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Coming out to 9 suite mates... -
September 5th 2010, 04:19 AM
Hey guys! I hope everyone is well.
So I started college about two weeks ago and I really like it. I'm in a suite with 9 other girls and we all get along surprisingly well, but there's one problem. For the past five years I lived an openly gay life with my family and friends. I was friends with those who accepted it, and ignored the ones who didn't. But now I'm living with nine other people in a Catholic college where I don't know anyone. (Although the college is Catholic, its still very diverse and accepting of people's differences) I'm 90% sure that two of the girls would be okay with it, however I also know that I'll be treated differently if I did come out. The differences of how I'm treated are subtle but noticeable. Right now they're okay with sitting close to me or changing in front of me and just general stuff like that. And it's not like I want to watch or that I'm attracted to them, but I know that if I told them I'm gay they'd feel uncomfortable around me. I know I have to come out eventually, but I wanted them to get to know me for me first to avoid any prejudice based on my sexuality. Should I wait a little longer? And if I do tell some or all of them, how should I even go about it? Help? 
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Re: Coming out to 9 suite mates... -
September 5th 2010, 10:05 PM
Because there's 9 of them, I think telling all of them at once might be a bit overwhelming for you. If you feel closer to one or two of them, speak to them privately and just tell them the situation. That you are gay, and have been living an openly gay life for many years, and you'd like that to continue. Find out how they feel about it, and just say that you hope it doesn't change anything between all of you and your living situation. And then when you feel ready, you can tell the rest of them.
I know it's a big scary thing, but you shouldn't have to hide or hold back your lifestyle. And if any of them don't like it, you can just ignore how they feel, like you do with other people anyway. I don't think it'll be as bad as you're anticipating. And you won't ever know until you do it. I hope things go okay. Feel free to speak to me some more if you'd like. Good luck! |
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Re: Coming out to 9 suite mates... -
September 6th 2010, 05:29 PM
Hey! Thanks for replying.
I suppose I'll tell one or two of the, I just hope I'm not treated any differently. It will especially be hard to ignore any of them if they have a problem with it seeing as I live with them :/ Hopefully I'm worrying for nothing! Thanks again for your help 
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