Female Advice Preferred: Is it so wrong for a guy to like cute stuff?

[Teddy Bear]

I'm a perfectly straight guy, but I kinda like a few things girls like. Stuff like cute things, hugs, cuddling, romance, and the dream of marriage. Now that's not to say I don't like guy stuff, like guns and video games (although not at the same time). As for guns, I don't like killing, just the raw power. Am I wrong for liking that stuff and being straight, or is that sweet?

[mIssIng:nO]

its not really either, cute stuff is cute

[DarkSeph]

Hugs, cuddles, romance and marriage aren't "cute stuff". Not all guys are all about guns and video games. Don't worry, it's perfectly normal.

[Invert]

A lot of straight guys do like cuddles, kisses and romance too. And a lot of gay guys don't.

I suppose straight men are just less likely to admit to it, particularly to their guy friends, sometimes, incase they are seen as less manly.

And a lot of guys aren't into actual killing. Maybe in video games, but only cause it shows they are good at games where killing is the focus It's more of a 'look how good I am' thing, than a 'oh yay killing!'

Its all about individual differences, not your sexuality.

EDIT: Oh, and many straight girls will love the fact you like romance

[Awakening]

I dont see anything wrong with it. I think its kind of cute when guys arent trying to be all manly all the time.

[Soliloquy]

Absolutely not! You shouldn't allow the stereotypical view of your sexuality dictate what you can and can't like. There is nothing wrong with liking girly stuff. In my eyes, it's the same as a girl being into more boy things. It doesn't automatically make her a lesbian because she dresses more masculine. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. Just like not all lesbians fit the "butch" stereotype, and like not all gay guys fit the "flamboyant, ostentatious" stereotype.

Basically, there will be people from every sexuality who do fit these and there will be those who do not. It's about individual preference more than anything. Your sexuality doesn't make you who you are, so don't try to limit yourself by living according to stereotypes. They don't apply to everybody in the end.

[Two Propanol]

Originally Posted by Lost Hope

I'm a perfectly straight guy, but I kinda like a few things girls like. Stuff like cute things, hugs, cuddling, romance, and the dream of marriage. Now that's not to say I don't like guy stuff, like guns and video games (although not at the same time). As for guns, I don't like killing, just the raw power. Am I wrong for liking that stuff and being straight, or is that sweet?

I'm in your boat, brah. Don't worry about it. As for the guns thing, however, I'm a fan of stuff like MW2, but in real life they're just fun to target shoot. If that's what you mean, then I'm exactly the same way.

[Geb12596]

There is nothing wrong with it at all. It's sweet. And a lot of girls will admire, respect, and like you for it. I hope you embrace this an find someone to live a long and happy life with.

[FlowerKiss]

I think liking cute things is not bad at all, it gives you a insight on what girls like while men are just clueless

[itsmekt]

I think it's super sweet. I personally love it when a guy likes romance and cuddling and actually values marriage. I guess these are more commonly seen as girl traits but i definitely look for things like that in a guy and I think a lot of girls will respect and like you for it.

[Concrete Angel]

I would never think that it was gay! I think it's just adorably sweet for a guy to have such a think in common with a girl...it definitely does prevent alot of conflict in the future huh? (;
But, on a serious note, I'd have utmost respect for a guy who can admit that he isn't all macho and does have a softer side to him (even if you want to call the soft side a 'girlie' side!!)
It's definitely NOT gay!

[MegaMadness]

It's not wrong. In fact many girls think it great.

[bitesize]

I know looooads of straight guys into that kinda schtuff. Doesn't mean a thang. (:

[Teddy Bear]

So just as some girls can be tomboys, I guess I'm kinda like a tomgirl, huh?

[Markteenhelp]

What you described is whats involved with love and no its not wrong to like love or the things that come with it

[Invert]

to be honest, you didnt name any actually girly interests you are into.... All that implied was you are a romantic Tomboy's are into boy's things, like play.

Romantic interests are not actually girly. And Most men are not into actually killing people/things....

[Tynan]

Originally Posted by Lost Hope

I'm a perfectly straight guy, but I kinda like a few things girls like. Stuff like cute things, hugs, cuddling, romance, and the dream of marriage. Now that's not to say I don't like guy stuff, like guns and video games (although not at the same time). As for guns, I don't like killing, just the raw power. Am I wrong for liking that stuff and being straight, or is that sweet?

Dude i wouldnt worry to much about this, sure im not the biggest fan of marriage atm, but i love hugs and cuddling, and im straight, its cool too like what you like, dont worry about what people would think on it, plus most girls like it when guys are like that.

[Teddy Bear]

Originally Posted by Invert

to be honest, you didnt name any actually girly interests you are into....

What about cute stuff?

[Invert]

Cute stuff like what, you didn't name any Cuddles and kisses comes under romance

But boys do like 'cute' stuff. Ever heard the term metrosexual?

[Tara.]

When you said cute stuff, I was expecting ruffles and ribbons.

It's normal. It's romantic. Most girls would like you even more after knowing that.

[sturmeskind]

Hi there!

It's perfectly alright for you to like what you call "cute stuff". "girl stuff" is generally stuff that society expects the average girl to like, as "boy stuff" is stuff that society expects boys to like. It says at first *nothing* about an individual person's preferences or the stuff itself, but rather on the gender roles constructed in culture and society. To give an example: pink is considered a "girl" colour in most of america and europe. That does absolutely not mean that boys can't like pink or that it's wrong of them to do so, but rather that pink is established in the western culture as a symbol for "female". I personally don't like pink at all, while a few male friends of mine own several bright pink shirts.

To get to the point: Don't let society decide what you like!

[sirjan xerdaj]

I'm sure they don't mind. Girls thought it was cute when my car interior was hello kitty.

[MisplacedDreamer]

I think most girls would be okay with it, even the very traditionally termed "girly stuff."

As for the stuff you listed, it's very cute and I knew a guy who was into the stereotypical guy stuff like martial arts, swords, dart guns, real guns, and he was training to be a police officer but he was in love with Twilight and the Notebook. His favorite movie was Twilight and he read all the books. I pissed him off by analyzing Twilight and picking it apart. "OMG! He's sitting outside her window watching her sleep? Stalker!"

[VampirePrincess]

Wouldn't you think it was pretty awesome if you met a girl that was into guy stuff? Someone that could play all your violent video games with you (just not beat you at them all the time, haha)? Well, girls think it's pretty awesome when they meet a guy that likes some of the things that they do, too So there's certainly nothing wrong with it.

Things in the romance department that you mentioned, that's all personal preference, and there really isn't anything girly about it. As for cute stuff, most of that isn't all the girly, either. Something pink or something with lace or that's frilly is girly. Anything else, I wouldn't consider it to be.

[Vint Fall]

nothing wrong with liking cute stuff,it makes you a more sensitive and kind of romantic guy actually. its not my guy type though.

still,its normal. many girls like sensitive cute guys. they actually understand them more.

[xxpaigiexx]

There's nothing wrong whatsoever with liking things that are considered 'girly' or 'cute' it's just all stereotype. Liking things that some girls may like does not make you gay or does not make you seem gay.
You still like guys stuff so I doubt anyone is going to think you're gay or even camp for being into some things that maybe some guys your age like.
You sound pretty mature for your age so eventually the other guys will catch up, but it will probably take them a while, but girls dig that kind of thing any way, so you're ahead already!!

[xbatmanx37]

That is sweet and absolutely amazing. You are probably just more mature than most guys at your age. As guys become older, these things tend to become more important. I think it is amazing that you can stand by this and girls will love it!

[MichWolverineFreak]

Dude thats fine, Im the exact same way. Goddamn, if only I had someone to cuddle with...

[Ghost On The Highway]

It's not weird or "gay" at all. In fact, a lot of the gay guys I used to hang out with were completely uninterested in romance, cuddling, etc -- to a fault.

[Fanatic]

No, there's nothing wrong with acting like that. Most girls love that in fact. I've acutally asked some of my friends that are girls and they said they like guys like that. I'm a tomboy, so why can't you be like that? (: All that cuddling, and romance stuff is just love. It doesn't deal with liking cute stuff.

[MadPoet]

Some girls like guys who are into romance and stuff, and some don't. It just depends on the person. I definitely don't think there's anything wrong with it. No one said you have to be super manly. And for that matter just because you like romantic stuff doesn't mean you aren't manly.

If you mean cute stuff as in watching chick flicks and going shopping my answer might be different though.

[Rainbow Dash]

Of course there's nothing wrong with it. You don't have to be a complete stereotypical male. My female friend loves football and is completely straight.

[Teddy Bear]

Originally Posted by Hurricane

If you mean cute stuff as in watching chick flicks and going shopping my answer might be different though.

I absolutely dread shopping, but I do actually like watching chick flicks sometimes, like Air. But I don't know whether it's actually romantic movies altogether, or romantic anime. But I mean cute stuff as in small kittens and puppies and stuff like that.

[Skeleton]

There isn't anything wrong with it at all. We all like different things and it doesn't change your sexuality at all. I bet some girls will find it really cute that you do like that stuff.

[Invert]

Originally Posted by Hurricane

If you mean cute stuff as in watching chick flicks and going shopping my answer might be different though.

My brother is very manly, and he owes dozens of chick flicks, and enjoys them, and watches them with people, and on his own. But he is very manly.

Many gay men will detest chick flicks, and shopping.

[ThePunkAlien]

Dude, all the stuff you're naming is guy and girl stuff. Romance? Wanting to get married? I went to an all guy's high school - there were times, believe it or not, when we talked about dreams of the future of getting married and having a family. Liking animals? That's just human. It's all "guy stuff" or "human stuff." If you say 'animated movies' that girls think are cute... let's say Shrek for example - you'd be hard-pressed to find that many guys who don't like it. Purely chick flicks, that would be girl stuff - but seems you're not really listing any that would be. Basically your human.

[Teddy Bear]

Well, when I do watch chick flicks, I do get kinda sad that the guy always gets the perfect girl, usually during high school. I get kinda lonely watching those movies because I always wish that I could have a girl to hug and kiss that loves me back. I'll never meet the perfect girl because the perfect girl for me has a sweet innocence, and by the time girls start liking me, they'll have lost that innocence, and then I'll truly have no one.

[Berries and Cream]

Don't say that you will have on one. You have two hearts, but the other heart is left for you to find (from a quote haha) Just be patient and it will go a long way! Don't lose hope, just believe in yourself.

[ChaosControl]

Different people find different things sweet. I don't think you have to worry about it. If you're straight, you're straight - liking hugs and kisses isn't "wrong" in a person of any sexual orientation. Just be yourself

[Illuminate]

Hey Ian

I wouldn't worry about it! You are who you are right?
Most guys just don't like admitting they like cute stuff, or that they are into romance... I think you'll find your soft side is just closer to the surface than most guys' ... It's not a bad thing Infact girls love it ..

And you know what, when that girl does come your way, she'll be a lucky girl
you know why? because she'll be able to relate to you and talk to you...

Chin-up dear (: