Breakup, advice on moving on.

[fransh]

So I've been posting some stuff about me and my gf having some trouble, and it ended up in a breakup. Our relationship didn't really last that long, for about 1 month and two weeks.

My girlfriend told me her feelings for me got less and less, and it had been going on for two weeks, now I told her that if her feelings for me were nothing more then for some good friend we'd be better off to break up. I was pretty sad at the moment, but then a day later she talked about some stuff like: 'I think about our first date alot, I want to go back'. But she also says 'I wish I could just turn a button at my heart and love you again'. She wants to love me, but can't, somehow. It's not that I didn't show I loved her, I always did.

Now we decided not to wait wheter these feelings return, and I feel terrible because now she's talking with a friend:

Friend: Your thingy ain't coming
My no longer gf: I know, he has another party
Friend: Ah too bad.
My no longer gf: Yes too bad

So idk but I pretty much think she left me for another boy? I think I know this boy, it has happened once before that she crossed the line a little with him while we were still in a pretty healthy relationship..

She told me that another reason why she left me was that she changed too much, just for me, to be less cheery, so she wouldn't cross the line, but she told me it was NOT because of another boy, and I feel pretty bad after I've read that conversation

It's that I feel jealous, but I need to know so I can move on, I need to know if its another boy..

Help please?
Thanks (:

[Aletheia*]

The only way to find out if another person has come into her life is to ask her about it. If she doesn't want to tell you the truth, she isn't going too. But, you should ask her to tell you the truth so you'll be able to move on. There is no way for me to tell you if she's seeing someone else since I don't know her.

[Chris.]

I agree with Shannon.

On another note, I think that you know whats best - which is to move on. Unfortunately people do loose feelings for each other - and then we move on and find someone who will love and care for us just as much as we love and care for them. Be happy for the experience of how relationships sometimes are - take in the lesson, and then move on and apply that lesson to other relationships which will end up bettering yourself.

As far as the friendship goes, I am a big fan of cutting all ties because many relationships that go into friendships never last. In this care, it may last, but I think you will get very upset when you hear about her dating others, or when you see it on facebook or something. So, to be honest, it may be best to cut all ties with her so you can move on to better things.


Best wishes,
Chris

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey,

Sometimes relationships are just not going to work, as much as we would like them to. It's easy to keep going over things in our heads and over-analysing the situation. If she has told you it has nothing to do with another guy I would just take her word for it, at least for the time being, otherwise you're just going to end up driving yourself insane.

Unfortunately if she has left you for someone else, yes it's hurtful but she has ended the relationship rather than stringing you along... so you have to credit her there.

I think you need to spend some time with friends and just do things that make you happy. You just need some time for you right now.

I wish you the best of luck,
Paige

[sandrahogg]

you need some good tips on break up because people generally dont

know how to do break up and it may heart you as well as your

partner with whom you are doing break up. There is way to do

break up so you need to have some break up tips for this

[heather_tate19]

If you really think you can take her telling you that there is another guy (whether there is or not) then I would ask.

otherwise for moving on: my recommendation is to make yourself REALLY busy. Dedicate yourself to your schoolwork/job/an activity you love/etc. just get REALLY busy doing something you love or something you want to improve on.