I think my friend has had an abortion

[makeitorbreakit]

Recently my friend has been acting really differently and having really extreme moods. Either really happy and jumpy or really quiet and depressed. in the past she's had problems and gone to see a Councillor but she hasn't been for a while now. She also has only ever had 1 serious relationship and from that has really bad trust issues with boys. She's been seeing a really nice guy who is a good friend for a few months now and she in my opinion has really high expectations of him and wants him to be constantly telling her how much he loves her.
Anyway she's been telling me and our other friend how he isn't talking to her now he is on holiday and how he talks to other people online but doesnt think about emailing her and she is getting really depressed over these small things.
I was really worried and know her facebook password so stupidly logged on and checked her inbox and in it i found a conversation between her and her boyfriend in which she was having a go at him for not caring about the abortion.
He is such a nice guy and I find it really difficult even though shes my best friend understanding that he is in the wrong here. I'm really worried about her for going through an abortion without her friends or anyones support or I have this weird feeling she may not have even had one and is just trying to get his attention. I haven't told anyone about this as I am really ashamed to have gone on her facebook but I don't know what else to do....
Please help!!

[Le bonheur*]

If you're worried about her, try to get her to talk to you but don't make it obvious that you went through her Facebook. Which was an invasion of privacy and totally wrong... but that's besides the point. If she didn't want anyone to know, then that's HER choice. And I don't think someone would make up getting an abortion for attention, but if she did, then let her do that. It's her life and you can only be there to support her if she wants you to.

[escape_thereal_world]

Even if she is lying about it to get attention...then I think she really needs her friends support either way. Agreed, don't make it obvious you read it but just remind her as much as possible that you are there for her if she ever needs anything.

Let her know you've noticed she's been acting differently, or you've noticed how depressed she is and tell her you are there for her and care. Just the simplest "hey, I care about you" can change so much.

Welcome to TeenHelp by the way

[chook14]

Just tell her that you've noticed she's been pretty down lately and ask if there's anything she wants to talk to you about. Just make sure she knows that you're there for her if she needs you. If she chooses not to talk to you about it, then that's her deicision, and at least you know you did your best. Now that you know about what's happening it'll probably make you curious to find out more...try and refrain from logging into your friends facebook though. Even if you want to help her, what's happening is between her and her boyfriend, unless she chooses to bring you in the loop.