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I finally left - August 4th 2019, 11:04 PM

I posted back in November about a really dangerous relationship I was in... I was finally able to get out. It took a lot of planning, a lot of making sure I'd be able to take care of my health needs. But in the end, I was able to leave.... one of his friends that came over had left their phone and planned to come back the next morning to get it (again we lived in a pretty rural area, I believe our nearest gas station was a 30 min drive). Overnight while my ex was asleep I was able to gain access to the phone and leave with police involvement.

And while I'm glad to be out, I feel a lot safer at the shelter I'm in... I can't help but miss him. And it weighs on me a lot. I feel guilty for calling the police, for pressing charges. The cops considered it to be unlawful imprisonment because I essentially had no way to escape. IDK. I just wish that it could have happened in a more peaceful way.

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Re: I finally left - August 5th 2019, 11:31 AM

I'm so glad to hear that you are out of the dangerous relationship and that you are in a safer place now

You were very courageous to get away and get the police involved. Though it makes sense you would still miss him and feel guilty about the police. Many people in abusive relationships feel emotionally attached or dependent on the abusive partner and when leaving, may feel guilty, more so when you have the police involved. However, your ex is the one that should feel guilty for the way that he treated you and he only has himself to blame.

It seems like you are going through a lot, emotionally. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Have you been offered counselling or other emotional support? It seems like you could do with someone to talk to about how you feel in a trusted and safe way.

Take care. Better days are ahead

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Re: I finally left - August 6th 2019, 10:17 AM

Hi there,

It sounds like such a relief that you've left. You should not feel guilty for what you have done but really proud of yourself. I can't imagine how hard it would of have been for you but you did a great job.

If there is anything, please feel free to message me.

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Re: I finally left - August 11th 2019, 09:54 AM


You should be very proud of yourself for managing to get out of a dangerous relationship.

It is a huge relief knowing that you are safe.

If you need to talk you can PM me any time.
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Re: I finally left - August 12th 2019, 05:43 PM

Hey, Brianna,

I'm so glad to hear that you were able to get yourself out of that situation. It's completely understandable that you would have mixed feelings about the whole thing, but I hope you know that it was extremely brave of you to call the police like that. You have so much courage and I'm so relieved to hear that you're in a safe place now.

Please keep us posted.

All the best,
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