Break-up, loss of appetite.

[Thatguy083]

So my ex and I just broke up, and I'm now going back to Texas to get out of here and to essentially start over again. I've had very stressful days the last 4-5 days and I've lost my appetite, I can't eat anything. I can eat some things but then I can't finish it.

The break up has been hard because I cared about her and loved her and she just kind of lost interest, so it's a little difficult for me. I'm not sure how easy it's going to be to move on. I won't be able to leave for Texas until next weekend and I'm still having trouble eating anything in the first place. I don't want to make myself sick because of this and the stress I've gone through. I'm not sure what to do about my loss of appetite or the moving on part of this break up.

I'm one of those people who doesn't like being alone, I find it very hard to make friends on my own let alone get into a relationship. I feel like people just don't like me, therefore they won't talk to me or enjoy being around me. I know it's a bad mentality to have but it's never been any different for me.

Any help would be appreciated about either or both problems, I don't have experience with either of them, this is my first break up.

[Aletheia*]

I'm sorry to hear about your break up. Break up's are never easy, so it's understandable why you're stressed out and you've lost your appetite.

Getting over the relationship: Moving to Texas will essentially help you move on from this. I know this sounds cliche, but it's true: Time really does heal everything. With the move, and the time and distance between the two of you, you'll be able to make a fresh start without any problems. Another helpful tip is to end contact with her: no phone calls, no text messages, no Facebook messages, no Skyping. No contact whatsoever. With no contact, you'll be able to move on and heal yourself completely without all the stress of remaining in contact with her.

Loss of appetite: I'm not sure what you should do for this other than to continue to try eating as much as you can. Over time, and when the stress goes away, your appetite will come back. If it doesn't, I would consider going to your doctor to figure out if there is some underlying issue that's causing you to have a loss of appetite.

Making new friends: Having a fresh start means that likely, nobody knows who you are, and you can make a great first impression amongst people. The mentality you have is a bad one, since likely, these people don't know you enough to dislike you. Never assume that someone doesn't. You're a very likable person, and you shouldn't just assume that everyone you meet dislikes you. When you move, and are trying to make new friends, start with co-workers at a job you get. Get to know them, invite them to hang out outside of office/store hours. I did this with many of my co-workers, and they are now life-long friends, though I no longer work with them.

I hope this helped, and good luck.

[Thatguy083]

I'm hoping that moving to Texas will help with the moving on but I can't leave until next week. I wish I could leave now.

Today is Thanksgiving and I can't even eat with everyone because I have no appetite and I'm had a shitty past few days, also my ex is here with the 2 friends who no longer like me either. So I'm having to stay in the room while everyone else gets to eat and have a good time.

And I know there are ways to go about making new friends but I have such low self esteem and self confidence in myself at this point that I don't even think I could approach another person.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Thatguy083

I'm hoping that moving to Texas will help with the moving on but I can't leave until next week. I wish I could leave now.

It will help. Not seeing her all the time and not talking to her really does help with getting over her. Out of sight, out of mind.

Originally Posted by Thatguy083

Today is Thanksgiving and I can't even eat with everyone because I have no appetite and I'm had a shitty past few days, also my ex is here with the 2 friends who no longer like me either. So I'm having to stay in the room while everyone else gets to eat and have a good time.

Don't let her ruin your holiday. Just try to ignore her and go have yourself a good time. Talk to other people and show her that you are alright without her.

Originally Posted by Thatguy083

And I know there are ways to go about making new friends but I have such low self esteem and self confidence in myself at this point that I don't even think I could approach another person.

Try looking into the mirror and finding 3 things that you like about yourself. Just because she lost interest in you doesn't mean that you aren't a great person, remember that she did have feelings for you once. Sometimes people just grow apart.

[Thatguy083]

Well for the next week until I leave I most likely won't see her anyway, she's been at the friends house I mentioned earlier. They came here for Thanksgiving and whatnot, it made me uncomfortable. I really did want to eat and put something else in my mind other than all this stress but having them here just made it worse, I had like 2 pieces of Turkey in the room.

They're gone now so it's starting to get better, I'm gonna try and eat some dinner tonight. Now I just have to focus on getting through my last week of work before I leave and getting some extra cash before I'm gone.