Would you attempt a long distance relationship in these circumstances?

[Sthinkie]

We are both in our twenties and we have been dating each other for a little over 4 months. I just found out that for grad school I will be moving ~200 miles away. I will be in that city for 4 years. The guy I am dating will be stuck in our current city for 2 more years due to his grad school. By the time I move to the other city, we will have been dating a total of 7 months.

With those basic facts, would you attempt a long distance relationship if you were in our positions and really cared about each other? Or would you just end it?

[Brandon]

If I really cared about someone and I moved away, I would end it for that very reason. If I cared about someone, I would want to provide and receive comfort from my significant other. If she's not there, then I'd only be prolonging the inevitable. Because if my girlfriend realizes that she's not getting any physical contact, it could drive her to becoming upset and that could lead to different things. Cheating, depression, wanting to "take a break," etc. Unless you're willing to travel 200 miles every weekend or so, I think your best option is to break up as it will make things easier in the long run. If you don't, then you'll potentially dig yourself into a hole and make things worse. If you're willing to take that risk, then that's good. However, you have to acknowledge that long distance relationships take a lot of dedication. You and her may care about each other, but it's a totally different ball game now and therefore things must be overcome.

[PSY]

My relationship became long-distance after a month of dating. There were some key differences, though. First, we were only 100 miles away from each other, not 200. Second, we weren't in graduate school (he was a freshman in undergrad, I was a senior in high school), so while we couldn't visit each other often for financial reasons, we WERE able to find the time because our schedules weren't packed with graduate school level work. Third, since we had only been dating for a month, we didn't really have any expectations for our relationship.

With all of that being said... we ended up dating each other for over four years, and while the long-distance relationship was challenging, we did not regret our decision to stay together and see "where things went from there". We started off by visiting each other every 4-6 weeks, and as we became closer over the years, we made it a point to see each other every 2-3 weeks. So really, I think it depends on the individual people and their circumstances. Maybe you can make it work, maybe you can't.

[SamMarie]

It's going to take a lot of struggles, but that's what life is all about. Long distant relationships are probably best to leave them be until the circumstances are okay. However, nobody can really say, but you. Feelings can change throughout that distant time and that's inevitable fact. I wouldn't recommend it, since I was once in a distant relationship, and part of our break was because of the distance itself.

[Nicole!]

Hey there,

This is a tough decision. If you two really like each other and are willing to make some sacrifices, then I say go for it! Long distance relationships can be tough, but you can do it if you put the effort in. They aren't as stable as normal relationships, but if you can make it through this, you two can make it through anything.