 3.5 of that was unexplained infertility after multiple miscarriages. The chance of a positive pregnancy test around cycle day 21 is very uncommon concidering that is around the time the baby would implant into the uterine wall. At 3 weeks, your period is not due yet for another week.

[Alicia.C]

Originally Posted by misconception

I have had blood tests done, and scans, and the doctor says I am now 4-5 weeks. Im just going by what they are saying, As I am not a medical professional yet.

thanks all for the support, my appointment is 30th September, that is the earliest they can get me in, Like it has been said, alot of girls dont get this support. Thank you.

Regardless, I wish you all the best and hope the abdominal pain subsides soon. I often hear most first pregnancies end in miscarriage. Take it easy and rest a lot.